To ask what you do all day?

[Ravingstarfish]

I don’t work but would like to, clean up, make dinner blah blah blah but otherwise I’m just twiddling my thumbs and utterly bored.
Ds has just started going to a tutor a few hours a week after a million school exclusions and I’ve no idea what to do with myself

Up and take dogs out and feed rabbits. Make sure kids up and out the door on time. Go out meet friends for coffee for an hour try and run any errands after. Pilates class and dog walk. Back home laundry and housework. Lunch. Emails and paperwork for a couple hours or out to run errands then kids home chat with them might need to take one to an activity. Cook dinner then chill maybe collect a kid from activity. Watch some tv with one kid (which involves quite a bit of talking) then before bed tidy up kitchen get uniforms ready. Read. Bed. Other days I go out to work for a few hours (self employed and I can be very busy for a few days then not so busy), I volunteer at the school every third week, occasionally meet friends for lunch. Somewhere in there I’m online. But it’s all routine during the week. Pretty normal I’d say.

I can't work because of seriously poor health and disabilities.

It depends on what sort of health day I'm having,if I'm having an alright day then I'll do some house work, potter about in the garden,feed our 3 Dogs,rabbit and the wild birds,I'll do some laundry and I might go shopping with my DH.

A few times a month I'll go out with my BF for lunch and we'll do some clothes shopping,twice a month I go out with my DD15 and DD11 and once a week if I'm upto it my DH will take me out for lunch.

I visit family and friends and I attend to my parents and grandparents graves at the cemetary a couple of times a month.

If my health is bad(which is sadly becoming more common)then I'll spend my days indoors,resting,watching tv,online or reading.

i enjoy walking, go shopping, meet a friend, study, family history/DNA,

I work 8:30 - 4:30 for a large organisation doing project management.

flowers76
That really made me laugh!
3 days a week I work in the NHS.
The other days I recover!
Seriously though, I garden, do housework, visit friends and relatives.
Take my lads to sixth form, (not because they cant get themselves there but because I want to spend some time with them) take the 3 DC for driving practice.
Trawl charity shops.
Bake.
Cook.
Walk the dog.

Today I did fuck all. I have a shocking headache and a sore throat. I need to be well by tomorrow.

I wouldn't set yourself up with any commitments yet OP - you don't know how long the tutor will last. It's really hard the position you're in - I know I've been there.

You are going to have fight for a special school place, some areas don't actually have any or too few for the many excluded disabled dc that need one.

Any free time you get, spend it getting as much info as you can to secure a Special School place. Get yourself to the SN Boards as a first port of call - loads of experienced well-informed and understanding posters there.

Good Luck OP.

Could you go to the library? Look at all the subject matter available and see if anything in particular takes your fancy? There's bound to be something which you find interesting.

What do I do all day? I prepare meals, wash up afterwards, do a bit of housework. Then I 'potter' in the garden, or read, watch telly, or do a bit of sewing or writing. There's no such thing as boredom.

So, first I see DP and DS out the door, for work and school. Then I try my best to get DD out of her pit. She would happily stay there until midday, if I let her. Then I try to get her to do some schoolwork. Then lunch, then a bit of housework, then DS comes home as I am making dinner. DP walks in the door at 5.08 on the dot.

Then in the evenings I get to spend time with my DS while DP runs DD around to her various activities.

That makes a nice balance for me with the DC, all day with DD, then all evening with DS.

I work all day then fit in cooking, cleaning, washing etc in my "free time" happy days, not!

I’m not well so I spend a lot of time at home on my own. Things that keep me occupied are reading, learning musical instruments, MN, more reading, occasionally meeting friends and having medical appointments. It’s a small, not particularly fulfilling life but I accept it as my lot and make the most of it.

Drop ds to preschool
Whilst ds is at preschool I managed to vacuum the house , change beddings , hang up and sort laundry , meal prep. Threw in a half an hour kettlebell work out . Picked up ds at lunchtime , made him lunch , napped with him , now we've done Lego and stories and I've got the teens to crack on with revision . Taking dd 14 out for her birthday meal this evening .

I work but I also do yoga, read a lot, practice embroidery, cycle a lot too. I bake or cook for lots of time and research what to cook. I'd like to try making jam and want to do a dressmaking night course and I'm learning sign language.

We have a small holding of 45 acres and I am busy at the moment, mending dry stone walls, repairing fencing, harrowing pasture, digging up weeds, tidying up woodland after winter storms, keeping fields clear of pony poo, tending a small herd of native ponies who need handling and exercising (although daughters hep me with this when they are home from school), shopping, cooking, cleaning, gardening, dog walking, bottle feeding lambs. I try to do a little bit of cleaning and gardening every day so it doesn't get to be a huge job and then I write in the evenings as that is what I do to earn money (although not very much) and do all my admin. I take a few evenings off a week to do stuff with my DH and kids but smallholdings are busy during the spring and summer. Winter is a lot more relaxed, nothing is growing and repair and cleaning jobs are done in the autumn before the worst of the weather hits!

Shortchanged - he has ehcp, I just get told they can’t meet needs or they have no space. Been going through this for three years now.

Hatelsnotgood - thanks, it’s been going on for so long, I even moved counties to try and get him into school.

I do want to work, I volunteered at the vets when he was at school but I have it up because I was constantly letting them down being called into school and then my son would be excluded again, I didn’t think it was fair on them.
I do think that’s what is missing and not working isn’t a choice I’ve made.
I like the idea of working from home, maybe I could try and make and sell something.

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Put a wash on (I work at home)
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Answer the door for parcels, often not for my house
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Make tea, drink while working and eating biscuits
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Think about dinner
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Go buy things for dinner
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Make dinner/help whoever in the household is making it.
Eat in front of telly. Look at work emails.
Bed.

Basically.

What do you do darlingnikita?

I bet there’s always something to do with 45 acres krustykittens!

OP, things sound like they are very unsettled for you at the moment - could you perhaps look at re-training once your son is more settled, learning something that would let you work from home?

There is, although I have a friend that thinks I do fuck all all day because I am not being paid for it. I can let you imagine what she thinks of SAHM....If you are at all creative I would hone those skills into something special and use a good uni course to get you contacts. I did creative writing at Bath Spa and they had a party at the end of the course where they introduced us to agents. That is where I met mine! There are an awful lot of creatives out there and it can be hard to make a living unless you are offering something truly unique.

I’ve been sewing since I was a toddler and can make anything from dresses to bedding to toys, I’ve often thought whether I could make money from it but looking at Etsy and Facebook etc it seems like everyone can sew and hardly anyone makes any money! Perhaps I should just go for it though!

Get my dd to school, work.....and potter about.....pick her up, take her to activities etc in evening do some emails, sleep.
I'm self-employed so my hours vary.

OP, I work with books, freelance. I am convinced that if I say no to anyone they'll never offer me work again, AND they'll tell all their mates never to offer me work either.

I'm being slightly flippant, but I do have a bit of a fear of work drying up. Hence over-committing and then over-working.

So can you do alterations OP?

I’m sure lots of people want clothes made over for reasons of weight change or economy - particularly in these hard times.

I know of a lady who makes book character toys for authors who do school visits - she isn't cheap! Have a look around and see where there is a niche.

Krustykittens- that’s so cute, I’ll have a look thank you!

George- I can, there’s an alterations shop in my town but I can definitely explore the possibility!