AIBU to be anxious when the sun is out?

[Shopperami]

AIBU To be anxious when the sun is out?

It feels more pressured especially with children.

Anyone else?

Pressured in what way?

I know what you mean,the pressure to be out and in a good mood and always having fun?

I used to feel like this when I was suffering a bit with agoraphobia and felt anxious about going out and about. Do you suffer with this at all? I would feel a lot calmer during the dark winter months as I knew I could get away with staying in and doing things like watching films or reading. There is always an expectation with my partner during the hot months that we spend most of our time outside and I find it a bit exhausting sometimes

Can you explain why at all?

I much much much prefer it as we can get out and about and do stuff without having to take extra coats and wellies and stuff. I'm no good at staying home with dc!

Pressured to go out?
I feel worse when it's raining. I feel trapped in the house.
On a sunny day you can do anything or go anywhere. You can stay in and open up the garden for DC to play in.

Yes, pressured to always go out and have fun.

Anxiety is a personal thing so i’d be an arse if I said YABU but I love it when the sun is out. My dd can go I to the garden and make as much mess as she likes and it doesn’t bother me at all. I absolutely love sunny days. I’m always happier as well so it works for us.

That’s exactly how I feel in Winter! The dark nights make me feel trapped and anxious. I’d never thought about it in reverse! You have my sympathies, it’s a horrible feeling. It helps me to break down the day into very small chunks of activity so it feels less overwhelming x

Pressured by who?

I know what you mean OP. I just let my kids into the garden so I can do whatever I need to do without the pressure of going out out with them in the sun.

I feel a sense of relief when the sun is out. There are so many more options of things to do. When it's raining I feel very restricted. We spend too much time in the house (despite going out every day to museums/soft play/cinema etc). Just being able to pop to the park after school is amazing! Sunny weather is liberating!

Yes I love a really raining day when everyone expects to stay in and not do anything remotely organised or exciting.

I feel the opposite, trapped when the weather is rainy/grey/cold. Anxiety is horrible however it manifests, you have my sympathies op.

Laguna- I don’t know, pressured by myself I suppose!

I feel a bit like that. I feel like I should be doing some sort of house maintenance or gardening or something. When the weather is bad I don't care because I can't do it then.

The sun is shining here but everywhere is still very wet after all the rain this week. But I am off to work shortly so pressure's off!

When I was growing up my siblings and I were not allowed any TV at the weekend in the day if the weather was nice.
I used to pray for rain so I could watch Swap Shop (Tiswas not allowed).

Even now my parents are horrified at the thought of anyone lying in bed all morning or watching TV in the daytime. They think it's a real waste of time.

I know what you mean! There seems to be a pressure from society to pack the car and a picnic and head out for the day to an AOB or NT place or something equally stimulating - both weekend days.

When reality is that you have washing, ironing , housework and shopping to do. Homework to supervise and probably a club to run a child to.

In all honesty I think we see a few people we know on FB post because they do have a lifestyle where it's possible.
The rest of us are just happy we can line dry the washing and run errands without drowning

I’m the opposite, feel much less pressure when it’s sunny. Kids can just free flow into the garden or play out.

Feel like I should constantly be organising stuff when it’s miserable out so they don’t get bored

Yea I do. When it is a nice day I feel pressured to be doing something, outdoors, enjoying the nice weather. Anything else feels like a waste.

I know exactly what you mean OP I get this too.

I feel pressure to go out on a day trip, set up exciting garden activities for your kids, wear nice summer outfits and have your nails painted and legs shaved, invite friends over or join in with social activities like BBQs. Pressure to maintain your garden and get on with the DIY, hang the washing out etc.

In other words pressure to do something. If I have house work or feel ill/tired, not going out when its sunny feels like wasting the day which makes me feel even more anxious and pointless. Having a lazy day when its rainy feels justified and I don't feel anxious that anyone will judge me for it.

Do you have a garden?
Could you just open the door and let the light and air in? Have a picnic in the garden for lunch?
It doesn’t need to be massive effort, just enjoying what’s there.

I used to set up a sunshade o er a paddling pool, and sit with my feet on it while the kids played around.

Or picnic in the local park. You’ll be having lunch anyway, just do it in a summer way.

Sorry if I’ve misunderstood you and you do all this anyway.

I hate the sun and dread summer. I feel pressured to be out and about with the DC.
I get sick of MIL, my DM, friends etc all asking what our plans are and the looks of disapproval if I say we have no plans for the day. I get all the 'oh, shame' comments and it infuriates me. It's really bad when OH is at work and I feel it's all down to me to organise trips to the beach, fun water games in the garden with friends, never-ending trips to local parks. It's just like a list I feel I have to tick off and I hate it.
I have anxiety and I sometimes just don't want to do to these things if am honest but end up doing them out if a duty to my DC who I feel will miss out if we don't and to prevent the guilty trip from other people.
I get sick of the picnics, being on suncream duty, spare clothes/towels for beach, hats... It just all seems to get on top of me. Then I sit uncomfortable and sweaty feeling miserable and on-edge whilst pretending I'm having fun.
I'm a much more relaxed, happy fun person the rest of the year.

I get you op, I feel its an expectation of me as a mother to be 'out doing something with the kids' once the sun is out, it's not that I don't like going out it's just the feeling of judgement of what I choose to do on sunny days if that makes sense. If I choose to stay in then I feel guilt because they (kids) should be out enjoying the sun, regardless if they were out all the day before.

@Sparklingbrook

When I was growing up my siblings and I were not allowed any TV at the weekend in the day if the weather was nice.

I used to pray for rain so I could watch Swap Shop (Tiswas not allowed.)

What kind of horrors were you subjected to? Not allowed TISWAS!

I hope social services got involved.

Seriously though, me and DH occasionally debate that about that, and which one was better. He preferred Swap Shop, and I preferred Tiswas. He said Swap Shop was for the middle classes. Not me then! not him either!

@Shopperami

OP, I much prefer the sunny weather, and love to see it, and I love seeing the kids whizzing up and down the road on skateboards and bicycles, horse riders trotting around, and people going for walks (including me.)

Unlike a few others, I used to love all the sorting and packing for day trips and holidays and it gave me a real buzz. I get that it's not for everyone though, and can cause stress to some.

And I get that there is a feeling that you should be doing something, and may feel stressed if the kids want to go out and do things (that may cost money etc.) I feel a bit bad myself if I stay in when it's nice. It has been vile this past week though; cold and wet and windy, so I shall take great pleasure in going in the garden when I have tidied the house.