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What is the best revenge

78 replies

Tulip1011 · 09/05/2019 10:39

Hello hello. I’m 7.5 months pregnant. The other day I went to pick up a crib for my baby and dropped it off at my apartment via stopping in the communal car park. There were no visitors spaces left so I parked in an empty space knowing there is no surveillance and with every intention of coming to move the car later. I totally forgot to move the car back to my (separate) car park once I got in the flat. The next day I realise, come down and see that someone has keyed my lovely Audi!!

Well it is pretty likely to be the person whose space it was right?

I notice a BMW parked in a nearby space. This morning, the BMW is now in the space which I originally parked in. The space belongs to a “piping” company

Here are the options

  • check if the BMW is still there tmrw and if so return the keying - eye for an eye (husband is keen on this one)
  • go into the piping company office heavily pregnant and ask if anyone knows about why my car got keyed while accidentally in their space (obv they will say no but make them feel guilty)
  • call up the car company pretending to be a surveillance company having seen an incident on the CCTV
  • put a note on the BMW along the lines of “nice clean door you have here”
  • crack eggs down the windscreen of said BMW
  • just let it go and get on with your life (not sure husband is up for this one)

Is there something better.

Thanks in advance

OP posts:
IAmTheChosenOne · 09/05/2019 10:42

You have no idea if it was the BMW owner or not, yet you want to damage his property? criminal damage? And egged (no pun) on by your DH? And you think this is rational or fair?

WorraLiberty · 09/05/2019 10:43

I'd pick the last one or add 'grow up' to the list.

Thegardenismine · 09/05/2019 10:43

Are you seven and half months pregnant or aged seven and a half ?

Singlenotsingle · 09/05/2019 10:43

I quite like the egging suggestion. I have to admit I once considered emptying a tin of gloss paint on top of a car whose owner had upset me. I didn't do it obvs, (and not suggesting you should) but I was tempted.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 09/05/2019 10:44

The let it go option...because a you have no proof and b you shouldnt have parked there! Neither of which you will want to hear ..sorry!! Really shit thing to have happened to you though so can totally understand how upset you must be I would be too ....

SleepingStandingUp · 09/05/2019 10:45

You have no proof.

Go to the office and ask

TixieLix · 09/05/2019 10:47

Wow, where to start with this one!

Firstly, you were in the wrong for not moving your car out of someone else's space which probably pissed them right off and caused all sorts of inconvenience. Secondly, you can't be 100% certain it was the BMW driver and you could be keying an innocent person's car.

I don't condone your car being keyed. It's never right to take out your frustrations in such a manner. Therefor you doing it as revenge would make you just as bad as the person who did it to your car. Likewise the eggs. You can't be 100% certain it's the right car.

As this whole incident began by your own forgetfulness, I'd personally let it go and get on with my life.

JacquesHammer · 09/05/2019 10:49

Seriously let it go.

Whatisthisfuckery · 09/05/2019 10:50

well, given the fact that you have no proof and you would risk revenge or escalation, I’d say letting it drop would be the best option.

AnnieMay100 · 09/05/2019 10:51

Report it to whoever is responsible for the car park and leave a note on suspected car ‘be careful someone will key you for parking here’ or along those lines... but don’t rise to it and key them back if you’re caught you’re in trouble

IvanaPee · 09/05/2019 10:52

You don’t know who it was.

Stop taking spaces that aren’t yours.

NCforthis2019 · 09/05/2019 10:54

How bloody old are you?! Grow up ffs. You’re about to have a child.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 09/05/2019 10:59

You were in the wrong and you have no proof it was them. Suck it up buttercup.

Fraxion · 09/05/2019 11:00

How bloody old are you?! Grow up ffs. You’re about to have a child.

This, exactly.

SummerInSun · 09/05/2019 11:01

Option 6 - let it go.

Or Option 2 - speak to the company.

Or if you want to really rub it in and keep the moral high ground, you go up to the owner of the BMW or the company office and say "I just wanted to apologise for unintentionally leaving my car in your spot the other day, I was dropping off the crib for the new baby and intended to move the car immediately but what with pregnancy exhaustion I entirely forgot. I really want to apologies and let you know that I won't do so again. I also wanted to warn you that there is someone about who is keying cars - mine was keyed while in your spot, which is terribly upsetting, especially with all the expense of the new baby. Do be careful. I'm planning to get in touch with the car park owners about installing CCTV."

Bluntness100 · 09/05/2019 11:03

Jesus, you wonder how some people get through the day.

You and your husband sound well suited op. Both as ridiculous as the other.

I'm not even sure it's worth explaining why.

MLMsuperfan · 09/05/2019 11:06

Why don't you have your own space?

ABoozedMoose · 09/05/2019 11:06

But you weren't 'accidentally' parked there, were you?

Stop playing the victim. I agree with the others that you (and your husband) need to grow the fuck up. Great role models for your kid!

QueenOfTheEighthKingdom · 09/05/2019 11:09

That is criminal damage and parking in someone else's space is no justification for it. I take it this is the first time you've done it?

I would absolutely confront the person who's space you took, tell them you intended to move the car and apologise but inform them you'll be reporting it to the police (record the conversation).

Will your insurance cover the paint job?

steppemum · 09/05/2019 11:15

good grief, do you have to put lighthearted or tongue in cheek in every post so people notice?
Give the Op a break, surely she is just posted for a bit of humour, and has no actual intention of doing any of the above?

SoupDragon · 09/05/2019 11:17

ask if anyone knows about why my car got keyed while accidentally in their space

It wasn't accidentally in their space though.

Original poster
Tulip1011 · 09/05/2019 11:21

Thanks for the feedback!
Answers

  • I have my own space in another car park but it’s too far to walk with a crib
  • I doubt we need to claim on insurance we will just DIY sand down the damage it’s just the principle
  • I’m afraid anyone can have children even people like me. Not sure what that has to do with the situation

To those infuriated at my immaturity, clearly you are on some higher intellectual plane than me and unphased by any unfair incident in life and I salute you for that. I don’t think that getting your car keyed is a reasonable and expected outcome of parking in the wrong place. Do you key the cars of people that park in your spaces?

Queen of the eighth kingdom solution is sounding the best so far. Thanks

OP posts:
SlothMama · 09/05/2019 11:24

First off you were in the wrong, granted that doesn't mean it's okay that your car has been damaged. However you have no proof that the owner of the BMW has keyed your car and you shouldn't retaliate.

Grow up and learn from your mistakes.

Nesssie · 09/05/2019 11:27

I would definitely go into the office in an outfit that makes you look super pregnant and do what SummerInSun. Criminal damage is never justified so make them feel as guilty as you can!

DirtyDennis · 09/05/2019 11:30

put some dog shit under the door handle