To ask if anyone here had a positive outcome from high number miscarriages?

[Ohkayyy]

I've had 6 miscarriages now and am finding hope dwindling with each one.

I've never actually met anyone (that I know of) who's had more than 3 in a row.

Has anyone else had such a high number of miscarriages and then gone on to have a positive outcome?

I know the cause, and there is no treatment, just told to carry on trying.

I feel like the higher my number gets the less chance I have.

Sorry, just going to answer and run, but 15 miscarriages in total over the years....
Have a super happy healthy 12 y/o and same for 2 y/o.
It can be ok.

xx

My DM had eight and then she went on to have four children

Friend had 6 mc trying for a second dc. Decided to stop trying, adopted a ds, then had a successful but unplanned pregnancy.

8 losses healthy child number 1, one further loss and then healthy child number 2. I had a brilliant doctor who gave me her mobile number and saw me as soon as I got a positive test so I could get progesterone suppositories ASAP which I believe was the key to keeping them in there for me. Wishing you all the luck in the world, be kind to yourself xx

My friends mother had many many many ones . How she bore it . Then had 2 sons
You did ask
Sending every strength I can

Thank you so much.

It really helps hearing from others in this situation.

As if by magic I got a positive test this morning. More nervous than excited though

I'm so very sorry. It's a horrible, horrible situation to be in.

I had four before a last, successful round of IVF. Had our healthy DC, then tried to have a sibling but those efforts also failed and I miscarried again. I got lucky once and am grateful, but still sad that DC, who has no grandparents to speak of, will never have a sibling. I feel I've cheated DC.

We used Dr Gorgy's clinic in Harley Street to try to investigate reasons: Chicago blood tests, hidden C (normal tests can't pick it up and this has to be sent to Athens) etc. It's not only a devastating process, it's also cripplingly expensive.

My heart goes out to you and I hope you get your miracle soon.

NB there was no one smoking gun for me. I have endometriosis, known to cause miscarriage, elevated killer cells and Gorgy suspected a problem with the way the gametes were knitting together at conception. Gogry He recommended DH take 'Well Man' conception tablets. I had intralipids, which they're no longer giving, and LIT treatment before the successful round. But I suspect in our case it was something as simple as the 'Well Man', and we hit on a solution by happy chance. Please PM me if I can help in any way x

DH has a translocation. I'm in a very good FB support group - I can link you if you like?

I've had 11 miscarriages and have a 12 and a 13 year old. I do have pcos but doctors could never find a reason to why I had so many losses. I remember everyday how difficult it is to go through and wish you all the best

I'm so sorry. A friend of mine had 12. Now has a lovely healthy 9 year old

I have a translocation, I did PGD at the London Bridge centre and had twins. PM me if you want the details.

Congrats on your BFP, keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞

Thank you

Bertie, is it the Yahoo one? I was part of that but I found it quite difficult to read how many people had to use IVF. It's likely that IVF won't be an option for us because of cost so I feel like my only option is to keep trying naturally.

Have you been told your odds by a genetic consultant? Dh had a translocation of two chromosomes and we were told 50 % chance of miscarrying and if the baby survived we'd have a 10% chance of them having a chromosome abnormality.
I had 3 mcs followed by two healthy dc.

Have you been told your odds by a genetic consultant

No not yet I have another appointment soon. All they have said so far is that I have evidence I can have a living child as I inherited it from one of my parents who had multiple miscarriages too.

It just seems like the more it happens the less I believe it can.

No, it's a Facebook one. Yes a lot of people do use IVF on there but I think not a majority. Most people try naturally and eventually they get the right "roll of the dice". There are some reassuring positive stories of people who've had multiple miscarriages with healthy children in the end. Quite a few in the UK who can advise on NHS procedure. Also some who have done IVF abroad as it is a bit cheaper (Portugal is the usual one from the UK I think).

But I've found it in general quite good for talking/learning about the science and understanding how it works. Also there is a separate one for ongoing pregnancies/living children so you don't get the sensitive stuff in the main group. And I think a linked IVF/PGD group which keeps some of that talk off the main board. I definitely don't get the sense that it's hopeless without IVF. I think if we'd been trying over 3 years I might have pushed to look into it but I'd rather avoid it if we can.

