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Original poster

Probably TMI

32 replies

b0bb1n · 10/05/2019 20:53

Here for traffic sorry.

What are the chances of getting pregnant 5 1/2 weeks after giving birth when he pulled out? If it makes a difference I exclusively pump breast milk and haven't had my period yet since giving birth. I doubt it's possible to get pregnant on the pre-stuff?

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thesnapandfartisinfallible · 10/05/2019 20:57

Possible. Unlikely but still possible.

thinkingaboutthinking19 · 10/05/2019 20:58

Not 100% sure but I thought you were meant to be very fertile in the first 6or so weeks after giving birth. Not sure how breastfeeding effects this.

I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will be able to comment soon.
Congratulations on your new baby.

Sparklingbrook · 10/05/2019 20:58

You have had unprotected sex so possible.

NoSauce · 10/05/2019 20:59

It’s unlikely but you never know I guess.

FizzBuzzBangWoof · 10/05/2019 21:01

Unlikely but not impossible

I'd be inclined to request MAP to be safe

Hiphopopotamous · 10/05/2019 21:11

Agree unlikely but possible.
Technically the lactational amenorrhoea method is fairly reliable (think 90%+ but don't quote me) but only for the first 6 months if exclusively Bf every 2-3h including overnight - not sure how often you're pumping?
If you want to avoid pregnancy the safest thing to do is get some proper contraception on board and consider MAP this encounter.
(Doctor)

TokyoSushi · 10/05/2019 21:13

Yes I'd say unlikely but not impossible too

EC22 · 10/05/2019 21:15

Highly unlikely!

MatchSetPoint · 10/05/2019 21:24

Your fertile 21 days after giving birth, unlikely but possible, maybe take plan B?

MatchSetPoint · 10/05/2019 21:25

You’re*

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 10/05/2019 21:30

Absolutely It is still possible to get pregnant using the pull out method.
I find it astonishing people still think this this method failsafe. You certainly don't come over as stupid.
Even with contraception there is a risk of pregnancy let alone with out.
Hopefully you'll be okay though.

mumwon · 10/05/2019 21:34

please don't do it again until you have proper contraception for your own sake

DerrenBrownings · 10/05/2019 21:36

Fair play to you being able and wanting to have sex 5.5 weeks after having a baby. Wow. Of course its possible you're pregnant. They even warn you how super fertile you are and to be careful when you're in hospital and it's common knowledge.

tor8181 · 10/05/2019 23:00

my 2nd cousin got pregnant a week and half after giving birth,she had 8 and half months between babies as baby 2 came early
she was breastfeeding and didnt have any periods till years later as she breastfeed both for 4 years

me being me ie gobby i asked her how in the hell can you do it that quick?my foof was still on the floor and i was still bleeding 8 weeks later

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b0bb1n · 11/05/2019 08:25

Thank you for all your replies. We were so stupid to risk it. Not that we don't want another one at some point but our financial and living situation is far from ideal right now.

Oh wow tor8181 that was incredibly soon! She must have been exhausted with 2 babies so close. Lol I am actually really surprised I've done it this early too, but I've been really fortunate that everything healed quickly and seems to have sprung back into place a lot quicker than expected. No way at 1.5 weeks tho!

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Reallyevilmuffin · 11/05/2019 08:31

Exclusive breast feeding is supposed to provide effective contraception for 6 months. Pumping should provide similar as long as you're doing throughout the day/night and not just day because of good supply.

ememem84 · 11/05/2019 08:52

I was told by the midwives and nurses in the hospital that breastfeeding doesn’t mean you’re protected and to make sure we use protection. Because the first few weeks are super fertile.

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b0bb1n · 11/05/2019 09:09

Thinking about it I don't pump as regularly as I should, it's just not possible to do it every 2-3 hours with a newborn who only really sleeps for a sufficient time while in my arms. I manage to average on roughly every 4-5 hours including at least once in the early hours. But at worst I've gone 8 hours+ without pumping. So would that make me more fertile as I'm not pumping as often as a baby would be feeding?

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BusterGonad · 11/05/2019 09:10

Someone I work with got pregnant within a few months of having a baby, sorry I'm not entirely sure weeks wise.

xrebekah · 11/05/2019 09:49

Possible! A girl in my birth group has a 14 month old and a 15 week old.

Sparklingbrook · 11/05/2019 09:52

Exclusive breast feeding is supposed to provide effective contraception for 6 months. Pumping should provide similar as long as you're doing throughout the day/night and not just day because of good supply.

I am not sure about this.

Blueeyesdarkhair · 11/05/2019 09:52

I would guess it’s low risk, but Get yourself the MAP to be certain if you’re not ok with having another one so soon.
My kids are older now but the midwifes hammered home getting contraception sorted ASAP after they’d been born.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 11/05/2019 09:57

I think breastfeeding only usually has an effect on fertility if you're feeding through the night. If you're only feeding or pumping once in the night then I think it doesn't act as contraception. If you feed or pump every few hours then that acts like contraception. However even when it acts like contraception it's not highly effective

NotReadyForThisX2 · 11/05/2019 10:09

Well there's going to be 13 months between mine and I was exclusively breastfeeding and we used condoms. So I'd say don't risk it, get the MAP if you can and never have sex again until you're ready for another 😂

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b0bb1n · 11/05/2019 10:25

The weird thing is I don't remember midwives or anyone really discussing contraception with me, except I think once it was mentioned as a passing comment. Of course that's no excuse, I knew the risks.

Thanks for the replies, feeling both reassured yet more nervous somehow lol

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