People who don't stop talking

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NC for this one. My Mil is here and has not stopped talking since arriving. Other opinions are not welcome because she is always right. She dominants the whole conversation and its non stop for hours! Find it quite annoying. Any of you have friends or family members who talk non stop, barely let others have a word in and is always always right.

I used to work with someone like this - beginning any conversation with them was the start of an endless monologue, which would eventually morph into a running commentary on the work she was doing. They had absolutely no ability to read a cue that the recipient of their ‘chat’ had had enough, and got upset at those who put headphones in because they were “antisocial”.

Drove me mad.

My friend can talk at me for an hour or 2 at a time. Lots of tales of victimhood, what exercise classes she’s done this week and references to people by name despite me not knowing them.
I see it as a time to zone out from the issues of my own life, and she thinks it’s a 2 way conversation so it’s quite fulfilling for her.

@Pig, I've always wanted to try that

My MIL is the same. She says that if she isn't talking it feels as though the walls are closing in on her. She is lovely but I can only handle her in small doses.

SnuggyBuggy Do it! I found it rather satisfying in an odd way

Is she quite shy? Sometimes people hide shyness by talking a lot, finding silences really hard. Or maybe she's excited to see you? Does she see you often? Will she perhaps calm down after a while?

I sometimes do this. But I has ASD, and this is a very common trait for women with ASD. If you add in lonliness or social anxiety you can get a non-stop natter train. Mostly harmless. That said, some people just like the sound of their own voice. Have you said anything? If I'm in a chatter loop I appreciate friends and family being really blunt because I don't always realise.

My mum does this. I don't know why she bothers asking questions as she doesn't want an answer, she's just waiting impatiently for the next chance to start talking. She also has to relate to absolutely everything anyone says, in minute detail, even when most of the time it's by the most tenuous link. Example would be "what did you do yesterday?" "I went to a&e because my eye fell out and..." interrupting "oooof I remember in 2002 when I had conjunctivitis and...drones on...."

And as they get older it gets more and more about their bowel habits

Someone in a hobby I partake in is like this, they make a beeline for me and don't shut up from the moment I get there until I leave. My ears feel like they're bleeding by the end of the day and they are starting to really ruin the hobby I have enjoyed for about 30 years!! This person assumes I need to spend the entire day with them and I really feel like telling them to F the F off but for one or two reasons can't deal with the all out of upsetting them. Wish they would just take the hint that their company is dull as F**k!!!

This could be my father in law, only his opinions are bigoted- and I have to censor him in front of the kids- if he wasnt my fil I would not entertain him in the house. He loves to put me down, cant stand that I earn more than dp and still manage to do all for the kids. He only lives half an hour away and comes twice a week, usually at bath and bed time for the two youngest and talks non stop for 2-3 hours and gets all offended that I have to get the kids sorted. Bah!

I have a tendency to fill any silences when I'm in a 'make conversation' sort of situation - my mother gave me a massive bollocking when I was 10 for not making conversation with a friend of hers for a whole 1.5 hour journey (it was just me and her in the car), and similarly would get incredibly angry if I didn't make conversation with her too. My mother wouldn't start talking herself, oh no; it HAD to be me or her face would get blacker and blacker, then she'd erupt in a savage eviseration of whatever aspect of me came to mind.

Funnily enough it's left me with a bit of a phobia of silences, even though I know not everyone is a fucking psycho my mother.....

I work with one of these. Lovely lady. But exhausting. Needs alot of attention and will talk drivel to herself if nobody is next to her. I'm so grateful I've got a buffer colleague between us. When she's on leave I get the full force. Tiring.

I have a colleague who can talk nonstop for a good fifteen minutes without actually imparting more than one sentence-worth of information. She just rephrases what she has already said slightly and repeats herself over and over again, and nobody else can get a word in.It’s torturous. She’s a nice woman but I know more than one person who just can’t tolerate her company.

My mother and my sister. So annoying!! At least I can just tell them to shut up though, they don't generally get offended!

My mum is like this, it is both exhausting and annoying as she’s well aware that she does it - so why not stop?

It is sad as I literally never ask her a question about herself, her holidays etc as to do so is to invite a monologue lasting hours.

I think it is sometimes nerves, but that doesn’t explain why she does it with her own family!

There are 2 sorts of people that do this - those who are completely full of themselves and perceive themselves to be the centre of the universe, and those with crippling social anxiety who are terrified of silence and so fill the space by constant talking, never knowing that if they would only shut up, someone else could talk and give them a break
Unfortunately, though you may think you know which category your MIL falls into, you can never be totally sure.
Sometimes seemingly arrogant people are just hiding social anxiety.

There’s a member of my family who just talks and talks and talks. Asks constant questions she knows the answer to, or asks questions about the film we’re watching when we’ve never seen it either, thus meaning we don’t learn what the film is more than likely to reveal, narrates everything as they’re doing it, and the second they see you’re busy doing something like reading or about to make a phone call will do everything they can to interrupt you. And 75% of their talking could be categorised as moaning.

I have a coworker like this. Constant talking about mundane things. I block her out and don't let myself be a captive audience.