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Friend thinks I'm fat! Size 10-12 after 2 kids FFS

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 20:37

Not sure if posting in the right place. So I had a baby 6 months ago and have not lost all the weight I gained in pregnancy yet. Although I have lost quite a bit and am size 10 in most clothes, some 12. before baby I was a size 8 and by the end of pregnancy size 14. My friend visited when my baby was 3 months and we had a lovely catch up. Then she visited again a few days ago. One of the first things she said to me was : "you've put on weight". I told her I have not put on any more weight since I last saw her and in fact have lost some. She told me not to worry and that she's sure I'll lose it. I explained I've got more to lose but that I'm not really worried about it. I then tried to speak to her about other things and forget about this comment and she again stopped talking to say "yeah you have put weight on". I said no I have not again and she then said "oh maybe it's the clothes you're wearing then". What the actual F??!!! We then didn't mention it again but those comments have been playing on my mind. Why would she say that to me?! Did she want to upset me? I just don't know

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ZippyBungleandGeorge · 14/05/2019 20:39

She's a cunt. I have a five month old, I was a ten before I'm a 16 now! I'll get the weght off at some point, I'd love to be in a twelve now.....

Erythronium · 14/05/2019 20:39

Women's weight is up for public discussion apparently. It's none of her business, and she's being nasty making comments like this.

Cottonwoolmouth · 14/05/2019 20:39

She was being a dick. You obviously looked great and it pissed her off

IDontDrinkTea · 14/05/2019 20:40

She sounds like a rude cow. Whether it’s true or not, it’s not something you should ever vocalise. Even if you’d put on ten stone it’s rude to mention it!

ScrommidgeClaryAndSpunt · 14/05/2019 20:40

She is not a friend, OP. She is a cunt.

SummerHouse · 14/05/2019 20:41

Strange woman. Forget her comments. Not worth your headspace.

MrsMozartMkII · 14/05/2019 20:41

She's a rude mare.

You just do your thing in your time lass. Bugger the irriates.

Lifeisabeach09 · 14/05/2019 20:43

Your friend is a weight-obsessed arsehole. Get new friends

Outofinspiration · 14/05/2019 20:47

This woman is not your friend - what a dick!

AnneField · 14/05/2019 20:49

before baby I was a size 8

This speaks volumes. Do you remember that thread the other day where the OP was rubbing her hands together with glee at a friend putting weight on? I wonder if they are the same person. Some people (not all, just some) seem to have an irrational jealousy over slimmer people. Sometimes because they have issues with their own weight, sometimes because THEY want to be the slimmest, not you.

Honestly though, size 10-12 is a lovely slim size to be. It most certainly is NOT fat. And six months after giving birth too! I can only conclude that this woman is, as what's known in the industry, a jealous cow. Please don't take her comments to heart.

PickAChew · 14/05/2019 20:52

Well your so called friend has a big fat gob.

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 20:52

We used to be very close, like sisters, but over the last couple of years I've distanced myself from her due to the drama always surrounding her life (which she creates, long story). But I kind of missed her so thought would be great to catch up and rebuild our friendship more. Wish I hadn't bloody bothered. It's annoying as I was quite happy with the weight I already lost and thought I looked ok. Now she made me think I actually look like shit.

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managedmis · 14/05/2019 20:53

What did she think she was going to achieve by saying this?

Littlechocola · 14/05/2019 20:56

You need new friends

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 14/05/2019 20:57

I wish I was as fat as you Grin

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 20:57

Annefield I hadn't seen that post. She's a slim size 8 herself but achieves that by limiting her diet and doing excercise. But it's not like she suggested to go out for a bloody run together, she just stated that I've put weight on. Which I really have not.

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Langrish · 14/05/2019 20:58

Annefield

“Honestly though, size 10-12 is a lovely slim size to be. It most certainly is NOT fat.”

(Sorry to be awkward, that depends how tall you are. It is if your 5ft.)

But I agree, if you were a slim size 8 pre-pregnancy she may just be enjoying a bit of a float, only she knows why, ignore her and enjoy this lovely time with your baby.

RosaWaiting · 14/05/2019 20:58

"Do you remember that thread the other day where the OP was rubbing her hands together with glee at a friend putting weight on?"

oh yes. This is that kind of friend OP, sorry. Drop and move on.

Samind · 14/05/2019 20:58

Could she possibly be jealous of your life OP?

Nasty cow all the same.

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 20:58

That's exactly what I'd like to know-what did she want to achieve by saying that??

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comedycentral · 14/05/2019 20:59

You don't need friends like her.

Langrish · 14/05/2019 20:59

Gloat, not float Grin

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 21:00

I am 5ft 3 Blush

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HogMother · 14/05/2019 21:01

I’d like to say I haven’t lost the weight from my 2yr old, but in all honesty, I didn’t lose it from my five year old... don’t invite her back

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Mama2EE · 14/05/2019 21:02

Any chance someone could put a link to the post that 2 people have mentioned now?

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