To be fed up with looking after someone else's animals?

[MotherShabubu]

e been living in a home with a friend for over a year and a half, when I agreed to live with her I knew she had 2 dogs which was fine, I love dogs and she said they are majoritively outdoor dogs so great.
When we moved in together it was a completely different story, they were locked in the house all the time and as they completely lack any training they would shit and piss in the house. I also found out one of the dogs has a health issue that results in her throwing up 5-10 times a day, all of which goes onto the floor boards, none of which my housemate cleans.
When the dogs were put in the backyard they would always escape (I think a lot of this has to do with never being taken for walks etc by the housemate) and i’d be forced to run through the streets chasing her animals sometimes a couple of times a day.
After a year or so living in the house she finally secured the yard to a point where the dogs could be left outside so the daily shits, pisses and vomits inside my lovely house decreased.
I’m now pregnant and I’m entirely fed up with looking after her animals. I am the only one who fills their water dish, she stays out for 3-4 days at a time only coming home to put food in their bowls and then leave again, if I put them outside at night they will bark and bark and bark until I have no choice but to let them in, and when I left them in they will proceed to piss and shit in the house unless I have them in my bedroom with me, which I do not want, they are not my dogs but somehow I have become the primary carer for her animals.
I suppose this is more just a vent, but I suppose some advice on how to delicately but directly tell her that she is effectively neglecting her animals and leaving the house in a completely unsanitary and disgusting state.
She was a close friend when we moved in but the way she treats her animals, and also the complete lack of respect or regard for how I have to live has really damaged the friendship.
Do I sound totally unreasonable, I’ve never lived with dogs before, but I assume leaving them for days at a time, letting them go to the bathroom inside etc is not normal?
I almost fell over in a pile of uncleaned up dog vomit the other night directly in front of her and she ignored me and did not apologise for not cleaning it up.
Arrghhhh, I try to tell myself I will have my own place in 3 months time with my partner, but then I also feel terrible for her animals, who will look after them when I am gone?
Sorry, such a big rant/vent!

You can find no kill rescues. But sometimes pUtting a dog down can be kindest in the long run. Leaving them there will be far crueler.

I'm sorry to say but you are complicit in their neglect here as this has been going on for so long now. Poor things.

No offence meant, but wanted to make sure you knew the risks.

Get the poor dogs rehomed and leave.

Take some of the anger and offence you're aiming at me and give it to your room mate... she truly deserves it.

What an awful "friend"

Save up to pay remaining rent (how much longer?!) And get the hell out

It is ridiculous you putting up with this, yet you feeling worried about offending her

I would have got angry eons ago, and every pile of piss or shit I would have made a big point of pointing out to her!

What a chancer, what a user she is. Shameless

Dogs trust

@OliviaBenson It's definitely a huge moral dilemma for me as I definitely agree I'm complicit, though I do look after them and keep them from being neglected but they aren't my dogs and I'm so scared about their fate when I leave. Maybe she'll find some poor unsuspecting new housemate to be her dogs nanny? Maybe she'll step up if someone else isn't there to do it for her, maybe I've caused it with my own enabling of the situation.

After reading the reactions on this thread I think I'm going to gather up my lady balls and discuss helping her to rehome them. They are lovely dogs, naughty naughty boys (but that's because they are bored and lonely and miss their owner) the right person could make them really happy. The one who uncontrollably throws up could actually be on medication to stop that from happening but she chooses not to give it to him.

This is all very peculiar....

She won't step up op. If she won't even give the poorly one medicine what on earth would she do. They are clearly miserable if they don't get walked/attention. I couldn't be friends with someone like that.

Get them rehomed. Sadly she's so selfish I bet she comes up with a million and one excuses why so can't rehome them. She won't change though with you being gone.

It's really very simple, just get them rehomed and tell her they escaped if you don't want to tell her what you did.

Please please just do it.

I don’t understand how you can live in a home for nearly 1 year with two dogs that are clearly being neglected. I’m sorry to say it but you are equally complicit in their neglect through your passivity.
Do the dogs ever get walked, who’s providing food? Poor dogs.
Listening to you dithering over what to do is incredibly frustrating. You know what to do. Speak to your pathetic house mate and find a shelter that will take them, fucking blow up her animal lover image to the rest of your mates hopefully that might stop her getting some more animals to replace the ones your rehoming.

I can't believe you have lived there for twelve months and you looking for a subtle way to tell her, after day two you should have said "Christ Carol this is minging, I'm not living like this, I'm out of here you dirty bitch", you should never have chased the dogs after they made their break for freedom either. You cannot bring a baby into that house

@Thecabbageassasin I walked the dogs when I could granted that wasn't often, though now I'm not really able to at all as I'm pregnant and they are crazy on the lead and have pulled me over before before I was pregnant so not going to risk it now. She supplied them with food.
I've stopped "dithering" as you put it. I've said based on the advice and reaction I've gotten I'll be discussing with my housemate and assisting her with a rehome of the puppos.
I want to make it clear, I have stepped in and the dogs are not neglected, my fear has been for their welfare when I leave.

