To be told I need to get fit by DP, I'm size 8-10

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That really. Plus I have a six month old baby (2nd child). I'm in good shape, slim and can fit nicely into my pre baby clothes. I pretty much lost it when DP said this and DP said I took it the wrong way. What other way am I meant to take it ? The conversation was going quite normally until that point. The chat (over FaceTime) was shut down by me saying how rude and insensitive DP is. How would you react ?

Tell him he needs plastic surgery and a penis enlargement
Neither of those things have anything to do with increasing fitness.

Turn it into an opporunity to do someting that you would like to do (swim / yoga / walk -whatever) coz they are all going to help you feel well...and make him do the childcare - he can't argue if he thnks it matters? It is a bit rude when they say this to you - especially when you are clearly slim and recovered well from pregnancy. My DP did it to me and I was fuming but I got over it. Other major point - is he fit?! They have NO RIGHT to ask it if they are not doing it themselves.

Conversation started (well mid point) with me saying I don't do much for myself, life is hectic, I'm tired. DP said I need to get fit. I wasn't saying I need to go to gym, I need to get in shape. It was a random (stupid and bloody rude!) comment. After call I sent text asking why would he say that, it's insensitive, rude but he maintained I took it the wrong way.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo Fri 10-May-19 23:01:04
Health and fitness is top priority in our house, it’s very important to us both so yes of course he would have no issue, his health and fitness is my business as is mine to him, we both want a long and healthy life as possible together and both work hard to hopefully make this happen.

BettyBoo was a LOT more fun than this in the late 1980s. Just saying...

DP is unfit and could do with loosing some weight but I would never point that out. I'm a firm believer that people need to work that stuff out themselves and put whatever effort they need to put in. Not by me announcing 'you need to get fit'

It really does sound like you have taken a comment meant to be kind and constructive (ie. you’re having a rough time and don’t have much time for yourself, maybe some exercise would cheer you up and give you some ‘me time’) and turned it into something else. I wonder if you are having other issues with your DP or if you might be having some mental health struggles?

Yes them were the days!

Well if he's overweight, he needs to get his own house in order before criticising you!. What a CF.

All depends what was said exactly .

“You ugly skinny-fat bint. Get your thin but saggy arse to the gym pronto “ . =LTB.

“ How are you feeling love? Frumpy? Do you think you'd Feel better I If you went to the gym for a bit ?= fair point

DP is maintaining I took this the wrong way. No apology or acknowledgment from DP that it came out wrong, etc. Even if DP said with best intentions and getting fit would make me feel better overall (I agree exercise does make you feel better) but to say get fit and tone. Plus he knows I already have a lot on my plate. It's a thoughtless comment and not nice.