First time poster after months of lurking so please be gentle.
Bit of backstory family do Friday night dinner. Hosted at my place as we have the most space. There are 8 adults and 4 kids. Everyone contributes to the meal I.e drinks, sides etc although they’ve never been asked to.
This week things have been a little tight so i’d budgeted and got everything I needed for the meal with my weekly shop.
Got a text from DM saying that with the weather being great she thought we’d rather have a bbq. She went on to tell me she’d let everyone know the change of plans and what they needed to bring. And I I need to sort out is the meat (which we can’t afford) and the charcoal for the bbq. She is bringing nothing.
I called her to explain that I couldn’t afford to buy the meat for everyone and that I’d already bought in everything I needed for the dinner. Then explained that if she wanted to provide the meat that was great if not It would have to be cancelled.
She then spent a good 10 mins ranting that she couldn’t afford it and that’s why she wasn’t bringing anything. Even though she is much better of financially than us all. That I was spoilt and entitled for expecting to just buy the charcoal before hanging up on me.
Was I unreasonable?