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AIBU new house neighbour dilemma

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Tinkerbell1989 · 13/05/2019 07:46

Just bought a lovely new house had been and checked it out lots as have a bit of grass in front of it and was worried we would have groups of people hanging around. All seemed good until the weekend we moved in and the people opposite have erected a goal post where their kids and all their friends play right in front of our kitchen/diner window. There is a large park to the left of us - no more than 100 metres- why can’t they play there?! AIBU do I say something - it’s been 3 weeks and they are out there every day and the dad is now joining in!

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user1496259972 · 13/05/2019 07:47

Who owns the patch of grass?

ShiveringCoyote · 13/05/2019 07:52

Kids out playing football having fun with their dad. I'd be pleased I moved to such a nice place.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 13/05/2019 07:53

Is it right outside your window or is it over a road in the middle of a cul de sac scenario? If it's just opposite your house rather than right outside the window and you don't own it I would say there isn't much you can do? It must be a fair size if there is enough space for several people to play on it?

Milly90 · 13/05/2019 07:53

Communal grass? Is it a new or newish build estate? If it is and its leasehold you could complain to the management agency or leaseholders if you find in your contract that there is anything stating this use of the grass is not allowed

Other than that I'd say it's fair game. My grandparents own a house with a large patch of grass to the front and it's just been part of life for them that children play there and even bonfires every year (!!)

Drogosnextwife · 13/05/2019 07:57

I wonder if you are one of the neighbours,of the woman who posted about her neighbours moving her kids goal posts off the patch of grass, and putting plant pots there instead? Grin

Rainatnight · 13/05/2019 07:58

I think it sounds nice. I'd be really pleased if that was happening outside my house!

iamkahleesi · 13/05/2019 08:00

Unless it's your grass YABU, that sounds really lovely.

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 08:03

As long as they are playing and not causing trouble then I don't see the problem. Kids should be playing out more If this was the 80s when I grew up this would be normal Such a shame times have changed.

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Tinkerbell1989 · 13/05/2019 08:04

New build so very small patch of grass with no road and balls are flying towards my dining room window regularly! Half of me thinks it’s cute and they are reasonably young but in turn their aim isn’t that great! I’m not the pot lady hahaha I promise!

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PeapodBurgundy · 13/05/2019 08:07

I had a similar issue, except the problem wasn't them playing football on the green, it was our goalpost they were helping themselves to from the garden. They lifted it over the fence so many times, the goal ended up going to the rag and bone man, and our fence is currently tied together with string. Fuckers.

If it's communal grass, there's nothing you can do. It's par for the course unless there are signs stating otherwise.

ZoeWashburne · 13/05/2019 08:08

Children playing out under the supervision of a loving parent? What CFs! Don't they know you need absolute silence 24/7?! That is why you moved to a new build that tend to be clustered very close together with paper thin walls. You should call 101 and log it with the police.

CanuckBC · 13/05/2019 08:09

We need a diagram to fully understand the situation😁

Do you have kids that will be joining in? Is there a way to move the goals so it’s on the grass but going the other direction?

LIZS · 13/05/2019 08:11

If the developer still owns the grassy area there may well be covenants restricting its use, or even between neighbours. Whether you want to be That Neighbour to complain is up to you but if the kids are little you could probably just politely suggest they place the goal at a different point away from your window and see how it goes.

TheMaddHugger · 13/05/2019 08:14

im having Deja vu

Nanny0gg · 13/05/2019 08:15

If it’s coming towards your window a lot I’d just check it’s a soft ball and not a proper football.
Are they little children or hulking teenagers? (It’s not so sweet when they’re older...)

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 08:15

How old are they? If young the park might not be a solution as parents like to watch from the window and to young to be unsupervised in the park. If teenagers then the park would be better.

GPatz · 13/05/2019 08:15

'I wonder if you are one of the neighbours,of the woman who posted about her neighbours moving her kids goal posts off the patch of grass, and putting plant pots there instead? grin'

Yes, and the comments on that post were somewhat different to these.

UCOinanOCG · 13/05/2019 08:17

Whose grass is it? If it s yours ask them to move, if it is theirs nothing you can do, if it is communal try and find out who maintains it and if there are any rules about its use. I wouldn't like this either. I think people on here who are saying it is lovely would not be saying that if it was right outside their window!

captainblonde · 13/05/2019 08:17

We need a diagram to fully understand the situation

This!!!

TheMaddHugger · 13/05/2019 08:18

PeapodBurgundy that would be Bloody annoying.

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Tinkerbell1989 · 13/05/2019 08:19

My diagram hahaha! The park is huge loads of fields for football! I think deep down I know I am being slightly unreasonable but it’s literally every weekend, every evening and the goal post is unsightly! It’s just not something I’d do - if it were me I’d take them to the park or at least put the goals away after. I guess they are there so the parents can keep an eye on them without leaving the house - which like you said is a good thing!

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PlaygroupDilema · 13/05/2019 08:22

Yep I think a diagram is needed

PlaygroupDilema · 13/05/2019 08:23

Cross posted! Personally I wouldn't like this.

Pppppppp1234 · 13/05/2019 08:28

I love this about where I live, newish build, patch of grass between the houses.... it’s used for all sorts, football, bouncy castles, bbqs (residents), kids playing out.
Realistically a residential cul de sac on a new build estate with some green will attract kids playing out. Count your blessings that it’s not teens smoking weed or chilling out there!

diddl · 13/05/2019 08:30

If you're truly worried about your window-can't you have a word?

But really-a area of grass in front of all of the houses-you must have known that this would happen?

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