My db is in a psychiatric hospital atm. Today was his first day since he was admitted in September that we were allowed to take him out to lunch. I went with dm. He has shaved his head. Dm had a go about it. He was wearing aviator goggles. Dm refused to go into pub until he'd taken them off. He wouldn't so I said it was no big deal and he could wear them if he wanted (It looks a bit odd but it makes him feel safe) Dm countered about it all through the meal. She complained about the lighting the food and DVD's very funny but off colour jokes. She made the day utterly miserable for what should have been a celebratory milestone for db. After we'd taken him back to hospital I said I understood she was probably nervous about lunch but that she had been hyper critical of db and that it was unfair. She said she wasnt nervous at all and that as a grown man she'd expected db to have been less odd. I'm ashamed but I lost my temper.
She dropped me off saying she wouldn't be seeing me again until I'd apologised and that she didnt want me seeing db as I'd be dropping poison in his ear about her. She can get stuffed on that as db is an adult and if he wants me to visit I will.
Sorry this is long. I'm in bed typing on my phone because despite all DC being asleep for a change I cant stop it churning round in my brain. Dh says I know what dm is like and should have let sleeping dogs lie but I felt so desperately sorry for db who has been so I'll and very brave battling an awful illness that dm seems to make no allowances for. Would you apologise?