To think things said whilst drunk, show a persons true colours?

[BaaLamby]

I Was at a wedding at the weekend and my hubby had a lot to drink. He’s not normally much of a drinker and we have been together for 8 mostly happy years! When we got back we were messing around and joking but he took offence to something he wouldn’t normally and his response was really nasty and out of character. It was in front of my Mum who was really shocked. I don’t know if I’m being sensitive because I came out of a very abusive relationship and it’s triggering me! I haven’t spoken to him about it yet. I doubt he’ll remember saying it and I’m not sure it’s even worth it but if I did and he accepted it and apologised I will still have this nagging doubt that he meant it. Does drink really lift the inhibitions and reveal a persons true colours. My friend who is a counsellor says not

I don't agree with that old saying at all. Often drunk people will just talk absolute shite. I've said all sorts of stupid stuff when drunk which had no bearing on my real feelings. Mind you, I'm not talking about nasty things here.

My step father used to be extremely nasty when drunk. He's absolutely lovely sober. He quit drinking 20 years ago because we all told him how nasty he was when drunk. He says he never even remembered the nasty stuff he said and honestly I believe him. He is such a lovely, gentle person and the day we confronted him about the problem was the last day he touched a drink because he was so concerned about the upset he had caused.

So yeah, I think sometimes drunk people are talking utter shit and it's best to just ignore. If someone is generally a kind person and there are no other issues then I think it's a bit foolish and pointless to place so much stock in drunken comments.

I don’t think so, the last time my DH got drunk he was busy kissing the dog on her mouth 🤢, cuddling her, telling her how much he loved her and asking her what flavour kebab she wanted him to buy her...

My DH is not an animal person at all, he might occasionally give the dog a biscuit or a brief ruffle on the head but that is it, they largely ignore each other.

So, no, I’m not convinced it shows ‘true’ feelings or anything.

I don't think what you say when drunk is necessarily your true colours no, more a warped version of you that wouldn't otherwise exist...

Definitely not.
A drunk person is not the real them, ludicrous to even suggest it.