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To think that my neighbour jumped the gun, or an I actually a CF?

70 replies

LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 16:55

Firstly NC as outing, secondly I realise that I may have initially been in the wrong, but I wonder if this was a reasonable reaction from neighbours.
Last week by DH bought an incinerator for the garden. He used it for first time on Thursday afternoon . We had never used an incinerator before and did not know how much smoke would be produced so we checked that neighbours on either side were out and that they had no washing on lines or pets outside etc. It was quite a still day with little breeze. We were not burning garden waste, but some old documents with personal information on them. After a few minutes the neighbour from the house backing onto ours came knocking at door ranting and raving telling us to move incinerator immediately as it was spoiling his enjoyment of his garden. I apologised profusely and went to tell DH. Unfortunately he could not move it as it was too hot(obviously) but put the lid on to lessen smoke, and stopped burning move papers. We then heard the neighbour tell his daughter that I had apologised and she then said she was going to call the council. My DH was alarmed at this, but I reasoned that she could hardly call the council as we had immediately done our best to stop further smoke. Fast forward to today when I get home to see a letter from the council to say that they had a complaint about smoke causing a nuisance. So while I admit that we may have been inconsiderate, was this the best cause of action from my neighbour? I could understand if we had ignored their request and carried on burning stuff, or if we had done this on several occasions, but not after a ' first offence'. I await the rationalMN responses.

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blueberryporridge · 14/05/2019 19:24

So anti-social, and potentially bad for people's health too, to burn rubbish. In my area, there are firms who will uplift it for confidential shredding for the grand cost of £7 per (large) sack. Glad to read you won't be using the incinerator again but, tbh, it was very inconsiderate of you to use it even once.

Gottalovesummer · 14/05/2019 19:30

Oh please shred!

We have a neighbour like you and it causes up real misery. They burn stuff when I've got washing out (so have to wash again) and we have to close windows as it stinks.

Shred! Shred! Shred! Don't be annoying neighbour.

IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 14/05/2019 19:43

I'm with GarthFunkel on this. It amazes me that people moan about bonfires and yet every bloke and his dog is lighting barbeques everytime we have a bit of sun and they don't wait until sundown. Barbeque smoke stinks and I find that far more offensive than burning paper or garden rubbish.

Pk37 · 14/05/2019 19:48

Burning paper STINKS!
We did this once as the shredder was rubbish and we had so much but the smoke was foul so we don’t do that anymore .
They overreacted but I wouldn’t do it again

Pk37 · 14/05/2019 19:49

IwantedtobeEmmaPeel
BBQs are nowhere near as bad as burning paper/bonfires. Not even close

AdobeWanKenobi · 14/05/2019 19:51

We live quite close to a dual carriageway and it's in our deeds that we can't have fires.
I get quite paranoid when DH lights the BBQ 😯

TheClitterati · 15/05/2019 08:08

Burning rubbish in your garden, whatever the time, is extremely antisocial.

ThelilacsofParis · 15/05/2019 08:13

Your council must be pretty on the ball environmentally OP.

My ILs lived next to a dreadful pair who burned rubbish (builders waste such as old carpets etc.) daily to heat their water which made a hell of a stink and the council were useless.

HeronLanyon · 15/05/2019 08:14

Given you ha e neighbours I think it’s not great to burn papers. After two recent bereavements I have spent hours shredding stuff. Had to buy bigger shredder to make it a bit more feasible.
As lawyer I have to keep notes for certain time. Ended up with garden shed full of ancient stuff. There are shredding companies who will come to your home and shred on site (in shredder in van) for you. Was great - cubic metres of stuff done in less than 30 mins.

HeronLanyon · 15/05/2019 08:16

Just remember I did buy a tin burner before getting company in. Tried to burn some. Created so much smoke was too hot to regulate properly and then I was left with filthy ash to deal with. Had completely forgotten! Never used again !

MissEliza · 15/05/2019 08:25

Burning paper will produce a lot of smoke. Didn't you know that?

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 15/05/2019 09:21

Are you sure it was your neighbour OP? It could be someone living a few doors up - smoke travels! Just in case, I wouldn't burn it next time their DD has a noisy party, though I think that's a brilliant suggestion.

Longdistance · 15/05/2019 09:26

YABU to incinerate paper when you could buy a shredder and recycle it without smoking out your neighbours.

justarandomtricycle · 15/05/2019 09:35

Side note, it is not more environmentally friendly to have wood products driven elsewhere using fossil fuels (and probably incinerated anyway, by the way) than it is to use a relatively efficient enclosed incinerator at or near your home. The second one is quite a bit closer to being carbon neutral for paper, wood etc.

Danni91 · 15/05/2019 09:45

I've had one regarding noise before because we had a bbq, and then another one after 3 months because we had another bbq, and then one more a while later because I had some rubbish bags in the garden whilst waiting for the skip to come.
May I add all my neighbours so indeed have regular bbqs/ parties and bonfires

I know exactly who it was though and on ringing the housing people (each time) they always put me at ease. She says so long as it's not frequently (every weekend) and we stay within the social time limits, then nothing will ever come of them but they gotta send them out regardless

Seems petty to me when my neighbours do stuff like this I think fair enough we burn things too some times and if they have a party - great, have a good time ! I can turn the tele up for one night every now and again.

Neighbours always really good always ask if we wanna put washing out today ect. As we do to them.

HeronLanyon · 15/05/2019 10:31

It’s amazing what a difference it makes when a neighbour gives a little warning of something - noisy party or smoky fire or loud work etc. Means neighbours can work around it and don’t become enraged ! Never understand why people don’t do this more for their own sakes too !

LoveMyNeighbour · 16/05/2019 18:17

Heron As I mentioned I did check with immediate neighbours,it didn't occur to me that smoke would travel to neighbours at the back as I was unaware how much smoke would be produced. (Not that there actually a great deal)

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Quartz2208 · 16/05/2019 18:19

Your neighbours at the back as as immediate as those either side

HeronLanyon · 16/05/2019 18:47

love understood. Was not directed at you at all.

LoveMyNeighbour · 17/05/2019 13:26

Heron sorry.Quartz There is quite a distance between back neighbour and ourselves with a path inbetween. Thinking about it, it may actually have been the smell that was more offensive as there was really not a great deal of smoke ( though I realise that even a small amount may be too much for some )

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