To ask you to help me decide which life I want?

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So I've just seen a new job on Indeed this morning. I've got loads of relevant experience which makes me think that if I we successful I could ask for a figure at the top end of the salary expectations.
Trouble is, I only started a new job in November. It was supposed to be my forever job as it's ten minutes walk from home and five minutes from dd's new school (she starts reception in September.) I've managed to get my contract changed to 9.30-2.30 most days so I can do every pick up and drop off. However, the pay is awful. It's for the NHS so no pay increase in sight, and they've just made all the people on the band above me redundant so it's unlikely another role in my hospital will turn up. My supervisor even told me that I was in the wrong place if I wanted career progression.
When I accepted the job I thought this would be ok as the 'benefits' outweighed the rubbish pay. Now I'm struggling so much that I'm not sure I can live on £800 a month forever!
The new job is a 45 minute commute away and the hours are going to be hard to find childcare for as they're 7.45 starts. The pay is so exceptional though that it really would be life changing for us. The best option would be for my dp to quit his job which is minimum wage, so he could do school drop off and pick ups and look after them on Saturdays whilst I worked. He could find a job on similar money working a few hours in a supermarket or factory. The pay couldn't be any worse so wouldn't this make more sense as I have the ambition and degree? He would agree that I am more likely to get a better job than he is, I'm not trying to be harsh.
Would you consider it or stick to the original plan? Obviously this is all hypothetical as I haven't even applied, let alone had an interview!

No brainer for me, I'd apply with gusto!! Good luck

Thank you @flumpybear. Would the fact that you'd see your kids a lot less impact your decision?

Make a plan, and get signed with your dp.

Go for it

Aligned not signed

NHS does have a good pension etc. You can always look at neighbouring trusts. The NHS also throws money at training, which is another positive. If you are only on 800pcm you are either part time or a very low band. Agenda for Change ahs levelled out some of the incremental jumps so you are unlikely to get more than three before you re top of your band. That said, things move in the NHS with every government and new directive.

If I were in your shoes I'd go for the better job and work out the logistics after.

The risk you run though is that society does still stereotype, everyone will think your partner is a cock lodger and mumping from you .

Im going to be brutal. Even with the skill set, your current job, is PT, low(er) skilled and you've had a career gap? You aren't going to top the candidate list at the top end of the salary range. (That was armchair advice from the resident recruitment consultant - you're really going to have to work that CV and upsell.

As long as someone sees your kids and come Sunday you give them 110% of your time and Energy I think it’s a no brainer

Personally I'd make plenty of time at weekends and on holidays with my children, if your DH can care for them in the morning g and after school then that would be fine for me, yes a bit sad but it's to get the most out of your career and enough money to make sure the children are not left without and hopefully you'll get some good holidays with the xtra money

Go for the higher paid job then sort everything else if you get it. I'm stuck in local government part time, similar pay and hours to yourself. It was great while the kids were younger but moving out and up is difficult. Good luck,

The new job is a dental receptionist job so I'm not talking Alan Sugar level here! It is £14 an hour though which is life changing compared to what I'm on now.
I've been a dental receptionist/ practice manager for pretty much my whole career. I've worked in three of the top private dentists in Bristol, and I'm a dental nurse too (though not registered) so I think I've got a good chance at the job. Not being big headed, just trying to justify why I think I could ask for that much. I left my previous jobs because there is no career progression in dental receptionist work, it's not like if you work there long enough they make you a dentist!
Now I've had children, I don't need to progress as much, just earn a living wage. Yes NHS pension is brilliant but I'm sick of my card getting declined when I'm trying to buy basic groceries!
DP not keen, thinks he should provide for his family.

Will the commuting costs off set the pay increase? Will you actually be better off ?

I would go for it and then make a decision if I got it.

@UnicornBrexit I will as dp won't be getting the bus to work, but I'll get the bus instead.

As long as someone sees your kids and come Sunday you give them 110% of your time and Energy I think it’s a no brainer

I'd love to know how to give 110% of my time to anything! Please explain.

But it doesn't sound like DP is on board with this at all so that is something you are going to have to consider. £14 an hour isnt 2x minimum wage. And tax etc would have to come out of it. Also most supermarkets now only employ part time but that has to include a weekend so he would either not be there to look after them on a Saturday or not be there on a Sunday giving you no family time..

I think whether DP is on board is a big factor. The idea that the man has to be the main provider is so outdated, but unfortunately some men find it difficult to swallow. But as long as he could provide the care to the kids that you're currently providing, I would definitely go for it.

It doesn't have to be forever if you get it - give it a year or two and then keep an eye out for similar positions more local?

It's always worth applying just in case

@sweeneytoddsrazor you're right, there's a lot to consider. Also I really enjoy my current job in mental health. I am never bored and treated as an equal by the consultants and clinicians in a way I haven't been before. Usually I'm just treated like a skivvy or a complete moron. My ex boss told me 'you're very intelligent but that's not really what we want in this industry. We want to to look nice and answer the phone.' I was 24 and so didn't think anything of it, now I would have taken him to the cleaners!

*you

I think it's actually a relief on the relationships board to find a bloke who wants to provide for his family!

If I were your partner, though, as you are not married I'd be very reluctant to work part-time in a shop, without any legal protection that marriage offers.

What are the working hours for the new job? It sounds as though it's six days per week.

I would stay in your current job and train in your spare time for something else.

@HollowTalk you get Tuesdays and Wednesdays off. It's every Saturday and 1 in 4 Sunday's.