Apparently the size of the chunk of chromosome which is swapped makes a difference WRT whether you'll tend to miscarry early or continue longer in a pregnancy. DH has big breaks so we miscarry at 6 weeks which in a way is not too bad, there's not so much waiting around in limbo. We're also in Germany which is a blessing as the early pregnancy care here is much more involved so we get a scan at 6 weeks and hCG progression tests early on. We also have long gaps between conception sometimes which we think is likely to be an embryo being rejected even before implanting. There were 16 cycles between my last miscarriage and DS2 (DS1 is from a previous relationship). We think that is likely to be 2-4 failed implantations and the genetic specialist agreed.

The other factor is the size of each break relative to each other. Apparently if both of your chromosomes' break points are similar in size, you're more likely to create a balanced embryo than if they are of different sizes.

I’ve had seven pregnancies and 2 of those went full term. We had genetic testing and everything was fine. For me it was age.

OP - I did not have to have IVF!! It was suggested as they could ensure the optimum conditions, like thickness of the endometrium, hormone levels, best looking embryos, etc to try to prevent anything else going wrong; but we both believe I could probably have had a normal pregnancy next without it. However why go to a consultant gynaecologist and ignore their advice?

However why go to a consultant gynaecologist and ignore their advice?

Absolutely agree, I just don't think it will be an option for me unfortunately.

I maybe should have said chose to have IVF rather than had to have.

@Ohkayyy I've had 8 miscarriages but also managed to have 5 children. They couldn't find the reason for mine. We have family history of both spina bifida and Downs so thought there might be a connection there.
Don't give up hope as nature so often finds a way-I've had 2 friends who fell pregnant naturally just before starting IVF having had years of no luck.
Sending hugs xxx💐

I've been pregnant 7 times and I have a 3 year old and I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant with my second. For me it was PCOS and after going through a recurrent miscarriage clinic I was found to have anti-phospholipid syndrome (clotting disorder). After I found out I was pregnant this time I was put on aspirin and clexane and now here we are!
Good luck to you, it's a horrid way of life. Hope you get your miracle soon

I had 5. Because they were early (6-8 weeks) and I wasn’t under midwife care they were very dismissive. I paid privately and took low dose aspirin and progesterone the next time I got pregnant. I never had any tests since the consultant kindly said that they cost a fortune and these two things work for a lot of women and won’t harm you or baby.

Now have three children.

Hope you find the solution for you

Yes, i have a 10 year old DD. Since she was born i have had 5 miscarriages in a row over the 10 years, 2 with her father 1 with my ex and 2 with my current partner. The last one i had a d&c and testing came back as basically "we have no idea why this is happening"
There is hope though! I am currently 20 weeks pregnant now.
I wish you all the best and sending lots of sticky baby dust your way!

Had to make a whole new profile to post this as have been lurking for far too long! Couldn't just read and run without sharing.

I have pcos but fell pregnant with no problems back in 2010 and had a DD, pregnancy was smooth and textbook. Then followed 4 miscarriages, each more devastating than the last. 2 & 3 left me very ill for 6 months due to infections. Got a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic after the third but nothing really showed up. Lost 7 stone but nothing helped.

On the 6th pregnancy, I was advised to take aspirin just in case and went on to have healthy DD2 in 2017. It was a hard pregnancy but with no further issues. We don't know why it worked. Gained 7 stone through PND but I unexpectedly fell pregnant again last year and immediately started taking the aspirin again. I'm currently 30 weeks with a gigantic DS and have had a breeze of a pregnancy! None of it makes sense!

Congratulations on your recent BFP although it might seem bittersweet right now. I was terrified the whole 39 weeks with dd2. But it really helped me to remind myself that right now, you are pregnant and with no reason so far for the losses, the odds are in your favour. There is no reason that this shouldn't be the one that works!

Good luck, OP, I have everything crossed for you.