I hope I explain this properly.
Last Monday I started back work after a year’s maternity leave. I’m back full time and both DDs are under school age. I worked two 9 hour shifts on Monday and Tuesday and was completely exhausted on the Tuesday night.
It was my friend’s birthday on the Tuesday I went back and I messaged her in the morning to say happy birthday etc.
Like I said I worked flat out on the first two days I was back to get myself in order and reacquaint myself with the role. On the Tuesday my elder daughter was involved in an accident in nursery and was pretty upset that night when I picked her up (nursery didn’t tell me at the time which is another story!) so I spent my night just chilling with her and DH after younger dd was in bed, making dinner and was crashed out by 8pm.
Woke up last Wednesday was off work but had a jam packed day. Noticed I had lots of WhatsApps on a group chat from the night before and looked at them at lunchtime.
Birthday girl had announced (while I was asleep) the night before that she was pregnant. As soon as I read it I congratulated her etc.
Took a small present and card round to her on Thursday after work and also a present for her DD’s communion. She wasn’t in but I left it in her porch and sent her a message.
Didn’t hear a word from her other than “got it”.
I’ve since found out that the girls I’m friendly with in the WhatsApp group (who I’ve known for years) are all pissed off that I didn’t message pregnant birthday girl until the next day and have frozen me out. Nor are they happy that I wasn’t effusive enough in my congratulations.
I’m so hurt. I had the busiest week last week starting back work and I’m being bitched about for not being quick enough to reply to a message.
I feel like telling them all to fuck off.