I cycle around 100 miles a week, I drive 25000 miles a year, split between a big german car and a van, so I suppose that makes me ubiquitously hated...
Anyway, I think that there are two issues here, and one site will likely never understand the other unless they experience both. The cyclists and red lights thing seems to be a very city-commuter problem. As I said above, I am a cyclist but I ride with a club, mostly on a weekend. I genuinely despair at London commuters when I drive there for work (not daily) because I do think they are dangerous and I do think they give cyclists a bad name, however ultimately they are all just people trying to go about their daily lives.
I just wanted to say that the cyclists asking for more room are the ones out on a country road on a sunday morning, we don't run red lights (we barely come across any where I am anyway) and every group I have come across has been courteous.
Interestingly we have been experimenting a bit, and when our group rides single file, we get numerous attempted overtakes that end up wiht 2 cars driving towards each other on the side of the road we are not on (no room to squeeze between oncoming car and us) yet even though both motorists have to stop, wait for us to pass and then attempt the same manouver further along the road we don't get any abuse. When we ride 2 abreast, people wind down their windows and shout at us as they safely make it past us with no drama. I don't get it but if a frothing motorist would like to explain the logic that getting past makes you cross, but not getting past actually doesn't then i'm all ears.
I think it can be summed up as some cyclists are cunts, some drivers are cunts, some pedestrians are cunts. Some people are just cunts. Most people, regardless of transport method are not.
Also someone mentioned upthread about the road being for cars... Pedestrians/horses/cyclists have explicit right to use the road network with the exception of the motorways, drivers of motor vehicles can only use it under licence. If anything the car is a privilege and has the least rights of all, and i say that as a regular driver.