AIBU to not want GMil to be left alone in my house

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Mil wants to bring her mother (is it GMil?) and said to dh that we can go for a walk with DC while GMil stays at the house while watching a film because she can't walk far. I don't want to either have to look after her or to leave her alone in my house because I barely know her and she can barely walk and is becoming forgetful. I don't like the idea of leaving someone I barely know in a room or house alone for what could be a few hours. I have no idea if she is trustworthy or that she wont look in rooms, cupboards or drawers. According to mil she is a narcissist which I have no evidence for or against because I barely know her.

I really cannot see what the problem is. She is an elderly lady with mobility problems, she wants to come & get out of her house for a while see some family & then relax while you go for a walk for what max 1hr?. What do you think she's going to do exactly?. Spend some time with her, make her a cuppa & head out. The way some peope on here treat family is strange.

yabu

You sound hostile towards gmil who you seem to hardly know. It seems like you’re transferring your feelings for Mil over to gmil which isn’t fair.

“I have to say you are being vvu not to want a total stranger rootling through your drawers.”

Of course nobody should rootle through your drawers.
But why on earth would you assume somebody would?

Oh, and she’s not a total stranger!

I would buy some scary big dildos and put them in any cupboard/ drawer etc that she has no business opening or going trough.

And maybe mention your pet tarantula named Granny has been missing for a few days and is probably hiding somewhere in the house. Be careful, she might get agressive if you surprise her.

I'd be afraid of her falling and injuring herself or get confused and agitated in a new unfamiliar place

She’s your husbands bloody grandmother. Why do you think she will rooting in drawers? Weird assumption.

“Let her in, and let her rootle”

Oh don’t be silly- of course she shouldn’t rootle. But why are you assuming she will?
And of course she Isn’t a total stranger - she’s the husband’s grandmother^!!!

How forgetful is she? Slightly scatty or turn the gas on/go for a wander out the door forgetful?

Yanbu. Dh can stay home, in fact all should if granny is coming to see them and cant walk.

I barely know her

Why do you barely know her? Does your DH not bother with her? That just sounds really sad to me tbh.

I hope when I am older and even more forgetful, and disabled than I am now, that I don't have young relatives discussing what a nuisance I am, on the rare occasion I get the chance to see my great grandchild.

Intrigued as to what wicked crimes and hideous mess an elderly lady could create on being left alone. She’s your dh grandmother!

If I thought they considered me a nuisance, I would piss on the chair, just to make a point....

She's your husband's grandmother, not a stranger, and by the sound of it, quite elderly, what the hell is she likely to do? Invite her bike gang round for an afternoon of hard drugs and knife throwing contests using your doors as targets?

I'm also puzzled about why your MIL is 'toxic' because she quite sensibly works to avoid the sixteen quiches and a lemon meringue' scenario at family gatherings. I wish I was that organised.

I know MIL have been an issue on MN for years, and that was bad enough, but if it's now moving on to grandmothers, and well, words fail me.

I love the previous poster who proclaimed that "MN has previous advised NC" as if mumsnet is acting in some kind of specialist, informed capacity that cannot be questioned

This thread is madness. What on earth is so terrifying about having your husband's Granny in your house?

pantsville I wonder if it's the same MN committee who advise people to log mundane things with the police, or are they a separate department?

And who deals with the policy on loo brushes?

Loo brushes are the same department as shoes off.

How very bizarre. Only on MN!