7 DHs from adjacent houses cycling all weekend (again)!

[ballisticcyclistic]

I’m sitting here with ice on my ankle because yesterday I twisted it during a ridiculous situation where I had to take 4 special wheels to the garage for DH’s car and he’d loaded these in my car at 5am. I couldn’t park in the garage forecourt as no space, so I had to park up the road. Then I couldn’t lift the bloody things out of the back of my car, so I just pulled two out and tried to roll them along, but the road was on an incline and the wheels took on a will of their own, like wagon wheels rolling off, One was veering into the road so I had to chase it like a lunatic and I caught the edge of my wedge sandals and twisted my ankle which is still very swollen. So that was yesterday afternoon.

DH complained to the garage that it was unacceptable that nobody they’d helped me, but he has since apologised so I’ll just put behind me, but there are repercussions now for this weekend.

We live on a street where we actually get on with lots of neighbours (rare for London) but this is mainly led by the DHs who are all cycling fanatics. This weekend they are all off to the midlands for some famous ride I’ve never heard of. There are seven of them going.

Now normally I’d be glad of the peace, but today I have -

• Landscape gardeners coming around 8am
• The flooring man coming at 9am
• I need to leave at 9.30am to get DS (14) to his tutor, 20 min drive away, so I won’t be back until 12
• DD (11) needs to be at a party for 1.30pm which a good 40 min drive, but could be more like 2 hours because they’ve closed Hammersmith Bridge and Putney and Chiswick Bridges are rammed. Also, I can’t walk to the tube and this DD has a broken toe as well
• One DS in the midst of GCSEs and will need support / someone to practise French with / test him etc. He is working very hard, but sometimes just needs calming down or distraction. Other DS also has end of year exams starting on Mon and he needs a fair bit if input due to dyslexia.
• 2 new kittens who I have to watch in case they get out due to gardeners leaving doors open
• Plumbers coming at some point in the afternoon

AIBU to be a bit miffed? Of course, I know DH can’t cancel the ride now, but I feel aggravated and it’s only 7am!

Anyway people are being quite nasty now and troll hunting. I have to speak with the tutor so I’m off. Thankyou to the reasonable posters, but there are some very unpleasant ones out in force this morning and only they know why.

Oh if DH is now back surely he can sort out the random gardeners he picked up from the street corner, as he does karate and your 16yr old is 6ft 5

So, this is a family of 5 that can afford their own home in SW London, run at least one car, pay for private tutors, have pets, fund expensive car and cycling hobbies - but can only afford work on the house and garden if done illegally, cash in hand, by people who hang around early in the morning hoping a punter will give them some work, no questions asked. Does your dh have any redeeming features, OP, or is he a 100% self-centred, self-entitled git with no conscience? And if so, what example are you setting your children to carry on your lives in this fashion, with him calling all the shots and you meekly doing his bidding, however shady?

So your DH makes oodles of money, enough so he can engage in expensive hobbies of collecting cars and pissing off to do expensive cycling weekends with his friends on expensive bikes ... and partially funds his extravagances by hiring desperate people to do the work at cut race prices under the table. So they aren't actually paid fairly, and no taxes are being paid. And honest workpersons with all the proper qualifications and training and safety training don't get work.

Nice.

Nope you don't have to speak to the tutor for another 15 minutes, pay attention to your own timings, and only you have mentioned trolls

I don’t understand the 6 get 5 comment.

Anyway, you’re at the tutor and won’t be back until 12, so what did you arrange for DD to get to her 1.30pm party which will take 2 hrs to get to in traffic?

What will your DH being doing whilst you are doing two journeys with 2 kids at once? A quick game of ten pin bowling?

Well it looks like the usual vipers are out in force because it's the weekend.
OP, your life sounds hectic! I hope your ankle recovers quickly, your kittens are delightful and you get a bit of time to yourself this weekend!
(YWBU for not posting a picture of the kittens but hey...)

OP I suggest you ignore the people trying to second guess the finer points of the logistics here and just take a bit of time to think about how to get your life back. You seem so stressed and harrassed and you are wasting time jumping to respond to trivial comments, and ignoring the bigger picture. Is this how your life goes more generally?

I don’t want to say who are boys and girls tbh becsudr it’s irrelevant and in case anyone I know is in MN - oh dear maybe you shouldn't have been sp specific with place names then...

Why is it on mumsnet, whenever a woman has a problem with her partners hobby. It’s always bloody cycling!

My DH doesn’t cycle, but I know lots of male colleagues who do. It seems to me that their poor wives need to pick up all the slack

Good that you have enough shame to piss off from the thread when people call you out for underpaying vulnerable workers.

6ft5

Op, I am not sure why you won't put your DC in an Uber if public transport isn't convenient, but it's important to teach independence.

Your DH does sound like a bit of an areshole tbh, but don't see a reason he should cancel his event. Do you get weekends away with your friends or hobbies?

OP, your life sounds hectic!

It really, really, doesn't.

It sounds like normal family life, bar the requirement for excessive applause (& totally unnecessary specialist car wheel rolling while wearing heels).

OP has had good advice and suggestions here, but chooses to flounce instead of engaging. She could easily ignore the more goady posts.

She’s been given loads of suggestions to alleviate the burden whilst her DH buggers off to a country house but seems to have taken none on board.

You have a DH problem tbh.

Flouncing is easier I think than facing up to the fact she has a huge dh issue

And organisational issues on her side

I have not flounced off.

I am out if the tutors now. Set your watch Karmin. It’s a 20-25 min journey home - so ETA 12.05.

Yes it would be tight getting the youngest one to the party - which was the whole point

Anyway someone is kindly giving her a lift.

Would the troll hunters like some scenic photos of my journey home?

I'm not being nasty OP but is there a reason your DS couldn't travel independently?

This is the funniest thread I've read all week 😂

Well if you haven’t flounced off, care to explain why you feel comfortable underpaying vulnerable workers?

@RSAcre to be clear, joining a brass band was not an act of revenge! Like 'fuck it, I'll take up a brass instrument, that'll teach him'

But it has worked out well. Except the uniform is a bit uncool if I'm honest.