I buy the doggies beds (they destroy them often so it's a regular thing), I buy them treats, play catch with them in the afternoon in the yard, my partner plays with them as well. They get love, just not from the person who is responsible for them and should be doing it and should be cleaning up after them.

Unless you have somewhere you can stay for the last three months I would sit it out, then end the friendship.

@CalmdownJanet that's why I'm moving out.

There are worse things for those dogs than being PTS.

Such as being left alone for days at a time.

Rehome them OP.

Get them out of the house

The house must stink to high heaven...

Doubt she’d agree to rehome them, she clearly gives zero fucks about their welfare. I’d arrange it without her knowing so it goes more smoothly, and tell her they ran away. Being put to sleep is far superior to living like that anyway. Poor doggies, it’s heartbreaking.

Dogs Trust would be most likely to find them a home. Unless there's any significant behavioural problems which include aggression.

Using the "they escaped and I can't find them so that's that" line is definitely a good bet.

Can't believe you didn't give her an ultimatum when you first moved in. Take some photos of the mess and trouble they cause in the house. Any long-term damage caused by the dogs chewing or peeing etc. Because if you want to make sure she doesn't go this again then I would be showing those pictures to the rescue and the rspca when I left.

I’m totally gob smacked that anyone would put up with living in those conditions, with two dogs that are clearly being mistreated for so long.
She has absolutely no respect for you and the two sentient creatures she chooses to abandon, so don’t worry about offending her.

Tell her to sort it or you’ll be reporting the vile cow to whatever animal enforcement agency you can, to stop her getting more pets.

Don’t bother with the RSPCA they can’t do anything unless not sheltered or fed- I’ve tried before and they don’t have the powers.
Please don’t leave them there to their fate - do this one thing and find them new home( get her on board if poss as will be easier)
Your obviously bothered enough to post so that shows you care and once you have your baby and moved you won’t know what’s happening with them.
If their not chipped and you can get access to a car with your partner - take them miles away to a shelter and say you found them - they will be happier and you will get piece of mind you did the right thing .

Well i think you need to move out but also take responsibility for sorting the dogs as they are being mistreated. Yes they are your friend's dogs but you have been complicit in not looking after them properly.

Presumably you have paid a deposit for the house which you will not get back -
Not sure how you could prove that it is your housemate's responsibility not yours. Also presumably it's difficult to terminate the tenancy without her agreement?

You say in your 1st post that you knew your friend had 2 dogs. You later refer to the pups and later again puppos. So, were these pups at the point at which you decided to house share (and therefore capable of being house-trained)?

I'm wondering whether they are capable of being trained now, a year later. I hope they can be otherwise no-one will want them.

To stand by knowing the one dog/pup can be helped by medication yet not be given it is appalling behaviour. You are also guilty of neglect. Would you stand by and do nothing if this was a human and your friend wouldn't pay for a much-needed prescription?

These dogs need to go somewhere like the RSPCA (or equivalent if you are outside the UK) or to an animal sanctuary where care will be taken of them. Their habits are such that it probably will be impossible to re-home them directly.

I can't imagine what condition would cause the vomitting but can you at least ensure its diet is very bland (chicken and rice) so kinder on its stomach while you are there?

I don't see how OP can legally rehome someone else's dogs.

All she can do is report to the authorities, and as has been stated, they will likely do nothing as the dogs have a 'home'. If they do anything, the dogs will likely be euthanized.

Just get out OP. Animal abuse breaks my heart also, but until human beings on the whole are much more evolved, I'm sad to say we are going to keep seeing things like this.

Also today I have seen a story about 150 unwanted sled dogs in Canada tied to barrels 24 hours a day, and puppies in China being used as prizes in a claw machine. People can be despicable.

This post breaks my heart Please, next time she’s gone, take the dogs to your nearest Dogs Trust (or otherwise any other animal shelter). Ring them today, tell them everything that you’ve said here. That she would happily just see them escape and get hit by a car. That she doesn’t give on of them the medication it needs to stop throwing up multiple times a day. Please DO something productive as this is animal abuse and it’s just not on.

Your friend is beyond vile.

I dont get how the very first time she disappeared for a few days you were not livid with her for neglecting her animals and leaving you responsible for them? You're enabling the shitty treatment of these dogs!! And if one is requiring medicine it isn't getting it's animal abuse. Take these animals to be rehomed today and tell your flatmate what a shit person she is and she shouldn't ever have dogs again. This post has infuriated me.