To be fed up with looking after someone else's animals?

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e been living in a home with a friend for over a year and a half, when I agreed to live with her I knew she had 2 dogs which was fine, I love dogs and she said they are majoritively outdoor dogs so great.
When we moved in together it was a completely different story, they were locked in the house all the time and as they completely lack any training they would shit and piss in the house. I also found out one of the dogs has a health issue that results in her throwing up 5-10 times a day, all of which goes onto the floor boards, none of which my housemate cleans.
When the dogs were put in the backyard they would always escape (I think a lot of this has to do with never being taken for walks etc by the housemate) and i’d be forced to run through the streets chasing her animals sometimes a couple of times a day.
After a year or so living in the house she finally secured the yard to a point where the dogs could be left outside so the daily shits, pisses and vomits inside my lovely house decreased.
I’m now pregnant and I’m entirely fed up with looking after her animals. I am the only one who fills their water dish, she stays out for 3-4 days at a time only coming home to put food in their bowls and then leave again, if I put them outside at night they will bark and bark and bark until I have no choice but to let them in, and when I left them in they will proceed to piss and shit in the house unless I have them in my bedroom with me, which I do not want, they are not my dogs but somehow I have become the primary carer for her animals.
I suppose this is more just a vent, but I suppose some advice on how to delicately but directly tell her that she is effectively neglecting her animals and leaving the house in a completely unsanitary and disgusting state.
She was a close friend when we moved in but the way she treats her animals, and also the complete lack of respect or regard for how I have to live has really damaged the friendship.
Do I sound totally unreasonable, I’ve never lived with dogs before, but I assume leaving them for days at a time, letting them go to the bathroom inside etc is not normal?
I almost fell over in a pile of uncleaned up dog vomit the other night directly in front of her and she ignored me and did not apologise for not cleaning it up.
Arrghhhh, I try to tell myself I will have my own place in 3 months time with my partner, but then I also feel terrible for her animals, who will look after them when I am gone?
Sorry, such a big rant/vent!

Whose house is this? It's unclear from your post. You say "my lovely house" then go onto say you will have your own place soon. Indicating it's not.

If it's her house it's her call. If it's your house ask her to move out.

So you moved in with her? Just move out!

It is sad for the dogs, but you have enabled her to not care for them herself.

Sod the few months. Start looking for a new place now.

@Bluntness100 it says we're housemates. It's both our house. I don't think it's wrong to refer to a house I'm renting as my house is it?

@PositiveVibez I wish it was that simple! But we're both on the lease so it's not really an option for me to just leave before the lease ends. I've considered trying to find someone to replace me, but realistically how can I in good conscience lure someone else into taking my place knowing the state the house is kept in? I'd feel incredibly deceitful advertising my room knowing what I know!

Contact the landlord. Not many leases allows for dog, especially ones that are allowed to behave in this way. At the end of your tenancy you are going to get the bill for such as replacing floorbaords etc- you do realise that?

Where are you moving to, would you be able to move into the new place immediately or stay with family? Could you pay your rent upfront to the agent for the remaining time and get out of there?

I'd be out of there like a shot, stop taking responsibility for her pets and report them to the RSPCA as abandoned, explain what's happened so far but that they aren't your dogs and that you cannot take them with you. While you're looking after them she's taking you for granted

I would take the dogs to be rehomed when she has disappeared on one of her 3-day stints.

@Jessbow both pups are approved on the lease. Luckily when the lease is up she is staying at the property and signing a new lease and I am moving out so won't end up financially effected by the damage the doggos have done, I was very very concerned about that though up until yesterday when she said she is planning to stay.
She is staying specifically because the cost of the damages she'll have to pay for if she moves out So it's not like she doesn't realise they are wrecking the house, the laziness just knows no bounds!

Yes, I would lose respect for someone who treated animals like that (not exercising or training them is cruel; not getting care for the sick one is too) and who allowed a friend (you) to live in a house stinking of urine and vomit instead of training them.

