To sleep before DD 7 is in bed ?

[AutumnNymph]

DD 7 is in the family room watching telly while painting , DH is in the gym. While on weekdays DD is in bed by 8, we are more relaxed when it isn’t a school night. I am knackered and sleepy and mentioned to my DMiL (WhatsApp) that am going to sleep off.

She basically said I am being irresponsible to sleep when DD is alone and awake and anything could happen! DD regularly wakes up before us on weekends and can sort her breakfast out ( cereal and milk / fruits) - it didn’t even strike me that it wasn’t responsible to consider sleeping before her. DD is sensible and I know she won’t open the dorm to anybody or walk out ( which are two instances DMIL mentioned )

AIBU? MIL has offered to keep talking to me until DH comes home to “help me stay awake”

I wouldn't, especially with burglaries, the the tv went on fire, but the time she went to wake you, would you let her unplug the electrical appliance out.
I would only do it if she came upstairs, to my room or her room next door, she could play quietly or watch tv in low.
Not on a different level of the house.

How many burglaries are there at 9pm at night when the house is clearly occupied? How many TV’s suddenly combust when people are watching them?

For the love of little fish, the OP was going upstairs, not to the pub.

your MIL is bonkers. The child is 7, not 2. Surely capable of watching some tv unsupervised

@YourSarcasmIsDripping

Because I like to be awake and have an ear out for what my kids are up to. Going to bed is effectively switching off from then. They may well need me - they may well not - but I’d like to have some presence in the house. Taking yourself off to bed means you’re physically present but you’ve decided to switch off!

especially with burglaries, the the tv went on fire

you can just as well be victim of a burglary at 9am, the latest round around here were at 3pm on Saturdays afternoons..

If your TV goes on fire, you are better off with someone awake that will raise the alarm, do you switch off your fridge freezer every night before you go to bed for safety? They are more known to start house fires than tv set...

you’ve decided to switch off!

And that's allowed sometimes even if you have kids(depending on the kid ofc).