Do you put an 'x' on the end of everything?

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I'm having a bit of a reshuffle and so am currently looking for a new cleaner, new term time child care and in talks with some Decorators for the summer.

Every single person I have gotten in touch with for professional purposes has responded to my message with 'x's on the end and used terms of endearment such as 'hun'. When did this become a thing?

Honestly I'm not a grouchy bitch at all and all of my friends and family get inundated with 'x's, terms of endearment and lots of love from me. However, I would never, ever be so unprofessional with someone engaging my services (not that I have any services to offer), an acquaintance or a colleague.

Do you do this? If so why? It then makes me feel like I'm coming across as cold and or stuck up by just signing off with my name, I still don't add any 'x' at the end of my message though.

Why do people do this with strangers? And I know it's not the end of the world or a real problem, I just want to know.

Thank you for reading x

I make a point of not doing it unless someone does it first. Then, reluctantly, I feel pulled into it and worry it's rude not to.

But the whole thing is cringe worthy to me. Don't mind occasionally for someone I'm close to, but even then would prefer it's not all the time.

Don't like 'text speak' either though and have to type everything out in full! Probably a bit old fashioned I suppose.

Professionally? Never.

Personally? Sometimes depending on the recipient!

My 11 year old has just started to use a phone before secondary and when I message her I add an 'x' at the end but she never adds one back and it makes me feel irrationally unloved by her Does she not know how rare it is that I gives 'x's out or that I require her validation with this mundane affection! How very dare she.

The ‘Tb’ stood for ‘text back’ and the x was just an x

@WatchingTheWheel85, you can message me hun, I'm really lovely x
J

Aah, that makes sense. I've never, ever understood text speak.... thank you for explaining.

Hahaha I chose my cleaner on the basis that she was the only one to not call me hun and not to put a kiss when responding to my ad.

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Actually, my cleaner puts two xx at the end of her texts to me but I don’t mind so much because she doesn’t call me ‘hun’.

Strangely enough though I don’t mind being called ‘bab’ by strangers.

It's x's in place of full stops too that get me.

"Hey hun x what is if you're after x I can do Monday x let me know xxx"

@Somuchroom, that is completely shocking and beyond unprofessional! I often worry that I appear cold at work but I don't see it as professional conduct at all, in emails or in texts and in my industry (Legal) EVERYTHING is open to interpretation! Especially with some of the senior partners and the Barristers who think they're gods gift when all you can think when you're speaking to them is 'god he's got a lot of tartar on his teeth, I can actually see the build up!'

No x's from me, no matter who you are.
Only exception- if you going through a really really tough time and I want to give you a sense of extra caring.
Everyone knows I dont do random 'x's.
Xxx

I hate this! It’s so totally unnecessary but the worst part is the way you get so sucked into it- you feel if you don’t put the ubiquitous bloody x people will think you’re cold and unfeeling or angry or something. I don’t mind putting them if it’s to my husband or a close friend, but why does it have to be every single bloody message? And why do complete strangers do it? What’s the POINT? Can’t we all just stop?

Honestly though they're basically politness markers and mean 'this communication isn't hostile'. Lol especially because it has been so overused.

I do it to my Mother, that is it.

I recently booked baby sensory classes and the leader text me with xxx on the end. I’ve never been so put off something in my life .

If someone I approached for a professional service called me "hun" I would instantly tell them they'd lost the job without going any further.

No, hun. Never.

x

I'll do a few kisses to someone at the end of a bulk of messages in whatsapp to show I'm 'signing off' kinda thing. Wouldn't DREAM of doing it professionally. I work for myself.

If I had someone addressing me as 'sweetie' they wouldn't get a penny off me!

I don’t. I mean I’ll put an x for friends and family.

But absolutely no huns, and I cannot stand it when people punctuate with lol. Ugh

yes to most friends

no in any kind of work context. A lot of young women I've worked with do this and I find it so weird.

That text from the decorator was awful, so unprofessional.
I am guilty of xx at end of texts, luckily I only text friends and family.

I'm a non-x-er - not to family, friends, no-one. I know that some of them are x-ers as occasionally an x might sneak into a message to me. We just politely agree to not notice it.

I really don't understand xx when you're exchanging several texts. Or xx on posts in online forums.

Mindless twee-ity.

'Sweetie'
He doesn't even know you.
That is a very random message.

The text exchange between me and my cleaner makes me chuckle because she uses Xs every time & I never do. Neither of us have taken the hint and standardised. Never mind!

I wouldn’t get a quote from sweetie man.

No waaaay. I find it really odd that anyone outside of DH does this. Unless it's specific to the conversation.

I've worked in some offices where people actually kissed hello at meetings... You'd have HATED it him lolz