DS 11 loses EVERYTHING

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Bought DS some new football gloves on Saturday. He went to football on Monday and lost them. And this is how it goes every time- he loses everything. And then we get sobbing and crying and ‘i’m So stupid’ over and over.
I’ve literally lost the plot over it - he’s had a massive telling off and a massive talking to and I have said that I am not buying him a single new thing until he learns to respect his things.
Aibu? I just feel so bad for shouting at him but it’s costing us a bloody fortune - I just don’t know what to do.

DS loses everything. It got worse when he started high school. I’ve replaced coats, lunch bags, pencil cases, PE kits several times over. He pays for them himself and loses screen time but it’s not enough to motivate him not to lose it.
I wish I could tell you it gets better but DS is 14 and it’s still happening. I don’t know what the answer is.

DS isn’t dyslexic or dyspraxic or ASD or any related things. He just can’t seem to keep track of anything at sll

And yet this is a classic indicator. If he has organisational difficulties as a result of a condition he can't help, he's going to find secondary school very hard. In your shoes I would at least explore it as a possibility.

On a practical note, name everything, help him with organising strategies, drill into him doing a last check before he leaves.

I’m another one wondering whether another child in his class is taking his things? Because otherwise they would be in lost property and, if clearly labelled, he would find them there. Our DDs lose clothes but they always get found eventually.

I’m another one wondering whether another child in his class is taking his things? Because otherwise they would be in lost property and, if clearly labelled, he would find them there. Our DDs lose clothes but they always get found eventually.

Everything of ours is named - some bastard parent cuts the name labels out, uses uniform until their kid outgrows it and then shoves it back in lost property (I'd sharpied the name in elsewhere so it drifted back to us - label clearly cut out). I was more pissed off they'd cut my sewn in labels out than anything else as it's a job I loathe doing to be fair.