WIBU? - Child waking the street

[Iltavilli]

We live on a cul de sac with a ginnel (alley for non-northerners) at the bottom, so it is often used as a cut through for people walking children to the local schools about half a mile away. Leaving the house this morning around 8am (huge lie in as I normally leave at 6am), a girl of around 7 or 8 was being walked to school by her mum.

The girl was banging what looked like two plastic sticks together, quite loudly, and was shouting “get up, get up, it’s time for school and work” all the way along the street. She was about 100 metres ahead of her mum, but mum was laughing along and not trying to stop her. I said to the girl that some people, like nurses, work at night and need to sleep in the morning so they can take care of people the next night. The girl burst into tears, and as mum got to where we were (outside my house) shouted at me for making her daughter cry.

Given the weather is so warm, and people have windows open to sleep, was I wrong to ask the girl to stop - but also to explain why she should stop?

Well what if i want to mow the lawn and there is shift workers in my road?

That depends, are you mowing the lawn because it needs done or because you want to behave like a spoilt brat and DELIBERATELY waken the shift worker. This child was DELIBERATELY trying to waken people. I think a few posters can’t actually tell the difference. 🙄

the mother is the problem, not the child.
I hate entitled parents. Not many things piss me off more..

@cottonwoolmouth - that’s fine, like I said, I normally leave at 6am. This was a one-off.

I’d then suggest all my drunk friends party outside yours till 6am. Enjoy.

A child walking down the street making noise in the daytime is fine...they do not need to consider night shift workers ffs. You shouldn't have said anything to her, you had no right

Normal morning noise is fine. Shouting, banging and thinking they're being 'clever' with telling everyone to get up, not so much.

Maybe cottonwoolmouth has the luxury of not working and can sleep whenever she wants.

It's a difficult one, as workmen are allowed to make as much noise as they want at that time.

That being said, what the little girl was sayig was rude and she should maybe have been checked by her mother.

cotton you are talking like a right tosser, or just trying to show off, but a complete tosser anyway.

This chap was last seen heading towards OP house

Not unreasonable at all. Good for you for speaking up.

@cottonwoolmouth
If I was her mum I’d have to you to fuck off. Then I’d make a point in doing it every day outside you house. Only I’d bring a tambourine, moracas and dds flute.

I think it's great that we do sometimes come across 'that' parent on here. It proves that no matter what is said on these threads there will always be rude, entitled people who refuse to be considerate or see another's point of view and will continue on their own merry, inconsiderate way.

@cottonwoolmouth - I don't doubt you wouldn't be mowing the lawn at 8am. And the hum of a mower is a lot less obtrusive a noise than shouting and banging.

I can guarantee that once my dh is properly asleep, he will sleep like the dead. But if I were to start shouting and banging around not long after he had gone up to bed, he wouldn't be asleep enough to ignore it.

Most parents don't seem to let their kids scream, shout and bang around in the streets so its clearly not the done thing.

If the mother didn't want her child to be upset by someone else then she should have stood the nonsense herself.

YANBU.

stopped

Good on you op. 8am isn't too early for normal noise, eg talking while walking along or car engines, but the banging sticks and shouting at that time isn't on.

Left to their own devices my dcs would be shouting and shrieking on their way to school playing games but I don't let them as its inconsiderate to others that don't have to be up early/work nights/don't want to listen to screaming children at 8am.

I bet the girl's mum wouldn't appreciate you doing that outside her house when you leave at 6am for work.

Children playing and making noise is fine. Children purposely banging and shouting with the sole intention of waking people up is not.
The unreasonable person in this situation is the child's parent for not explaining about shift workers herself.

Good on you, OP!
YANBU.

If I was her mum I’d have to you to fuck off.

Now that Jeremy Kyle has gone does that mean that all the former guests have to turn to MN?

Well what if i want to mow the lawn and there is shift workers in my road?

It must be quite awkward to mow around the settee and the washing machine, so I suppose it's best to get an early start.

YANBU. Good for you.

That level of noise, that is purposely aimed at disturbing people, is unacceptable at any time of day, much less 8am. The mother should have stopped it, not laughed and colluded with it.

Teaching children that not everyone wants to hear their noise is an important part of raising well-mannered, considerate, unselfish and well-socialised adults.

It's a shame that the little girl got upset, but that is on her mother, not you, OP. You wouldn't have had to say anything if the mother had actually been doing some parenting.

donquixotedelamancha

OP yanbu. Even if I wasnt trying to sleep it sounds fucking annoying. Good for you, I bet she won’t do it again!
The ones saying yabu well it says a lot about their parenting.

Children playing and making noise is fine. Children purposely banging and shouting with the sole intention of waking people up is not.
The unreasonable person in this situation is the child's parent for not explaining about shift workers herself.

This.

The thing that we all have to remember (and most of us learn very harshly and painfully) is that life can change for us very very suddenly. If tonight becomes the worst night of your life and a night shift doctor is slicing into your child in the hope of saving their life - how much do you hope that the doctor doesn’t live on that street?

it must be quite awkward to mow around the settee and the washing machine
that has made my evening!

YANBU. I could imagine my 6 yo doing this. IF I let her. She was being silly on an escalator once and a passing shopper (who had to be a retired teacher - she had the vibe) told her off. I was pleased.