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To think that my neighbour jumped the gun, or an I actually a CF?

70 replies

LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 16:55

Firstly NC as outing, secondly I realise that I may have initially been in the wrong, but I wonder if this was a reasonable reaction from neighbours.
Last week by DH bought an incinerator for the garden. He used it for first time on Thursday afternoon . We had never used an incinerator before and did not know how much smoke would be produced so we checked that neighbours on either side were out and that they had no washing on lines or pets outside etc. It was quite a still day with little breeze. We were not burning garden waste, but some old documents with personal information on them. After a few minutes the neighbour from the house backing onto ours came knocking at door ranting and raving telling us to move incinerator immediately as it was spoiling his enjoyment of his garden. I apologised profusely and went to tell DH. Unfortunately he could not move it as it was too hot(obviously) but put the lid on to lessen smoke, and stopped burning move papers. We then heard the neighbour tell his daughter that I had apologised and she then said she was going to call the council. My DH was alarmed at this, but I reasoned that she could hardly call the council as we had immediately done our best to stop further smoke. Fast forward to today when I get home to see a letter from the council to say that they had a complaint about smoke causing a nuisance. So while I admit that we may have been inconsiderate, was this the best cause of action from my neighbour? I could understand if we had ignored their request and carried on burning stuff, or if we had done this on several occasions, but not after a ' first offence'. I await the rationalMN responses.

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EggysMom · 14/05/2019 17:36

My husband goes out at dead of night to burn ours...

Mine too, he's out there about midnight Smile

PepsiLola · 14/05/2019 17:39

I wouldn't let them stop me, maybe do it while they are having a stupid loud party

NannyRed · 14/05/2019 17:41

Oh fuck off did you receive a letter from the council for one instance of burning!

LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 17:44

Bookworm as I said I did not appreciate how much smoke would be released but thanks for your input. I did say that I had checked with immediate neighbours.

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LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 17:47

nannyred It was a standard notification,not a personal letter, and bloke from council was very sympathetic.

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puppy23 · 14/05/2019 17:48

I think it was really unreasonable of your neighbours to go running to the council over a one off, especially as there are no restrictions in your area. That said, it seems I'm part of of a minority who actually quite likes the smoky smell so it probably wouldn't bother me anyway. I wouldn't bring this up with the neighbours though, they sound like the type who'd start a petty compaints war if you got on their bad side!

formerbabe · 14/05/2019 17:50

Just buy a shredder ffs

SoupDragon · 14/05/2019 17:53

You might well live in a smoke free area in which case you can’t burn garden rubbish at all

This isn't true.

SofiaAmes · 14/05/2019 17:54

Is burning stuff still legal in the UK? It's banned pretty much everywhere else, I thought. That's a lot of pollutants to be putting into the air when you could have just taken a few weeks and shredded a few documents every day.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 14/05/2019 17:55

Burning rubbish is really anti social and people usually do it when the weathers good, which means other people can smell it in their houses.

However your neighbour is jumping the gun. Just ignore the letter if you’re not planning to do it again.

Last tear my mum was dying and at 6am we got a call from the hospital so rushed in. We left our dogs in the garden m, as we didn’t know how long we’d be, with access to the garage with food and water (as we often do), but because it was early I think they barked a bit. Now whilst I understand it pissed people off, no one came round to talk to us, it was a one off (my mum died so it wouldn’t have happened again), but the following week I got a letter off the council re noise. One of my neighbours had complained, I remember being really upset about it all. I understand somethings annoy others, but at least give them chance to rectify the situation before complaining officially. So OP you have my sympathy

LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 17:59

@NannyRed Here is a copy of the letter with identifying details cropped out.

To think that my neighbour jumped the gun, or an I actually a CF?
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PickleSarnie · 14/05/2019 18:02

For what was a one off incident, I think your neighbour was being unreasonable.

However, burning stuff in your garden - unless you live in a large country pile and have no near neighbours - is really anti-social. Our old neighbours use to burn stuff and it always seemed to be on the first nice day in ages. Meaning we had to suffer the smell or head indoors and close all windows.

There are firms that dispose of sensitive documents. Better option I think.

Hilda40 · 14/05/2019 18:02

It seems to have been incinerated

WhoKnewBeefStew · 14/05/2019 18:05

@LoveMyNeighbour that’s the same letter I had but about nouse. I spoke to the council, explained the situation and they said ignore it as it was a one off...

Cornettoninja · 14/05/2019 18:07

Personally I'd use the incinerator again - next time his daughter has a loud party

I like you Grin

Inniu · 14/05/2019 18:08

Quartz
You have linked Irish garden incinerator law rather than English. I am really shocked though that burning waste in the garden is legal in England. Very polluting and anti social.

Witchend · 14/05/2019 18:14

Smoke gets all around. Could well be a neighbour two or three doors down who complained.

LoveMyNeighbour · 14/05/2019 18:17

Thank you Whoknew Fortunately the guy from the council was very understanding and obviously thinks more rationally than neighbour (and seemingly others) As I said originally I realise that I was anti-social, I just wanted opinions on whether neighbours was a little hasty in her complaint to council.

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PamelaX · 14/05/2019 18:17

nothing will happen
but I am very impressed by your council replying so fast!

Smoke is such an anti-social nuisance. I can understand bbq, even if it wouldn't kill people to chose the ones causing less smoke in residential areas, but anything is out of order, at any time of the year!

Some of us wash laundry and open their windows in all seasons.

somecakefather · 14/05/2019 18:22

Your neighbours DD is an arsehole. She obviously took the first chance she got to get 'back at you' for you daring to talk to her about the all night parties.

PamelaX · 14/05/2019 18:27

My husband goes out at dead of night to burn ours...

Mine too, he's out there about midnight

so people who naively sleep with the windows open suddenly wake up in a bedroom stinking of smoke? Charming. Even more lovely if it's a young child's bedroom.

NauseousMum · 14/05/2019 18:57

I think they are unreasonable for reporting you, you shut the thing off at their complaint.

I would not be accepting late night loud parties with regularity either. I wouldnt have before this but more so after.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 14/05/2019 19:07

I hate it when my neighbours use theirs. Although the windows are closed it comes through the vents on the windows and the whole place stinks of smoke. Hate it hate it hate it! And the last load of crap they burnt had us all coughing with sore throats in the house, yet apparently it was ‘only cardboard and stuff’ yeah right!!

CarolsBiggestFan · 14/05/2019 19:10

I’m super impressed with your council, they received a complaint on, what, Thursday/Friday and they got a letter out to you in the post yesterday - that’s fast!

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