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To call bs?

34 replies

ToCallHerOut · 07/05/2019 22:23

Would I be unreasonable to report to management that's she's not that busy?

I sit next to a girl, in a similar role but she works for a different department. She is always complaining to management that's she's too busy. I hear them discussing how to assist her workload and they often ask me to help her out, but the problem is, I sit next to her and she is often on Facebook or messaging friends, the messages go back and forth for ages. She'll then return to working with lots of huffing and puffing. I know she could get a lot more done if she was less distracted. I'm now doing some of her work to help her out, management will often say can you help xxx out today. It's just causing me more workload when my plate is full already. I wouldn't mind to help if she genuinely needed help but she doesn't, she just needs to be less distracted so easily. I feel like mentioning it, but don't want to cause any hassles.

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janetforpresident · 07/05/2019 22:26

Why are some people so selfish!? Yes I think you should say something. She clearly doesn't give a shit about you so why should you be covering for her?

BetsyBigNose · 07/05/2019 22:40

If it's particularly Facebook she's using, you could have a quiet word with HR and perhaps suggest that they implement a Company-wide block on accessing the site? At the least, they could have a look at who is accessing what and for how long and base any decisions on that.

Margot33 · 07/05/2019 22:42

Yes pass it on.

lljkk · 07/05/2019 22:43

Bloody Hell. Where I am , we are packed in like sardines & even a quick glance at the weather forecast on one's phone feels like illicit screen activity.

OP is already in hassle if OP is picking up work while colleague dosses.

I would ask my seniors how this could be reported relatively anonymously.

mineofuselessinformation · 07/05/2019 22:54

Politely suggest that they monitor her internet usage if she's using her work computer. If she's not, say that she seems very busy on the internet and leave it there...

StillCoughingandLaughing · 07/05/2019 22:54

I would say something, but perhaps concentrating on the fact that you are very busy too. Maybe phrase it along the lines of ‘I’m happy to help if she’s seriously swamped and my own workload allows it, but I have my own work to do, so I think she needs to spend less time online before asking me to take things on’.

PinkiOcelot · 07/05/2019 22:59

That would piss me off no end!! I would have to say something.

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ToCallHerOut · 08/05/2019 18:05

Thanks, I feel so bad to say something, it's a small office. Everyone thinks she is overloaded this week but she's arrived late every morning and left early, I think people just think it's cause she has hectic days, no one questions it. I'm hoping she gets found out soon.

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mummymeister · 08/05/2019 18:30

She wont get found out unless you pass on to managers what you are seeing and experiencing. If she is later, messes about on facebook etc and it has no effect on you then I would keep quiet.

but it is affecting you. you are having to pick up the slack that she is making. Go and speak to your manager asap. Explain exactly what you are seeing and say that as it is making extra work for you that they need to deal with it. She clearly doesn't give a shiny shit about you. So don't feel any guilt about this.

hazell42 · 08/05/2019 18:31

Rather than dobbing her in to management, cant you speak to her?
Tell her she is making things difficult for you, or mention it when you see her on fb

NeatFreakMama · 08/05/2019 18:34

I saw someone doing this and we blocked Facebook. The great thing is no one can really complain without admitting they were trying to doss about on Facebook. I wouldn’t say anything if you’re the sane level but I might keep saying to her something like ‘oh you’re on Facebook, do you like the new design?’ or similar comments so others can hear and she packs it in.

ExtraPineappleExtraHam · 08/05/2019 18:34

Could have written this myself about a similar situation I'm in, and she's on more money than me! I've started making lists of all that I do both of my own workload and hers and plan to show it to my manager at my supervision tomorrow. It's not worth trying to talk to the person concerned as they'll get defensive, go straight to HR. These people aren't your friends and you deserve a break and recognition!

Drum2018 · 08/05/2019 18:38

In a very loud voice, 'Jesus Nora would you give that bloody Facebook a rest. No wonder you're not getting any work done' and hand her back whatever work she has passed on to you.

Asta19 · 08/05/2019 18:44

Where I work things like Facebook, YouTube etc (though not MN Wink ) are blocked so it’s not an issue. If you feel you can I would speak to her first but if not, then it’s not unreasonable to highlight it to your manager.

WrongKindOfFace · 08/05/2019 18:55

Speak to your manager. Not reasonable for her to toss it off and hand her work to you.

Bringbackthestripes · 08/05/2019 18:58

So she is effectively being paid to sit on FB & chat to friends whilst you are doing the work of two! I would start logging dates & times and present it to the office manager or HR. Why haven’t you been complaining to management that you are too busy now you are expected to do her work as well as your own? Has she been there long? Did the last person in her role complain they were too busy?

Mobile phones were banned except in breaks where I work because some people were taking the mick.

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ToCallHerOut · 08/05/2019 20:25

Thanks everyone, I might start acknowledging that's she's on Facebook or WhatsApp and see if she has any shame. She even told me the other day she has WhatsApp on her desktop so it looks like she is working 🤯

@ExtraPineappleExtraHam let me know how it goes tomorrow.

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PookieDo · 08/05/2019 20:27

I’ve just had to pull someone up for this same thing. So frustrating. They went off sick in retaliation
I can easily get the list of their internet usage. Tell a manager

StillCoughingandLaughing · 08/05/2019 23:32

Where I work things like Facebook, YouTube etc (though not MN Wink) are blocked so it’s not an issue.

How lovely for you. Precisely how does that help the OP in this situation?

Nickpan · 08/05/2019 23:38

dob her in, or at least mention that she gets distracted easily, and is late. Don't management notice she's late, if its a small office? You might not be popular if you get facebook/social media banned...and she'd still do less than her fair share

kamelo · 09/05/2019 00:30

I don't see the need to involve management, just speak to her yourself pointing out what a lazy cow she is and needs to pull her finger out asking if there is anything in paticular that is slowing her down that maybe you could help her with.

theworldistoosmall · 09/05/2019 00:40

Everytime you notice her on fb etc, say oh great here you go, here’s your workload and I can get back to my own. - smile and hand it all back.

Userplusnumbers · 09/05/2019 00:46

If it's particularly Facebook she's using, you could have a quiet word with HR and perhaps suggest that they implement a Company-wide block on accessing the site? At the least, they could have a look at who is accessing what and for how long and base any decisions on that.

Why? It's not unreasonable to access personal social media at work, just like it's not unreasonable to check a phone etc. The key thing to be aware of is if it's impacting performance

Yes there are piss takers, but they're going to take the piss whatever - this is a performance nd line management issue, not a 'let's treat everyone like a child because one person is taking the piss' issue

OP - report.

CharityConundrum · 09/05/2019 00:47

I agree with PPs - is there anyone else around who would hear you if you said 'If you've got time for Facebook, you can take back x,y,z that I've been doing for you.' Every time.

BlackPrism · 09/05/2019 01:10

Depends on the job tbh. I use FB and Twitter to gather case studies... could it be that?

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