To feel really down?

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I messed up a potential relationship with a really lovely guy and now I feel just so empty inside. He was lovely very supportive, everything. My life in general has really deteriorated so much. I'm trying to find a grain of hope but finding it hard. I'm 54 and feel my chance of happiness is gone. I miss him so much

Thanks 'SoddingName' much of what you say makes a lot of sense it is a rabbit hole of sadness I try and do small little things I like as I'm losing weight at the moment so trying to do small little bits to help like programs etc I like homes under the hammer and things like that

My depression lifted when I got back in touch with that man

If you saw a GP you may find you get lifted out of your depression sooner. Life is too short for waiting for something to happen.

You mention losing weight, how overweight are you? Don't let trying to lose weight stand in the way of living a happy life. You have one life so make the most of it.

It's not clear why you are planning to wait a year op but it seems unecessary. It's like you are putting your whole life on hold. Do you know if he is single now? If he is seize your moment because in a year he could be engaged or living with someone.

If there's a connection it won't be lost because you have out in weight.

I'm leaving it a yr cos I left a large gap before and we rekindled . I'm 4 stone ow

But it's already been a large gap. It sounds like you are waiting until you lose weight but think of all the wasted time

If he only likes you when you are a size eight then he's not really keeper.

Not really a long gap we were in touch Xmas time

Thanks to all who replied you made me feel less lonely last night x

The thing is with the year gap thing it worked before. It's a bit damned if you do damned if you don't.

Can I just say that with the long gap before though I didn't waste time I lost a shed load of weight and started making nice happy plans for a nice happy future life without him then bam! We got back in touch

Even before I got in touch with him before my quality of life improved massively

I'm still trying to work towards my weight loss goal lost half a stone last week been running this morning

I ... started making nice happy plans for a nice happy future life without him then bam! We got back in touch

Haha! Ain't that always the way?! Well you know what to do, then. Happy plans!

Have you ever done a vision board? They're totally fun and happy AND you can do them in front of Homes Under The Hammer!

Hahano I haven't actually done a vision board!