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Champions league ban at wedding

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:21

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 19/05/2019 20:11

@ManchesterBorn it isn't half the wedding! It's 8pm at night. It's all over!!

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:11

There is a woman whose son's funeral was on cup final so they had tellies on because the son would love to watch it if he was alive. Bless her.

that's lovely.

however the similarity would be if the bride and groom had decided to organise to view the football on their own day, which is their choice. The issue is more about guests behaviour and disregard for the people who invited them.
Nothing wrong to chose to view the footie or an MMA final on your wedding day, it's your day.

cccameron · 19/05/2019 20:12

FFS it's just not comparable in any way to watching an episode of GOT or bloody Eastenders. You can't watch it later when everyone knows the results. The joy is being with your tribe. Singing, chanting, shouting at the ref, the agony when you are losing, the overwhelming joy you share with everyone when you score, the joy and relief when that whistle blows and you've won. Istanbul was one of the best nights of my life and always will be. Its not a TV programme, its a live immersive game.

I'm also wondering now whether this is real because I just don't think anyone getting married in Liverpool would not have at least a TV in a separate room on at their wedding.

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:12

Contraceptionismyfriend

Some posters find it hard to believe apparently, but none of the wedding I have ever been were remotely mid-way by 8pm. That very one might be, but if it's anything like any other wedding, surely it won't be?

PCohle · 19/05/2019 20:13

It's a private party for family, friends and acquaintances of two people. It's barely a notch up from a birthday party as a community event.

What do you think community is if not friends, family and acquaintances?

But if you want to believe strangers shouting at the TV in their own front rooms is community worship then good for you. Apparently Eastenders is a fucking religion now.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 19/05/2019 20:14

I can't see the email not being finished by 8pm. Which means that it's a perfectly respectable time for guests to thank the bride and groom and leave!!

Nobody is saying they have to show the game.

But they can't then bitch when by 9:30 they have barely anyone around.

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:15

FFS it's just not comparable in any way to watching an episode of GOT or bloody Eastenders.
speak for yourself!

Of course it's not the same to watch it when everybody else knows the ending and there are spoilers everywhere.

It's quite telling that you cannot comprehend that something else than football can be just as important for other people. This attitude is exactly why people look down at football fans.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 19/05/2019 20:17

OK so GOT is as important to you as this game. That's fine. Then you can understand that for some leaving the wedding at 8pm is fine to go and watch.

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 19/05/2019 20:20

This definitely was all said and done during the world Cup.. And that is done way in advance.

cccameron · 19/05/2019 20:22

It's quite telling that you cannot comprehend that something else than football can be just as important for other people

I have absolutely no problem whatsoever understanding that people find different things important. If you want to miss a wedding so you can watch Eastenders then crack on. Each to their own. Don't criticise football fans if they want to watch their team play in the champions league final if that's the case!

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:22

Then you can understand that for some leaving the wedding at 8pm is fine to go and watch.

well, no, that's the point. I think it's non only rude but very unkind. I would prefer to watch GOT (or pick up a new iphone or do whatever thing I am obsessed with), but as I agree to attend a wedding, I won't bail out mid way because I recognise that it's a very important day for the couple.

Emergencies, sickness or last minute drama can be a valid excuse. A football match, sorry, it's not on. I might moan to my DH that I am annoyed to miss my event, but I'll make the most of the wedding and have a nice time there.

For guests it's one wedding among many, but it's the one and only day for the couple.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 19/05/2019 20:24

How is 8pm not an acceptable time to leave?! All the pomf is done. The obligation has been met.

Snakelight · 19/05/2019 20:26

But if you want to believe strangers shouting at the TV in their own front rooms is community worship then good for you. Apparently Eastenders is a fucking religion now.
I doubt most fans will be watching on their own. When I was in Liverpool for the 2005 final, people were queuing round the block to get into certain bars 10 hours before kick off. Every pub and bar was absolutely packed. I'm not a Liverpool fan, but ended up hugging loads of random fans in the bar during the course of the game, such were the overwhelming emotions. After the final whistle, there were tens of thousands of people singing together and celebrating. People of all social, religious and ethnic backgrounds were brought together by the sheer, unadulterated joy of it all. Not even a royal wedding comes anywhere close to that.

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:31

How is 8pm not an acceptable time to leave?! All the pomf is done. The obligation has been met.

I can't comment on that very wedding, I don't know.

None of the weddings I have ever been invited to were near the end at 8pm. Even when very pregnant and keen to leave at earliest possible acceptable time I have never made it out of the door before midnight.

FamilyOfAliens · 19/05/2019 20:33

This attitude is exactly why people look down at football fans.

I think that’s just you, actually, and it sounds like you don’t need an excuse.

elsabadogigante · 19/05/2019 20:35

They won't have 200 guests to worry about with such a ban and 'this day is about us' waaaaaa! Football is 'real life' as much as some evening do. It's good they've let people know, though, so they can opt out of going to the evening do or leave so they can catch the match.

Sacredspace · 19/05/2019 20:36

To be honest, wedding receptions can be long and tedious! In my opinion there should be more entertainment provided. So screening a major sporting event could really add something special to the atmosphere.

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 20:42

I think that’s just you, actually, and it sounds like you don’t need an excuse.

you might want to read the thread FamilyOfAliens...

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/05/2019 20:45

It's a small point, perhaps, but why do so many mention folk "slipping out for 90 minutes"?

With the interval and extra time it's actually nearer 2 hours - and that's without factoring in possible penalty shoot outs and fans wanting to watch the warm up, see the trophy presented and goodness knows what else

Loopey007 · 19/05/2019 20:47

It’s their big day it takes a lot of planning and costs a fortune so I can understand them being upset. Perhaps they shouldn’t go at all and save the couple some money if a game of football is more important. At least the couple would know where they stand and that would be no where in their lives.

FamilyOfAliens · 19/05/2019 20:48

you might want to read the thread FamilyOfAliens

Way ahead of you there mate.

Matildalamp · 19/05/2019 20:49

Two Premier League teams in the Champions League final should be reason enough for everyone the length and breadth of the United Kingdom to watch. And I say that as a Scot Smile I wouldn’t stop anyone watching football at my wedding or any other sport. Not turned up loud during the important parts of the day obviously. But otherwise, why not?

Snowdropheaven · 19/05/2019 20:50

The bride and groom should not be dicks and allow people to watch it!

Snowdropheaven · 19/05/2019 20:51

And to those saying record the match, don't be so fucking stupid!

IvanaPee · 19/05/2019 20:53

There are some among us who think it’s pretty “fucking stupid” to be that obsessive about watching men kick a ball around for 90 minutes.

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