ps, AND even though I am doing it NOW< it's because my DC are teens and they don't need to be minded every second that I'm not there. Although obviously I should be there more than I am.
As @unicornBrexit says ''There is something very wrong with society when doing a hard days graft doesn't give you enough to live on.''
This is very true. The old economic unit of the family held up as the ideal means that the state doesn't have to incur the cost of the next generation, it is women who are bearing that cost. Even if they're in a relationship often their job is paid less and deemed less valuable to the family income so they're the one who has to ring in sick and damage their status at work when the baby is sick.
In my opinion the RIGHT thing to do would be to have state provided childcare so that women aren't penalised for motherhood MORE than men are penalised for fatherhood. Over and over and over again, across races, cultures, income bands, it is mothers who pay the price for parenthood, while fathers' price for parenthood is much less impactful on their life/wealth/career.
And yes, to quote and agree with @unicornbrexit again, this is why women often stay in shitty relationships. I can understand it. If you'd only be swapping one kind of abject misery and disconnection for poverty and anxiety, then I do understand why women stay in crappy relationships.