Do I be honest what I think about this name

[Driftingthoughlife]

With everything going on with DH (previous thread) I may be potentially be about to fall out with my best mate if I tell the truth
She is pregnant due in a month and she has texted me to ask what I think of the name they have chosen. I think it’s awful. She says she really values my opinion
I don’t know if I can take falling out at the moment so aibu to lie and say it’s lovely but at the same time in am thinking this poor kid has to live with this name

Is it possible she is having a laugh and testing you to see what you would say?

Nellie is usually an nn but it’s quite nice and underused, never heard that it means silly.

I have close friends with children and not keen on any of thier kids names tbh - would never say though as it’s rude and hurtful.

Nellie isnt great to start with but to add the Ann makes it awful. I would tell her it wouldn't be your choice

That’s nice. If I were Nellie l’d probably ditch the Ann as l got older.

I might be bias as my beautiful late grandmother was Nellie, her actual name was Ellen and Nellie for her nn

Nellie-Ann sounds like a donkeys name and inknow a lot is ‘-ann’s’ - this is the first time I’ve actually disliked the first and second name when joined together.

Tell her you don’t like it but she should what she likes. It’s her child.

The thing is, if she uses it, every time someone says the kids name you're going to be thinking Nellie the elephant and hear the song in your head.🤣

She's asked for your opinion so she can't really get the huff if you give it can she? Just tell her you're not sure about it,which everyone knows is code for 'I fucking hate it.' Job done.

Oh God, the first thing I thought of was the spoilt brat from "Little house on the prairie". It's a definite no from me!

I don't like this two name thing anyway. I know someone who has a Lilli Sue and a Daisi Mai. Yes, that is how she spells them .....

I like Nellie, expect they'll drop the Ann later.
Isn't it short for Helena?
"Pretty name, can't wait to meet her'

Agree, moderated honesty
It isn't my personal taste but what matters is you love it
I wouldn't have picked it, but I'm sure it'll suit her
Etc

Perhaps gently suggest Nell would be nicer and less likely to get her bullied as Nellie means silly which is exactly what a hyphenated first name is...

Whilst I genuinely do really like the name Nellie, ‘Nellie-Ann’ sounds like something a young girl would call her fanny.

It sounds nice but looks dreadful. It would be better without the hyphen.

I’ve never heard it means silly. Is this a regional thing?

Agree with Sleeping

“Not my cup of tea but if you like it ....,”

I like Nell but Nellie-Ann is god-awful!!

I always pronounce AIBU as 'eye-boo' in my head, it would be a fine name

Nellie-Ann is a bad name but just smile and nod and say how lovely!

If you don’t and you say you don’t like it and she calls her child that she will always think of you as the friend who doesn’t like her child’s name. Your opinion is unlikely to change her mind.

Take this from someone whose friend is suggesting the most god awful names in a bid to be unusual.

Could you say “As you know I prefer more traditional/unusual/gender neutral (delete as appropriate) names but if you love it, that’s all that matters”

I know someone whose 3 youngest girls are Princess-Honey Rose, Nevaeh-Lee Brooke and Blossom-Skye Yvonne. I kid you not.
So Nellie-Ann doesn't seem quite so bad.

I think you have to be honest. A friend of mine wanted to give her son a ridiculous name. I was very open about my dislike of it and pointed out he was a human not her pet and he'd get ridiculed all his life for it. (Along the lines of hideous sleb kiddeeze names like Honeychucklepie). In the end she gave him a totally normal name. Her daughter had a mid-way outlandish name that no one disagreed with and now my friend regrets it.

I like Nellie.

If it was my best mate and she valued my opinion, there is no way I would lie to her. I agree with others who have said be honest, but in a subtle/tactful way.

Something along the lines of:
'Its not something I personally would chose, but if you like it, then don't let me put you off, after all, it's your decision that matters'

Is it actually going to be Nellie Ann, like Sarah Jane?

Or just Nellie? Maybe suggest Nell instead?

I know someone whose 3 youngest girls are Princess-Honey Rose, Nevaeh-Lee Brooke and Blossom-Skye Yvonne. I kid you not.
So Nellie-Ann doesn't seem quite so bad .

YVONNE!! How the hell did Yvonne get in there?! 😲😆