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Bloody football

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nespressowoo · 13/05/2019 17:59

My DH is really down in the dumps after the result yesterday. He had to go out for a walk to 'clear his head' last night. He's in such a mood. When he got in yesterday our DS was trying to tell him about our day and he could barely look at him and when he did he looked so sad, he was so miserable. I am dreading 1st June. The last time he was like this was when Stevie G fell over, I think he was in a mood for a whole bloody month.

I understand he loves the team, I understand all the hype, but for it to affect him so much is unbelievable. His colleague had to take a days emergency leave today!!!!

I had to ask him to be happy when he got in because I was not having him being moody again and creating an atmosphere.

Normally he is a wonderful husband and father!

Prepared to be told IABU

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IHeartKingThistle · 13/05/2019 23:50

It was DH's birthday yesterday. He's a lifelong LFC fan, it has been our 9 year old DS' first season as a fan and it would have meant the world to both of them if we had won the league. But neither of them sulked! It's been a great season.

MyBlueMoonbeam · 13/05/2019 23:53

@ilovesooty

And we still have Saturday to go through 🥴

ilovesooty · 13/05/2019 23:59

True. I won't be going unfortunately - my friend's going with her husband. We went together to the semis and to the Carabao Cup final though. Grin

Mummaofmytribe · 14/05/2019 00:04

I had to really put my foot down about this crap. My OH reacted to football results the way I wld to a bereavement. Sometimes I am pretty sure his footy team means more to him than the rest of us put together. I had to tell him I would no longer put up with 24hrs of sulking and crap behaviour due to some lad not kicking a ball into a net. As if we don't have enough real issues to worry about

MyBlueMoonbeam · 14/05/2019 00:06

Lucky you 🙂 I haven't been to a match in ages - we live in Ireland & have animals so one of us is always home - DH is going on Sat with his brother & friends from Manchester on the train 😅 up the Blues!

MyBlueMoonbeam · 14/05/2019 00:09

Mmmm "put your foot down" nice 🙄

ginghambox · 14/05/2019 00:10

Surely there must be a trophy especially made for Livepool?
Grin

whatwouldyoubelikeat28 · 14/05/2019 03:57

A days emergency leave? Because he had the sads over a football result? I’m actually speechless Confused

100%. This would be grounds for divorce. Unless you were actually the actual footballer who fucked shit up, grow tf up! What ever happened to enjoying a game and all pals after?

Cruddles · 14/05/2019 07:23

Oh diddums, I'm a Fulham fan, except for two seasons ago it's been bloody miserable following them for a few years, had a season ticket until children came along. But it's just a game

BethanyGilbert · 14/05/2019 07:32

I was annoyed with my DH about the football. We were having a lovely day out in the sunshine with lots of family when we had to return home so he could watch the football. He isn’t a Liverpool or a Man City fan. His brother supports Liverpool though and football would be “over forever”’if they won.

MummyParanoia101 · 14/05/2019 14:08

@OKBobble We?! You're on the team are you?!

StillCoughingandLaughing · 14/05/2019 14:10

Loads of people use ‘we’ to refer to a team they support. No need for the punctuation overdose.

MummyParanoia101 · 14/05/2019 14:11

It's rather tragic. This entire thread is tragic!!!!

cheeseypuff · 14/05/2019 14:18

Would him & his friend like to find themselves a grip? I have a large selection available Hmm

Usernumbers1234 · 14/05/2019 14:24

It’s not football. It’s Liverpool fans. Special kind of weird that lot.

purpleboy · 14/05/2019 14:28

@MummyParanoia101 it's fine for okbobble to describe the inclusive situation as 'we'
Liverpool is not just a football team, it is a club which describes itself and fans as a family, it's a comminity. Thus the 'we' as we are all in this together.

And if you find it so tragic to feel passionate about something then that's very unfortunate you are so single minded, however it's just as easy for you to just move on and don't get so uptight about someone using a wordConfused

Topseyt · 14/05/2019 14:40

My DH follows Arsenal. Yes, he is a bit sad when they lose, or the results from other matches don't stack up as advantageously as Arsenal would like, but he doesn't sulk and go into bad moods with the rest of us for days or weeks on end. I'm not sure we'd still be married if he behaved like such a dickhead.

I like to watch football sometimes. DH gives me a running commentary throughout the season on how Arsenal are doing and what results he hopes for from other matches to give them a helping hand.

That's as far as it goes though. What is it about football that causes some allegedly adult men to behave like such utter tits?

Beaubird83 · 14/05/2019 14:41

Football is pretty much the religion of our household, specifically Liverpool.
We even have a This is Anfield mirror as you come down the stairs and OH taps it every time he passes it. I’m not quite that bad I just check dd2 hasn’t put yoghurt in my hair or something 🤷‍♀️
OH was really annoyed about the season result, but he certainly hasn’t gone off in a strop about it. Tbh City weren’t going to lose, it was a one in a zillion chance to get it in my eyes.
The team is a lot stronger, and every season is an improvement, there’s always next season so not worth that huge over exaggerated reaction!

Still got the CL final on 1st June to look forward to, got more of a chance of getting that than the prem anyway!

loobyloo1234 · 14/05/2019 14:45

Can relate to him. When my team loses or misses out in finals etc, it still gets to me. Give him a week. Then if they fail to win on the 1st, I'd give him a month Smile

JacquesHammer · 14/05/2019 14:49

People who take supporting a team of any sport to that degree are pathetically unreasonable.

MallySally · 14/05/2019 14:50

We even have a This is Anfield mirror as you come down the stairs and OH taps it every time he passes it

What in fresh hell did I just read?! This can't be serious, surely?

NameChangeMcgee · 14/05/2019 14:53

FFS there's a ton of football fans like this, it's not specific to one team. (Spurs CL final due date dad, for example)

Look you really need to put your foot down and tell him to get some perspective and put this energy into people and things he actually interacts with on a daily basis! It's just a game. He needs to think of all the time and energy he's wasted over the years and learn to enjoy the highs and minimise the impact of the lows.

MyBlueMoonbeam · 14/05/2019 14:53

www.winnersports.co.uk/psychology-of-football-fanatics-11464

This link explains well.

Supporting a club inspires a sense of kinship - belonging - camaraderie etc.

There is an indescribable feeling of euphoria when "your" team win big which makes you high as a kite on emotion.

It follows then that the losses can be very hard to take.

SmellNO · 14/05/2019 14:57

A grown man is moping about dramatically because of a bunch of overpaid, ego-inflated men chasing a sack of air and trying (failing?) to kick it into a net.

I'm sure not even the players react in such a fashion - although I imagine the ££££ weekly salary helps.

He is in desperate need of a grip.

I feel so sorry for your poor DS (and you.)

NameChangeNugget · 14/05/2019 15:24

Overpaid footballer klaxon alert.... yawn Confused

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