To be angry that she let her ds sleep now

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My friend is going on a date tonight which I'm happy about as she's been single since having her ds two years ago. She's asked if I'll have him overnight so she can have a drink and stay over his. Again, very happy that one of us is getting some!
Just messaged her to ask if she minds if we take him to the park before dinner, or whether she wants him to eat at 6pm like normal people. She says that he's napping, at 5pm?!?
There's no way he's going to sleep for us tonight now. Was this not a tiny bit selfish? I always try to knacker mine out before they go to the babysitters:

Depends on the child but my 20mo can't close her eyes after 3 or everyone's in trouble.

It's not her first date with him but her first sleepover. I want her to not worry and have a lovely time. I've looked after her ds twice since she started dating this guy as her mum makes loads of judgmental comments and no one needs that!
I'm happy to do it but she has already told me he doesn't sleep and I've done my best to tire out my 4 and 2 year old in preparation for tonight so he can sleep without them waking him up but now it seems I'm going to be up all night anyway.
I do really appreciate her friendship though, she was probably just excited about tonight.

I'd be a little pissed off too tbh. Ask her what time she expects him to go to bed then if he's napping now.

Put yours to bed as normal. Allow him to have dvd after dvd until he gives up and sleeps on your sofa. Not your child not your rod not your monkey!

What time will she collect him tomorrow? Perhaps make sure he won't be tired tomorrow night when he's back home

I agree with @AppleKatie

DC1 wouldn't have slept a wink napping at that time, DC2 would have still slept through perfectly, depends a lot on the child

My 2.5 year old is grumpy if he has a late nap but he still goes to sleep at 7 happily and sleeps through

Depends on the child.
Dd1 at that age slept 2-5pm and then went down for bed at normal time of 8:30 without a problem. If she hadn't slept by 5pm then she'd be really grotty at going to bed and be much worse settling.
With dd2 she'd given up her afternoon sleep by that point, but sometimes used to sneak upstairs and go to sleep about 5pm. If she'd even slept for 5 minutes she wouldn't go down until 10pm.
Ds generally slept in the morning, but occasionally needed a quick nap later. If he didn't have a nap when he needed it, he would have been a pain between 6 and 7:30pm, and probably not slept until later because he'd have been too busy being hysterical.

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Why would you give a shit moment's thought to the possibility that she was going to sleep with her BF?

Depends entirely on that child's normal, (for mine would have meant they'd be until 11 though!).

If you think it's not his normal and she's being cheeky, maybe a jokey text back about how if he's doesn't sleep you'll be giving him coke and chocolate for breakfast before sending him back to her!

Mine would have up until the small hours if a nap had happened at 5pm

@NunoGoncalves my dd is 18 months, and has been this way since 6months

DS goes bed at 6 so no chance of him going to bed anytime soon if he was still napping at 5. I don't let him nap past 1pm

Depends on the child but I would be pretty unhappy if my own kids were in bed at 7.30 sleeping and he was still up running around at 9pm at night because she’s let him nap. Some people really don’t realise that most people don’t want someone else’s child running around there home at night when there own kids are asleep and do not even consider that this could be annoying, upsetting or considered downright rude by others.

To be honest, it didn't make any difference to my two, at any age, if they had a little nap at 4,5,6pm whatever. Still went to sleep at 7. So, it might be no issue.

Awww bless her!! ... She's DEFINITELY taking the piss, however, she also wants to get ready in peace! It's a complicated one! Just let her have this once and then maybe next time tell her to not let him nap so late in the day or you're not willing to have him

One of mine would have stayed up half the night at that age if we'd let her nap, the other would have interpreted it as an early night and would just have slept through from 5 till 8 the next morning. Hopefully your friend's is more like my DS!

Depends on the kid though.

My DS is 2.5 and he’s dropping his naps at the moment- and overtired 95% of the time as a result- but I can expect that on either Saturday or Sunday most weeks, he’ll sleep 1.30-4.30 or 5, and still be in bed and asleep by 7.30/8 as usual.

I wouldn’t worry too much- he might well be in bed and asleep by 9 regardless!

Depends on the child, surely? If he usually has a nap then, keeping him awake could make him overtired and impossible. Good luck!

Sorry, do you want her to force him to stay up?

Yes! I remember the shit days when I'd be shouting from the kitchen to DS1 for him to keep DS2 awake so he could have his tea then go to bed. I'd then hear the words "Mummy, X has fallen asleep on the floor, etc" and I knew we were in for a late bedtime...

I'd be concerned that she is planning to sleep with the man on the first date, quite honestly!

That's very sad. I feel sorry for you that this would concern you.

OP what time did he go to sleep?

My dd was a terror for sleeping on the school run and she was impossible to wake (she still is now) and would be up till 9 or 9.30 if she had a whiff of a nap.

I hope he slept for you op.

He went to sleep at 9.30, not too bad. And he slept all night like an angel 👼