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Aibu to jump before I’m pushed (work related)

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Hp737 · 20/05/2019 10:26

My role at work seems to have come to a standstill. I work for a large company. My boss was let go a month ago because most of our operational oversight is moving overseas, and our roles were quite closely linked/my remit is fast disappearing as they make that transition. (However I haven’t received any official communications from our senior management also overseas about this- it’s been badly handled and “officially” our team don’t really know what’s going on.) I have begun to be left out of the loop on decisions and processes that were previously part of my role, and the expectation from most of the people I work with is that I’m “next” to go, and there will be a second round of redundancies in June/July.
However I have only worked here for 1.3 years so I think I’m not technically eligible for redundancy pay/if I felt I had a case for constructive dismissal it wouldn’t be valid.

I also have a school age dd. Summer is always a total nightmare childcare wise as my fiancé and I work full time and we have had to use most of our annual leave up already as we had family emergencies and also are getting married this year. I would need to take 2 weeks off because of this in summer either if I stay at this job or if I changed jobs, honeymoon etc are booked. However if I changed jobs my annual leave would be pro rated accordingly and I would have literally none left for the rest of the year.

I have been severely demotivated by these events at work and it has really made my anxiety worse. It’s so shit knowing you’re “for the chop” and I have pretty much been left to my own devices for the past month. I know my days are numbered.

WIBU to resign a month before my dd breaks up for summer (this would be nearly 4 weeks from today) and take a break this summer instead of trying to start a new job/do wedding stuff/field childcare? The way I see it I either get made redundant at some point in the next 2 months, or I resign for the sake of my own sanity/ in time to not have to worry about summer childcare. I highly doubt I will get some great redundancy package due to my short service at the company.

My fiancé is a high earner and I have around 8k in savings. I have a good cv and haven’t had trouble getting jobs before- I would need to look for something to start in September.

Aibu to consider resigning and taking the summer off for dd/wedding then going back? I feel so demotivated here every day and I’m sick of getting no clarity from anyone. My new “boss” is a guy based overseas I’ve never met, who I speak to once a week. I just want out really. Any advice?!

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itshappened · 21/05/2019 11:52

They will have to keep everything about the process as confidential as possible. Your best bet would be to ask your old boss what the settlement package was like. In redundancy, they are usually more generous than statutory in these circumstances as they don't like to employees to leave on bad terms and want to manage external perception in the market around why the business is going through another round of redundancies. Not having ex employees bad mouthing the business is part of this! My advice would be to sit tight and wait to be made an offer. In the meantime you should definitely start looking for alternative employment. It can take much longer than you think, especially over the summer and for senior roles. You can always say you have a three month notice period (this is normal - mine is 6 months for example) which will take you to September and when your daughter is back to school anyway. It will make you time off much less stressful and then you can really enjoy the summer with your daughter, knowing you have a new job lined up.

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