Ever since I got pregnant and had my baby I have realised I that so many people like to tell you the worst parts of pregnancy, labour and motherhood.
Once I announced my pregnancy and explained I felt much better after a tough 3 months, the response was mainly ‘oh you wait til the third trimester!’ ... third trimester comes, tell people I’m mainly ok but feeling more tired... ‘ohh you wait till the baby is here. Then you’ll know what tiredness is!’
Baby arrives... tell people how I’m feeling (which is quite good actually overall, have been blessed with a good sleeper and feeder). The main response is ‘oh you wait for the teething, or the terrible twos etc’... it’s almost like people don’t want you to be enjoying it, and if you are they want you to be aware the tough is yet to come.
My hairdresser is pregnant, and I told her about my labour and she burst in to tears saying I was the first person to tell her a slightly positive labour story. (I left out some bits for the exact reason of this post!) So far all she has heard has been the horror stories and she’s petrified. I just don’t see why people feel the need to do this?!
I totally understand people have really tough times, but I just feel conveying this to pregnant people/new mothers is slightly mean.
Why can’t people just let new Mother’s enjoy the moment rather than telling them all the negatives they are going to deal with in the future?! Unless of course you’re really good friends, but I’m talking about Acquaintances or even people on public transport!
Has anyone else found this?