People who don't stop talking

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NC for this one. My Mil is here and has not stopped talking since arriving. Other opinions are not welcome because she is always right. She dominants the whole conversation and its non stop for hours! Find it quite annoying. Any of you have friends or family members who talk non stop, barely let others have a word in and is always always right.

I know a couple of them, and they are absolutely unbearable to be around. I think a lot of these non-stop talkers have a certain amount of social anxiety and are paranoid/terrified of silence. It's exhausting being around them.

A couple of years ago I cut a friend like this out of my life as i just couldn't stand it any more....
Sad but yes YANBU....its infuriating and exhausting.

Yes it is exhausting.
Is your MIL very lonely? I have found some very lonely people do this as well.

Not sure if she is lonely. She has a husband and 3 adult children. Not sure how often others visit. They each live about a 30 minutes drive away and we live an hour and a half away (less if not much traffic)

She has talked non stop for 2 hours, no more than a 10 second break

This would drive me nuts. There’s a woman at work I daren't say hello to because it kicks off a full-length monologue. Shut UP!!

I know someone like this. She's nice and not opinionated but everyone who has met her has commented on how much she talks. It is non-stop. It's exhausting. I don't see that much of her now and it's a relief.

I'm not psychologist but I reckon that conversational skills don't come naturally to everyone. Some kids may need to be taught how to have back and forth conversations and if this doesn't happen it's hard to get out of the monologuing habit.

She occasionally asks what do you think, but the only acceptable reply is agreeing with her

I had one working for me, I let her go in the end as it drove me round the bend...even when I asked her yo be quiet so I could concentrate she made a weird noise in her throat like she was dying yo talk but holding it in!

I worked with someone like this. I dont like interrupting people, but I soon learned if I had a work related question, to just interrupt her after she had answered it. Otherwise you would still be there 30 minutes later.

I get verbal diarhoea because of social anxiety, being out of practice conversing, and having adhd. But I don't assume people to agree with me and I also apologise for blabbing on and on. Then I go very quiet for ages. It helps me if others talk

My mother in law is opposite and it’s equally irritating. She just stares and smiles and waits to be entertained, only offers up the odd bit of chat - normally to tell you about someone we have never met who’s husband is in hospital. It’s exhausting spending a few hours with her. Known quite a few people with verbal diarrhoea and just end up switching off as get bored, I do think it can often be an anxiety thing where they feel like a second of silence is a bad thing

What does she talk about?

I dunnon how people do this - I would literally run out of things to say!

Yes, I have a non-stop talker in the family like this. I have three kids and when in their combined presence if I ask anyone a question NST will answer.
Even if I address the question directly to the toddler "which colour is this brick" for instance NST will say "ooh look your mummy has a red brick, that's a lovely red brick isnt it? do you like red? Your car is red. Sandra has a red car ..did I tell you about Sandra's daughter ..." and on, and on. They also talk alot about a hobby they know I am disinterested in.
I want to scream "I dont know who Sandra is and I dont care about HOBBY" but instead I end up tuning out and feeling rude.

She sounds very annoying

I wonder how their kids ever learn to talk.

No friends or relatives, but last week I had an operation. I was brought up from the recovery room around 12. The minute the nurses left me, the woman across from me on the ward came over and started talking. And talking. And talking. For 3 fucking hours until my family arrived. I was just out of surgery and needed to sleep but she wouldn't fuck off. I didn't say a single word to her as I was too out of it. But I got to listen to her entire medical history and that of every other person she'd ever known.

Yes I know a few people like this, who just talk and talk, so that:

• You lose the thread of what they’re talking about, and aren’t invited to contribute anyway
• if you did manage a word in edgeways your contribution would be talked over or ignored
• you end up not asking them many questions in general because you fear being trapped in a monologue for ages
• you end up feeling rude and/or irritated because you’ve absorbed so little of what they’ve said

All of the people I’m thinking of are lovely in many ways. It’s hard to know how to address the issue (some people who are like this are also a bit fragile, I think) but I do tell people that if I start over-talking I want to be told straight out.

WeAreTheWeirdosMister My mum is like this. My husband once referred to her as "a wall of noise" and he was spot on. She just can't have silence. Can't cope with it. Must fill it immediately. I must have learned to zone it out, to a point, when I still lived with her but since moving out I really struggle with it and find her company exhausting. My late dad was able to zone it out too.

I feel so mean as she is a lovely lovely person, she's kindness itself and everyone loves her (including me) but it really does make my brain hurt. I also don't know who Sandra is, or care about her new car .

And talking about how many steps they've done and how good they are being or how naughty they have been, current weight, "got to lose it before holiday". After I have said I dont like diet talk in front my kids.

I used to know someone like this, a relation of my exh. It wasn't so much the non stop talking that used to irritate me but the fact that she never listened to anything anyone else had to say, so she'd talk over people or just ignore comments you made.

Anyway, feeling in a slightly contrary mood one day when, then husband, and I were visiting her and her family, I let her keep talking but every so often I would make a comment or observation that was completely unrelated to anything she was saying.

My remarks got more and more distant from hers and in the end we were carrying on two parallel but completely unrelated monologues. She either didn't notice or chose not to.

Her teenage daughter noticed and as the visit was coming to an end pointed out what we had been doing; I denied all knowledge.

Petty, but it made a very boring afternoon slightly more amusing.

Yep. Totally exhausting. I love my mother to death but all she wants to do is tell me every single detail about her week and is not interested in a back and forth conversation. I’ve even had to suffer a 2 hour film being described to be scene by scene. Those ‘conversations’ can last whole afternoon’s. I can feel my teeth starting to itch wishing she’d just give me a brief synopsis, but no 😬

Sheshoots, my DM is very similar to that. She can spend forever describing the plot of something she’s watched, or the content of something she read, even if you read/watched it too. And there’s so much stuff about other people- I wonder how she listened to them for long enough to find it out! She’s quite a strident person in some ways anyway but is quite elderly now and hard of hearing. I sometimes wonder if that contributes to the one way talking, as she fears not being able to keep up with dialogue. Not sure if that’s the case, just a thought.