To not talk to OH over this?! Dog nearly got ran over!

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We was on our way to the park OH grabbed the dog lead of DS 2 as we was crossing the road. OH gave the lead back to DS as we walking up the busy road and I'm saying to OH stop let me get the lead of DS because I'm getting anxiety watching him walking the dog so close to the busy road stop stop can you just stop because I don't want him to get run over. He's ignoring me and carries on walking and says Prince isn't stupid enough to walk in the road.

I knew what was going to happen DS drops the lead dog starts freaking out in the road lorry has to slam his breaks on I let go of the pushchair and I'm trying to get my dog out the road I'm now shaken up and in tears.

OH keeps saying you care more about "your stupid dog than you do about your daughter" but it was my first reaction to save my dog so I let go of the pushchair.

I'm so shaken up I had to walk back home!

I think you’re both in shock tbh. Try to forgive each other!

He knows he’s in the wrong so he’s deflecting blame

Your husband is a fool!

I'm so angry if he just stopped when I asked him to this would of never happened!

So you let go of the pushchair with your daughter in it to save your dog?

No wonder your husband said you think more of the dog than your daughter.

YANBU. He knows he messed up so he's blaming you.

So you let go of the pushchair with your daughter in it to save your dog?

The pushchair that was presumably on the pavement...

A 2 year old isn’t mature enough to walk the dog. DH is an arse.
But you let go of the pushchair? Was this a totally flat and safe place or could it have rolled away? I understand the panic but you can’t risk your child being killed for the sake of a dog. (And I bloody adore my dog.)

You let a 2 year old hold a dog's lead? Not a good idea.

So you let go of the pushchair with your daughter in it to save your dog?

A pushchair that was on the pavement

No wonder your husband said you think more of the dog than your daughter.

She wouldn’t have needed to let go of the pushchair if her cunt of a husband hadn’t endangered the dog in the first place. Poor OP was just desperately trying to avert a potentially horrifying situation and acted rashly / in the spur of the moment.

OP your husband is a proper prick and I don’t blame you for being furious. Please also know that he’s only deflecting blame on to you in this cruel way because he knows he was wrong and doesn’t want to face up to it.

I'd have screeched at my husband 'get the fucking dog' then he would have had a boot firmly up his backside for being a dumbass

Never let go of a pram best a road though - I'd lose a dog, parent or husband before my child

Was the pushchair on the pavement with the brake on or did you just let go of it? There’s a big difference between the two.
That said, the whole situation could have been avoided if your OH had listened to you when you said that your DS wasn’t capable of keeping hold of the dog next to the busy road.
I think you’ve all had a scare, I would suggest you all let it go but absolutely reiterate that your DS is only allowed to walk the dog on the lead in quite places like in the park.

A child shouldn’t be holding the lead of a dog unless they’re capable of controlling that dog when it is startled, excited or afraid.

So you let go of the pushchair with your daughter in it to save your dog?

No wonder your husband said you think more of the dog than your daughter.

So what, is her husband a quadriplegic or something then? What was he doing while the toddler had the dog and wife pushing a buggy.

He's a twat.

Op you should stand up to him, you knew what would happen and it did. It's very fortunate the dog didn't spook and pull your child onto the road with it.

He was wrong to give the lead to DS. You were wrong to let go of pushchair.
Neither of you have covered yourselves in glory here and I don't think either of you can give out to the other.

Who let the 2 year old walk the dog in the first place?

I don't understand why he realised it was a stupid idea while you were crossing the road, but not whilst on the pavement.

He was certainly stupid not to take the lead back once you'd pointed out the danger.

When my DS1 was a tiny baby my husband kept lying him on his knees and not holding onto him.

Every time I asked him to keep a hand on him just in case and every time he scoffed that I was being ridiculous and nothing would ever...

Of course DS1 flipped over and hit the floor headfirst (thankfully nothing broken). I went absolutely silent and DH made the mistake of saying 'if you hadn't been talking at me I'd have been concentrating...'

He barely escaped losing a testicle that day. Men are just utterly shit at listening and kings of the blame game. for you OP.

We was on the pavement when I let go OH grabbed the pushchair. I have a small chihuahua so the thought of him getting crushed by that lorry was going through my head.

I love my dog but he's not that important.

This kind of thing gives me the fucking rage. That baby on lap thing is the kind of thing DH would have done and if I'd have pulled him up on it he'd say some patronising dip shit thing like 'cluck, cluck' implying I'm a fussy mother hen.

Wow no wonder you're so upset!

If you had been out alone with the family you would have had the dog's lead and baby's buggy and been fine. Your DH's was being very irresponsible. Of course you ran to save your dog from the lorry. Your DD wasn't in immediate danger.

Also if you'd decided to hold on to the buggy and ignore your dog then he might not be here tonight.

This is awful. Hope he's learned his lesson. Next time he's being an idiot you can say 'remember when you nearly killed our dog, our child and caused a huge pile up'.

My DH does this - won't listen to my advice until it all goes wrong exactly like I said it would.

lilabet2 - Not to mention that the OP would presumably right now be comforting a distraught little boy who'd witnessed a beloved family pet's brains being splattered across the road and thought it was his fault for dropping the lead.

(Obviously watching his baby sibling getting run over would be more damaging, but if the DD wasn't actually in danger then the course of action that didn't involve deeply traumatising the DS was the right one!)

I think (hope) OP means 2nd DS rather than a 2-year-old DS.

Either way, take this as a lesson learned to never let a young child walk a dog, especially around a busy road. If he wants to walk the dog, let him hold the lead further down while an adult is also holding it. There's just too much that could go wrong otherwise, cars or no cars.