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AIBU to ask you to join me if you're trying to quit smoking?

36 replies

PhilomenaCatLover · 20/05/2019 12:25

Sorry for posting in AIBU. The Stop Smoking section is super quiet, and I posted on here for traffic. I used to smoke years ago, and quit 4 years ago. I started up again last year (very very stupid) and am now on about 5 a day and sneaking around behind my partner and family's back because none of them know I've started up again. I'm re-reading the Allen Carr book to quit. I'm sick of sneaking around, and I don't want to be a smoker. Anyone else with me? Just looking for some solidarity! (esp since I can't admit I'm "quitting" IRL since I haven't admitted I'm smoking iyswim)

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Bravelurker · 20/05/2019 12:30

It's fate that I opened this thread as I am on page 1 of Allen Carr (have been on page 1 for a month Blush). The book totally worked for me the first time and I quit without missing ciggies and I can't believe I lapsed.
I'm so with you, thanks for starting the thread

JangledBat · 20/05/2019 12:36

I switched completely to vaping and haven't had a fag for 2.5 years now. I'm at the lowest nic level and enjoy all the different flavours.

I couldn't have quit without it.

nc100 · 20/05/2019 12:36

I'm in. I'm on chapter 2! This thread is fate.

nc100 · 20/05/2019 12:36

And I really don't want to vape

Bravelurker · 20/05/2019 12:55

Allen Carr in his book is against any kind of substitutes which is why I don't want to vape despite my best friend telling me I should.
I want to be free and clear of all of it.

PhilomenaCatLover · 20/05/2019 13:11

Let's do it BraveLurker and nc100
I don't want to move to any substitutes, just want to be free of cigarettes forever, and this time I won't lapse back into trying "just one", or having a "social" or "celebratory" cigarette. Just want to be freeeeeeeeee from being a smoker.

I am hoping to finish the book during my lunch break starting now and smoke the ritual final cigarette. Will report back. What are your plans in terms of timeline?

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nc100 · 20/05/2019 13:11

Me too. I should be reading it instead of MN

nc100 · 20/05/2019 13:12

I just need to read the bloody book. I don't know. Today or tomorrow? I really don't want to buy anymore.

Definitely report back!

MustardScreams · 20/05/2019 13:12

Excellent timing! I was thinking yesterday I must quit. Early 30’s and want to be around for dd.

I don’t know whether to vape, use patches or what yet. Might give the book a read, how is everyone finding it?

Cottonwoolmouth · 20/05/2019 13:15

I want to stop vaping!

Would the Alan Carr book be any good for that!

PhilomenaCatLover · 20/05/2019 13:17

Yes, the book is very keen on not using any substitutes - no patches, gum or vaping. Just breaking free of the prison of nicotine enslavement.

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Houseonahill · 20/05/2019 13:21

What is this book? I would like it.

Bravelurker · 20/05/2019 13:25

I actually can't believe how easy it was to quit with the book and why I am still only on page 1 Grin.
I know it's going to work and so I'm putting off the inevitable, which is stupid as he incourages you to smoke whilst reading the book.
Please give it a try.

Bravelurker · 20/05/2019 13:26

Picking up the book and putting down my phone - for a bit.

Cottonwoolmouth · 20/05/2019 13:27

Oooooh which book as he has a few. Has any one tried his alcohol one. That needs to stop too Blush

Bravelurker · 20/05/2019 13:28

Allen Carr the easy way to to quit smoking. It should replace all bibles in hospitals and hotel rooms.

Hellohah · 20/05/2019 13:31

I am in ... I gave up smoking a few years ago but then my Nan died and it was really stressful, so started again.

I don't want to vape or anything either. I just want to stop. I have being trying since Tuesday.

I am going away on Sunday, so I know I will do it then, but I'm massively trying to do so before. I did the weekend (which was hard) and then bought some at work today.

I just want to slap myself, argh ...

Hellohah · 20/05/2019 13:31

Is the book actually worth buying by the way?

ShutTheFridgeUp · 20/05/2019 13:35

I'm going to tentatively join in! I have been considering going on champix as I just want a clean break, but I think I would feel more proud and determined if I do it off my own back.
Off to download the book now!

Cottonwoolmouth · 20/05/2019 13:35

Oh Christ I always thought it was written by chatty man Alan Carr Grin

nc100 · 20/05/2019 13:35

Hello it's cheaper than a packet of fags!

nc100 · 20/05/2019 13:35

And now I'm going to read for an hour

Watchingthetelly · 20/05/2019 13:37

I want to wish you good luck!!! I quit with Allen Carr three years ago, and it's gotten easier with time to the point where I hardly think about cigarettes and when I do it's only with relief that I'm not trapped by smoking anymore. Only word of advice would be to not rush the book. You're retraining your brain and really need to question yourself through it and make sure you are in agreement with what he's saying before continuing.

PhilomenaCatLover · 20/05/2019 13:39

Book is really worth buying. I just finished it.

I am personally sick of sneaking around, and constructing all sorts of situations so I can sneak off alone and smoke, and buying stupid singles from my corner shop and having to put up with smirky comments from the smug men who staff it, and generally feeling rubbish about myself. I don't want to spend years and years doing this, and those are my only choices. Either stop smoking right now, or carry on for years living this big lie. And it does absolutely nothing for me. So I'm off to have my final cigarette and throw out the rest of the pack, because I'm done.

I am not thin, I am not super satisfied in my job, I sometimes have relationship wobbles, I get angry, I fight, and I have all the typical stresses of a normal person.. nothing too dramatic, but typical life is not perfect stuff. Smoking doesn't make any single realm of my life better. On more than one occasion I've come to bed with DP and then refrained from having sex because I'm scared if he gets too close he might smell it on me. My DP who I love so much and really enjoy having sex with. Or turning down some fun thing I could go do, instead to sneakily smoke a cigarette on the sly. Ugh, it sounds so pathetic written down, but I'm trying to be honest with myself here.

I'm sick of feeling desperate and just hunting for the next cigarette opportunity. I know I could be free of it, and I'm looking forward to just smelling clean, feeling good, and not having to sneak around anymore.

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Bloke23 · 20/05/2019 13:45

I'm 3 weeks clean now. I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes 5 weeks ago! It's been a bloody struggle, I've had to give up for my health, but didn't want to if that makes sense, I'm currently using the highest dose patches and I have a stray that kills the cravings