Do you put an 'x' on the end of everything?

[DM1209]

I'm having a bit of a reshuffle and so am currently looking for a new cleaner, new term time child care and in talks with some Decorators for the summer.

Every single person I have gotten in touch with for professional purposes has responded to my message with 'x's on the end and used terms of endearment such as 'hun'. When did this become a thing?

Honestly I'm not a grouchy bitch at all and all of my friends and family get inundated with 'x's, terms of endearment and lots of love from me. However, I would never, ever be so unprofessional with someone engaging my services (not that I have any services to offer), an acquaintance or a colleague.

Do you do this? If so why? It then makes me feel like I'm coming across as cold and or stuck up by just signing off with my name, I still don't add any 'x' at the end of my message though.

Why do people do this with strangers? And I know it's not the end of the world or a real problem, I just want to know.

Thank you for reading x

I only do this by accident x

It's creeping in because my sister does! Drives me mad too.

Blame Facebook 😂

No x

Edit: Every single time I have gotten in touch with someone for professional services, they have responded with an 'x' on the end of their message.

Got lost in translation in the opening post.

No I don’t, and I’m noticing suppliers (conference venues) using it sometimes too. It might be that we’ve emailed back and forth a bit about a particular enquiry, but we’ve never met, and email conversation had never gone beyond ‘have a nice weekend’. I don’t understand it!

So good to know it's not just me!

Had a Decorator text me addressing me as 'sweet lips' why?? Just, why!?

x

Yes hun x

Drives me mad when suppliers do this, then the moment you have to have an awkward convo with them the x’s stop!

I get it from customers all the time. ‘Hi hun’ or ‘Hi lovely’ (lovely? you’ve never met me and I’m a right bastard) then ending with xxx

Sweet lips?!?

No, it massively puts me off a person if they do it too. It's a mark of endearment to me, not for peppering everywhere.

Yep - normal everyday stuff is 1 'x'
People I like a lot and converse with are 2 'xx'
And my close family and friends all get 3 'xxx'
If I know someone at work quite well they also get a 'x' after my name on an email.
In my last company they used to laugh about how much trouble they would be in if they didn't get the 'x' at the end of the email!

I'd find that strange in a message from any stranger, but especially from one I'd contacted for professional services. It doesn't seem particularly... professional.

Oh - and I only ever use HUN and CHICK etc... for my very best friends and my sisters xxx

Like a PP I do it occasionally to people I don't know but only by accident (usually accompanied by "love you" and signed with my husband's cringy nickname for me).

The worst was someone who used to litter her sentences with "lol" when she was just stating factual information. For example "I'll be at yours to drop everything off at 1pm lol, unless I get stuck in traffic but I'll let you know if that happens lol". It made me wonder if she was joking and she wasn't actually going to come round.

Sorry, it wasn't sweet lips, it was sweetie - not that that's any better..... perhaps I have a secret desire to be called 'sweet lips'....

This was a decorator! A random decorator.

I don’t and I fucking hate it.

DH calls me hun so it’s weird when others do!

No, DH gets them unless he's pissed me off. Sometimes SIL because she puts 100 at the end of each text and i get guilted into replying with X on the end. I think if I did it at work I might get fired...

Oh my god the 'lol's!!!!! I hate those too, why, just why?!?

I must sound so damn cranky and old!

I just cannot imagine ever, EVER addressing a client (not that kind of client) with a term other than their name and ending my communication with 'x'.....

Aaaaarrggghhhh!

DM messaged me about a year ago 'hi Hun, blah blah blah' I just replied if you Hun me in future I just won't reply 🤢

I only put kisses on a message for family. One or two for family and about ten for DH.

Did you remember when mobile phones first came out and everyone responded with Tbx?

Well thank you to those who have responded lol, it helps me to feel better that I'm not crazy, lol and I really appreciate it.

Lol. x

(Ok I'll stop.) So tempting...

A couple years ago I got called into the office and essentially told I come across as cold because I don’t put “x” on the end of my texts when replying to my manager. I was gob smacked. I had offended her. I left shortly after that as I was embarrassed at having to put “x’s”. Looking back I think it was a control thing...

@ethelfleda, what did the Tbx stand for?

No I don't. But I don't have friends or family so nobody to message