Report her to the RSPCA like ispepsiok said.

I definitely feel I've enabled her in some ways by always looking after them, cleaning up after them, buying them beds and always going out into the neighbourhood to find them when they escape. But I just can't turn a blind eye and let them suffer. My partner tells me to just not go looking for them when they escape but I just start thinking about how terrible I'd feel if they were hit by a car!
I wish I could just grow a backbone and tell her how disgusting I find the whole situation but I guess I'm just a bit of a wimp! Haha.

This is a sad story and one which makes my blood boil. I fear for the dogs once you leave. The dogs need to be rehomed as their quality of life is very poor.

@pilates I agree. It deeply upsets me. I've been friends with her for years and she presents herself as a deep animal lover. A pet isn't there to enjoy at your own convenience though, it needs kindness and love.
I would be over the moon for them if they were rehomed.

That sounds awful; I’m not sure how you’ve put up with it for so long

Sounds awful OP, I think all you can do is bide your time until you’re able to move out, but when you do I’d definitely be telling your friend that she’s a disgrace neglecting those poor animals (and I’m the biggest wimp ever!).

@AguerosAngel that's definitely what I think I'm going to do. Once I've moved out and won't create an incredibly awkward and (more) toxic place to live I'll be telling her EXACTLY what I think.

Is there room for you where your partner lives now? I'd consider leaving but still paying the next three months if it meant I wasn't surrounded by dog mess and vomit all the time. That sounds horrific at the best of times, but when pregnant?! It's not excusable.

Why have you not told her, a year ago, to clean up though?!

@AuntMarch I have told her to clean up on occasion, but if her dogs poo inside and she's away for days she isn't there to clean it up so I don't really have an option. I definitely could have been more direct and I've definitely bitten my tongue at times probably to my own detriment. If she's home I'll ask her to clean the vomit etc and she will clean that particular vomit but then the next day she goes back to having selective blindness haha.
My partner actually lives there as well, but only for the last couple of months, I warned him he was going to hate it but he just wanted to be close to me while pregnant, hahaha bet he's wishing he waiting the time extra few months now!!
I would absolutely love to have the money to just go "seeya!" Pay my rent out and disappear into the sunset but finances just won't allow it, a month or two early is all I'm going to be able to manage unfortunately.

Poor dogs they are being neglected. Ring one of the charities and get them taken to a shelter

Similar situation to a friend of mine many years ago. She rehomed the dogs without the owners consent. The dogs ended up with an amazing life. I believe she kept up the pretence that the dogs escaped out the front door and ran off. Naughty I know but their welfare far outweighs morals here.

Not sure why you keep writing haha in your posts. None of this is remotely funny.

Tell your room mate to clean up the mess every single time she has dog mess blindness.

You might want read this and take the risk to your baby's health more seriously. www.familyeducation.com/pregnancy/things-avoid-while-pregnant/downside-kitties-dogs-turtles-during-pregnancy

@ittooshallpass Have I once laughed at the state of the animals? I've endlessly expressed how deeply upset I am about the situation. I've only laughed at my own pathetic ability to deal with conflict and my poor partner getting himself mixed up in the mess!

I'd definitely do what seeleyboo said.

Next time she disappears for 2-3 days just get them rehomed.

Question: who will move in after you've gone? If she can afford to live there alone why not just go now?

@ittooshallpass I also deeply resent the implication that I do not take my unborn child's safety seriously. The article you linked me to is one I read as soon as I found out I was pregnant and researched how dangerous the house I was living in would be for my baby, it's an article about toxoplasmosis which is found in cat faeces only, not dog faeces.
I endlessly clean up as does my partner, so your judgements based on very little information are not really relevant.

@Seeleyboo I would love to think that could happen in this case, but I also get overcome with fear that the dogs could be taken and put to sleep because they were unable to be rehomed and it fills me with a lot of fear and makes me feel very torn inside.

I was referring to you laughing at yourself.