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Driving myself home after surgical abortion?

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123Tung · 13/05/2019 11:35

Im having a surgical abortion on Wednesday. have anyone experience driving themselves home after a surgical abortion?

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brokenstone · 13/05/2019 13:44

I've also driven myself home after a surgical
abortion, but like previous posters I opted out of sedation to be able to do so. I had no choice. I was ok. It was a 45 min drive back to my home.

I hope all goes ok for you.

stucknoue · 13/05/2019 13:45

Depends on kind of anaesthetic - I only had a local and no sedation so was told I was fine to drive, though I didn't. If you had a sedative/ga you have to be collected

stucknoue · 13/05/2019 13:49

Ps it wasn't at all painful, just a bit uncomfortable like a smear test and took about 10 mins

Bumpdebump · 13/05/2019 13:51

Hi op. Where do you live and which clinic are you using? Pm me if you like. I'll help if I can.

specterlitt · 13/05/2019 13:53

If you're in London, I can help take you home/take you there in my car. I'm off this week so happy to help, but please do not risk your own life and others.

Minai · 13/05/2019 13:53

There no way you will be safe to drive after a general anaesthetic. I had a 45 min operation a few months ago and I felt foggy headed for about a week after and barely even remember the first few hours post surgery. You will be putting yourself and others in danger. Please find another way to get home.

SentientPotato · 13/05/2019 13:54

If you aren't having GA or sedation then you can drive home. I did. I didn't find it painful either. Just uncomfortable. Fine other than that. Had to wait 2 hours afterwards in clinic and then drove home.

Good luck OP Smile

Orchidflower1 · 13/05/2019 14:00

Don’t drive- it’s not safe for you or for others.

Could you bus to the clinic then cab home then it’s not as expensive? I assume you’re not with the dad ( apologies if that’s not the case) but If you can’t afford the cab could you get the cash from the father ( assuming he knows of course). X

UterusUterusGhali · 13/05/2019 14:01

GA notwithstanding, after mine I so nearly shat myself in the car on the way home (DP was driving) as they'd given me a diclofenec suppository without telling me. (I can't take NSAIDs).
A bus would have taken much longer and I couldn't have stopped.

How much would a taxi be?

TraceyLP · 13/05/2019 14:14

Hi OP,
If the journey is a very long way and the taxi very expensive is there a travel lodge or premier inn close by that you could book for the night(short walk to or a very short taxi ride). They are often around £35.

EmeraldShamrock · 13/05/2019 14:19

You should be ok if you opt for no aesthetic, just numbing gel, though it is not nice being fully awake, I had one many years ago without aesthetic, I had to catch a plane home, I was very emotional, fairly strong period like cramps, but ok, we walked for about 3 miles afterwards, sat in the airport for a few hours, bring pain killers and lots of pads.

Original poster
123Tung · 13/05/2019 14:26

I'm in Melbourne Australia. I'll take public transport if I have a surgical abortion.

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123Tung · 13/05/2019 14:40

i'm in Melbourne Australia and is doing it near East Melbourne... I'm just a student and do not want any of my close friends to know. Would anyone be able to give me a lift.... Thank you you all for helping me out. ill take public transport myself if their arent anyone.

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ANewDawn10 · 13/05/2019 14:47

Please dont do it. Its selfish to everyone else you might put at risk. Sorry you have to go through this. Can you not get a friend to help?

TonTonMacoute · 13/05/2019 14:49

There should be a lift service run be volunteers if you really can’t afford a taxi.

You absolutely cannot drive yourself, you would be a danger to yourself and others.

EmeraldShamrock · 13/05/2019 15:12

If you are returning on public transport, is there a toilet on board, I had a heavy enough bleed so needed to travel with a bathroom on board.

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hibbledibble · 13/05/2019 15:37

Op I'm not sure if you will find anyone local to you here, as most posters are based in the UK. Perhaps you could try a local site? Also, I would consider asking a friend for help, they would likely be very understanding.

GarnierBBCream · 13/05/2019 15:40

When someone tells you they are alone, why do people not read it and then ask 'don't you have a friend/relative/partner who can help?' Hmm

hibbledibble · 13/05/2019 15:45

Garnier because the op didn't say that. She said that she doesn't want any of her close friends to know.

GarnierBBCream · 13/05/2019 15:46

Yes, well, there you go, she doesn't want her friends to know Hmm

PeachMoon · 13/05/2019 16:07

@123Tung Which suburb in Melbourne do you need to get to from East Melbourne? I'm in a different state so can't help, but could you maybe take an Uber or an Ola cab if it's not too far? Much cheaper than a taxi? Or consider confiding in a close friend for help getting home, and more importantly for some support for yourself? Hope everything works out for you Flowers

Prequelle · 13/05/2019 16:09

garnier people aren't psychic, she only said she didn't want them to know after it was suggested.

Prequelle · 13/05/2019 16:10

Actually sorry I missed a couple of posts, I suggested a friend but that was well before OP mentioned not telling them

howlongcanausernamebebeforeits · 14/05/2019 00:21

Op I'm in Australia but not Melbourne. However if you are a student you should be able to access some sort of counselling or support service through your uni. They will be able to advise you. Failing that I would call the abortion clinic or hospital and explain the situation. I'm sure you're not the first person to have this issue.
Or are you saying you're a high school student?