To ask you what to do about this entitled email whilst I'm on holiday?

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I have misguidedly read a work email whilst on holiday abroad in Spain with my kids. I'm really riled about the entitled tone of the email. It's from a male colleague (surprise surprise) saying I know you are away (on pre approved annual leave) but some process has not been carried out to his liking in my absence so he's letting me know how 'it ought to be carried out' for next year. AIBU to be absolutely raging about his sense of entitlement? Part of me wants to slap him back with a reply, but the other part of me thinks, fuck it, I'm on holiday with my kids, so fuck the fuck off.... AIBU?

Don’t understand did you do it wrong before you went? If not I would ignore him.
Maybe just maybe he sent it whilst he was thinking of it so he didn’t forget.

Is it possible he wrote the email to get it done but doesn’t expect you to look at it until you get back?

Definitely ignore til you are back at work. Put it out of your head.

Is he even senior to you?

Slightly tricky - he’s not asking you to do anything, and he probably thought you weren’t checking emails on holiday, so I expect he sent it while it was fresh in his mind. It’s not good that there was a snotty tone to the email, but I don’t think it is necessarily entitled.

Don’t reply - it will only mean you keep checking emails and stressing! Forget about work and enjoy your holiday, everything else can wait til you are back.

1. don't read work emails on holiday
2. his tone sounds more 'while I remember'
3. ignore it till this time next year
4. DO NOT RESPOND DURING HOL

A change was made in my absence which necessitated some people being added to have access to a new part of the intranet and he had to ask the secretary to do it (heaven forbid) where as he feels it should automatically have happened (perhaps the magic fairy pixies adding him) whilst I am away. Its really a pointless, moany email.

Ignore ignore ignore. Anything you send now will reflect your disdain with the email and once you're back from holiday, you may feel differently. I never respond to anything when I'm angry.

Delete it and only bother about it if he raises it again.

You logged in to work emails. Of course there will be work related stuff in there.

I send people stuff while they are on A/L all the time. I'll never remember if I wait until they get back.

Your choice to look.

Switch it off and Enjoy your hols!

OK thanks all. I will take your advice. I'm having a tricky time on holidays with my kids fighting and playing up and this was the last straw for me.... Any ideas how to keep 3 year old and 7 year old occupied??

Ignore/delete - it's work, who cares? Some twat, whevs- not important

Entertaining a 3 and 7 yo. How much mess can you handle?! Mine loved making pastry at those ages.

what a DICK.. what would HIS response be if you did the same to him whilst he was on a family holiday ? take your response from this.

Oh you're in Spain oops

Sand and water are always good

Otherwise food, ice cream, Spanish I spy

We always used to play lookie likey on holidays. Best one was in Italy DH saw an old woman who looked exactly like the slug woman Roz from Monsters Inc

1. Ignore
2. Water play outside

I’m failing to see the entitlement here. He’s not asking for anything so what exactly is it that he’s supposed to be entitled to?

‘Completely raging’ is overkill.

You were the one to check your emails on holiday. It could have waited until you were back.

Now go get a cocktail and enjoy your holiday

You were indeed misguided. Note to self: don’t check work emails on holiday.

Who did he copy in on the email?

Why "male colleague (surprise surprise)" ?

The tone in emails can often sound worse than what it was intended. I would say try and imagine this colleague saying it and maybe you will think actually he probably didn't mean to say it in the way it sounded to you.

If you still think he meant it in the entitled way you describe then just think ckuf it! I don't care. It's not important. Life is too short to worry about work politics. None of it matters. Try and enjoy your holiday with your kids and don't engage in work communication.

1. Ignore! Until you get back
2. Chat to him, nicely, ask him how he thinks it actually could be put in action - does he know some software that could do that? could he write the appropriate software? How could there be a check to make sure that no-one abused the access? Maybe some security needs adding? Does he know fo any? Could he research some? Write some software to cover that?

In other words, get him to see how this is actually the quickest, easiest way and he's just being an arse who knows nothing, and definitely leave him thinking about how much extra work HE would need to do to change the system.

Don't read work emails on holiday. Look at it with "work eyes" when you get back.

He acknowledged you were away so clearly didn’t expect you to read or respond.

Not sure what is entitled about it?

Don’t look at the emails again!

@BumbleBeee69 Are you being sarcastic? The OP chose to login to her emails, there was no expectation from the sender that she reply during her break, hence him acknowledging that he knows she is away.

Hes done nowt wrong at all

Youve caused your own problem by checking your email

How is he being entitled?