To be angry that she let her ds sleep now

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My friend is going on a date tonight which I'm happy about as she's been single since having her ds two years ago. She's asked if I'll have him overnight so she can have a drink and stay over his. Again, very happy that one of us is getting some!
Just messaged her to ask if she minds if we take him to the park before dinner, or whether she wants him to eat at 6pm like normal people. She says that he's napping, at 5pm?!?
There's no way he's going to sleep for us tonight now. Was this not a tiny bit selfish? I always try to knacker mine out before they go to the babysitters:

YANBU - when my DS was 2 if he had a sniff of a nap (like even 15 mins) after about 2pm then he was up til all hours. She's using the time to chill before her date.

Lol she is using his nap to get ready

Yeah that’s taking the piss.

My dd naps at 4-5pm and goes to bed at 7:30...whats the issue?

She's definitely taking the piss. It was bloody lovely of you to offer to have her 2 year old, especially when you have your own children. I appreciate she might need time to get ready but letting him nap to make her life easier and yours much harder is a classic example of being a CF!

Agree its late for a nap.
When he arrives.
Snack/or tea depending if he has been fed.
Take him for a walk or run about in the park.
Milk or non sugary snack. Foods that encourage the sleep hormone melatonin are ones with tryptophan- google.
Then upstairs, low lights, chilled.
Quick bath in and out.
PJs
Story and bed.

My dd naps at 4-5pm and goes to bed at 7:30...whats the issue?

How old is she?

Dunno? Depends what her usual routine and what usual sleep time is. Mine napping now since 4 :)

If he's not tired just let him go to bed late?

I don’t know really. It would have affected my DS’s sleep but my DD can have a late nap and will still go to bed at the same time.

Sorry, do you want her to force him to stay up? Isn't that a bit cruel?

DS (nearly 3) has been napping since half 3. He was really grumpy and a PITA so I knew he was tired for ages beforehand but he fought it until then. His usual bedtime is 9 and in the past he has managed it, despite a late nap! So there's still a chance the little one might sleep.

That is a bit naughty of her tbh. If somebody was babysitting mine I’d make sure they have an early nap or none at all and tire them out!

It really depends on the 2 year old and what their normal routine is

Fill him up with Haribo and fizzy pop before she collects him tomorrow.

Should ram the message home.

Did you ask her if he’s likely to sleep tonight? One of mine would have been fine, it would have kept the other up till 9

All depends on the child really and whether it will be a problem for nighttime sleep. My DD1 slept from 2.00 until 4.30 until she was over 3 and always went to bed at 6.30. My DD2 on the other hand.... Impossible to call without knowing what is usual for the child in question.

You love your friend, you love her child.
Suck it up and be happy she's getting a night out.

Haha BestestBrownies. Love it

I agree though, it depends on the child. Some would still go down fine, did you actually ask the question when in the phone to her ?

Let him stay up late and then, as a PP said, fill him up with cherryade before you send him home. With a bit of luck his mum will be suitably hungover.

Mine (2 & 3 years) don't sleep at all if they've so much as closed their eyes for more than 3 seconds during the day! Nursery insist on letting them nap because it's "the rights of the child". Their bedtime goes to shit 3 nights a week and it pisses me RIGHT off.

Ooooh... ragey tangent!! Apologies, I'll close the door on my way out.

Well she could hardly force a 2yo into a nap could she. He must be tired to have napped at that time. Why begrudge her one night in 2 years. Just suck it up.

I'd be concerned that she is planning to sleep with the man on the first date, quite honestly!

Depends what his usual routine is doesn’t it surely. If that’s normal nap time then yabu, if she’s doing it to give her time to get ready then she is bu.

It doesn't say it's her first date with him.

Nurseries putting them down for a nap is irritating if they manage without one at home.

Good luck tonight OP.

Same as everyone else - it depends on the child! Do used to nap until 5 and sleep through from 7:30. Dd can only nap for an hour at most during the morning or it’s game over at bed time.

I always always make sure my kids don’t have naps that won’t disrupt their bedtimes if someone’s been kind enough to look after them! Fingers crossed that’s the case here