FB messages - should I contact police?

[Guest8989]

Since last year I have been receiving messages from a woman who seems to want to cause an argument with me. I don't know her well, she's a school mum, we aren't friends and all I know is that its well known she has real issues, violent and most folk avoid her.

Last year she created 2 Facebook profiles, one in her name and one in her boyfriends name. They seemed to have no use or friends and only created with the intent to contact me.

The first message was sent from her, asking how I was and how the kids were. I ignored her.

The next day a sexually explicit message was sent from the boyfriends account asking if I was free to pick him up (don't even drive ffs) Again I ignored it.

It puzzled me but I left it, I just assumed perhaps she was drinking or having a bit of a unstable moment.

Today, I have received another, out of the blue just like the others. Its a new profile, under the boyfriends name but the message is from her, suggesting I am sleeping with her bf and she will be "having words".

I wouldn't even know who her bf was if I was to see him in the street.

This same accusation was made in 2011 when i was pregnant - she confronted my husband in the street, who just laughed about it.

I'm started to get a bit concerned about her state of mind and why the hell she's chosen me to start some peculiar argument. Should I contact the police?

Ffs OP ALREADY SAID that she needs to stay on FB for her job.

Just read the bloody thread!

As I said, I agree, why the F should you come off facebook?

My DD was being threatened and bullied by girls at school - AND their mothers, on facebook and twitter, and back in the day BEBO, (an old social media site that was around in the early days of facebook.) So I told the school what was going on, and said they were attacking me too. Their answer??? 'You need to stay off all these websites then. If you weren't looking at them, you wouldn't see the comments would you?'

SO, because of a bunch of nasty cunts were threatening my daughter and me, and writing nasty shit on these websites, WE had to stay off them?!

It didn't change the fact that the stuff was there. EG, they put on twitter 'Lucy is a fucking slag, and her mom shags dogs.' and the school basically said we don't have to read it! If we didn't look at the websites we wouldn't see the comments. 100s (even 1000s) of others were seeing it though!

So I said to the head teacher 'so if I wrote a newspaper article saying your wife is a whore who has shagged 1000 men, that would be OK yeah? Because you DON'T HAVE TO BUY THE NEWSPAPER, AND READ THE COMMENTS, DO YOU?!'

He told me to stop being stupid with a kind of look. Then he told me to grow up, and leave the office.

I walked out, and that was pretty much the time I decided to tell the police what had been happening for the past 7 or 8 months., I also decided to tell them the school didn't give a shit.

I went home, printscreened everything (and collected what I already HAD printscreened,) and called the police. They gave the head a real dressing down, for not taking action against the bullies. I was really pleased that he had been told off. It served him right. AND the girls got official warnings on their school record, and their mothers got cautions off the police. Well deserved too!

As I said, it stopped after that, so do tell the police @Guest8989

Interestingly, the head left about 3 or 4 months later, a new head was appointed, and new rules against social media bullying came in at the school, with a warning of 'stark punishment for anyone not adhering to the rules!!!'

Could you mention it to her by saying something like “I thought you should know someone has set up some fake accounts in your name and have sent me some obscene messages. I’ll be reporting to the police for both of our sakes, with any luck that should stop the messages.”
You could position it like you are doing both of you a favour by reporting the matter and also that way it’s non-confrontational as you aren’t accusing her of anything. You are also giving her a heads up that you’ll be reporting it.
I hope it stops, it must be quite frightening for you.

I found the police really helpful in a similar situation so I’d go down the 101 route first. Mine was a stranger though, who had become convinced I was someone that I’m not and though I don’t know all the details, I do know she got some much needed help.

And yes, tighten up your FB if you can anymore.

I don't think this woman is reasonable enough to approach would proba bly result with op getting a punch to the face

Without a doubt I would report to 101 and today.

God! Sorry for the multiple posts! The app went crazy, I'll get them deleted.

Haha don’t worry!

Just want to say thank you to everyone who has taken the time to respond and help

I was just about to post saying you can switch off message requests as someone my ex who's profile I check now and again it doesn't let me message them, I now assume I am blocked on messenger I just thought they had strict privacy settings .

Sorry this is happening to you it would have me on edge too hope you manage to resolve it.

Oops Pivot!!! Oh well!

Go into Messages and get the 'conversation' up. There is a settings icon there.

You can block or ignore

Yes you can block a particular person from sending you messages in future, but unfortunately there's no way to stop someone setting up other profiles to message you, and no way to stop multiple random people messaging you. There's no way to stop the first message from a weirdo, only their subsequent messages.