To think that demanding, spoilt, selfish types always say someone is being mean when you won't do as they say?

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I have just had a nightmare Ebay buyer who bought an item, never paid for it so I eventually cancelled the sale and relisted. She then immediately (before I had time to block her) bought the item again and sent a snotty message saying how she was very busy and it's not much to wait a week or so for payment. I said I'd sell it to her if she paid straight away this time. She again didn't and after a few days I cancelled the sale and relisted.

She has just sent another snotty message and I replied saying that she hasn't paid so it doesn't seem as though she does want to buy the item and she has sent me another message, having a tantrum really and saying I'm 'mean' because I won't wait for her to have enough time to pay! Yet she has plenty of time to send messages and but items! So apparently I'm mean for not giving in to her demands.

I also had an ex friend who was also very demanding and thought the world revolves around her, and if ever I couldn't or didn't do as she said, such as picking her up to drop her in town for a night out with another friend (that I wasn't invited to), she would accuse me of being difficult, or awkward or hard work!

Do these types not see that their attitude is the problem? Do they really go through life thinking it's everyone else?

baked sure but honesty is the best policy. She should have just said that.

Shamalamalam You are living my actual life! Our DC both ride, always have. SIL's sons wanted to try it out and I suggested local places she could visit for novices, given that her DC were awful around any animals (we also have dogs, cats and rabbits, all of whom were terrified of her DC because they were so rough). She went off her nut shouting to anyone who would listen that I was BU not to "lend" our horses, who have never been the docile lead-rein novice type.

She also went off her nut when we bought a holiday home and said we were staying there for an entire summer, ruining her plans to spend her whole summer there. How dare we save our money and buy ourselves something that wasn't for her!

People like that never change and never grow out of it. Good on you, OP, for sticking up for yourself. If more people stood up to entitled twats they wouldn't get half of what they want. DH stands up to SIL now but when we met she was treated like a tiny temperamental child and there's nothing more revolting than an adult having a paddy.

Argh, this fucks me off.

There's a disturbing lack of empathy about these people too. If you can't see that, by not paying, you are potentially causing someone else pain and inconvenience there is something quite literally wrong with you.

I would block her and move on - there is no point exchanging increasingly angry messages with someone like that.

This is why I find the threads like the one who’s 4 year old expects to blow out everyone else’s birthday candles so sad.
You are just bringing up children to be cf’s like this as adults.
And yes, why do people always assume I’d love their kids to “share “ my horse !!

I did this once. Completely forgot I was bidding on an item. A week later I found a very irrate message and promptly paid and apologized as it was completely my fault.
Got my item but I wouldn't of blamed her being pissed about it thinking I was messing her around.

Demanding, spoilt, selfish. You've met my step daughter then!

I think this might be my MIL

She used to raid my dh’s money box when he was a kid and go charity shopping. So nothing she really needed she just wanted to buy things.

Yet she would go ballistic at him, if he dared to complain that his money box was missing money again.

Apparently he was selfish because he didn’t want to let her spend money in the charity shop.

Did she ever replace it? Did she fuck

Id be reporting them to eBay. I pay as soon as I've won an item, it's rude and unfair to leave someone waiting.

My daughter has a friend like this and they are in year 8! You would hope that people would mature and behave better as adults.

Dds friend is cross if she herself is late in the morning and dd goes into school without her so as not to be late for registration. She is also cross if dd is late so she has to go in without dd!

She was cross as well last week when dd was ill and I collected her early from school apparently dd should have waited until after school so she could tell friend face to face that she had been sick so had to go home...

My DM wants everyone to run around her as if she’s The Queen then says we’re mean when we say no, my children aren’t performing monkeys for your entertainment (and later backstabbing vitriol).

Ah yes, my mother, gently question any bad behaviour on her part and the ranting starts then goes on and on and on.

Why are you participating in this childish spat? Block. Move on.

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I was thinking about that birthday cake story when reading this thread.

That's what happens with weak parents who never say no. They raise entitled CFs

People like that never change and never grow out of it

My SiL has always been like it and always will. I don’t think she’s ever been told no in her life

It’s the safety aspect more than anything. Pony is pretty good but she’s not a lead rein pony. Plus she likes to throw in the odd cheeky buck and occasional spook at random shit to keep DD on her toes

I can just image the tantrum we’d get if her DD got hurt.

She’s not the first person to ask if she can ride DD’s pony, and she won’t be the last.

Most people are happy when we say no and explain why though

eBay regulations give you 7 days to pay, does they not?

She sent me another message saying I'm a bad person and that she hopes I can learn to be a better person and learn some manners. I sent her a message back saying I hope she learns that the world does not revolve around her

Well done - it won't sink in, but well done anyway

The real irony is that, in the time it took her to type her silly messages, she could easily have paid. Granted these idiots are everywhere, but they all seem to have made a beeline for ebay - which is why so many of us won't sell there any more

BTW if you're determined to keep using it, you can also amend your ebay settings to refuse bids from selected groups - those with too many negs, non-paying buyers, folk with insufficient feedback, etc.

I once stumbled across the list of "prevented bids" on mine and there were hundreds ... all of them a possible bad experience avoided (though it didn't stop some as-yet-undiscovered idiots slipping through)

My Sil and mil have a reputation for being lovely people - and they are unless you don’t do what they want.
As I said to DH about his sister - it’s easy to be nice if nobody ever says no to you
They try the sad pathetic woe is me bit first and then if that doesn’t work it’s tantrums “ you are being sooooo meeeeeaaan” . Unfortunately they are also raising the next generation ( my niece) to be the same
We are very low contact

One kids parents at dcs school were like this, would be all nice and pally especially if your kids were friends. You would then get requests for play dates and sleepovers. However if your child fell out with theirs it was always your kids fault and they would blank you at pick ups same would happen if you said no to one of their requests. Always take never give.

I haven't RFTF but you do know that you can block buyers OP? I had someone who kept bidding on items and then cancelling the bids, she (?) did it numerous times and was really pissing me off. I blocked her from bidding on my items.

I'd also report her to eBay for good measure

Some people are just entitled arseholes. Good for you for standing up for yourself
This! ^^ Well done OP.

@Shamalamalam
Can you imagine if, in the unlikely event you/DH allowed your niece to ride your daughter's pony and she got hurt your MIL/SIL would then hold you morally and financially at fault? They also just want something for nothing irrespective of the responsibilities involved.

Absolutely! YANBU

People like this are over grown toddlers really aren’t they 🙄

Yup, it's spoilt brats when they grow up. Also accuse people of bullying them when they're the bully.

breakfastpizza wtaf?!

Can you imagine if, in the unlikely event you/DH allowed your niece to ride your daughter's pony and she got hurt your MIL/SIL would then hold you morally and financially at fault?

Yes they would

DD has rider insurance and we have public liability insurance for her pony but it doesn’t cover us if we allow other people to ride - they need their own insurance. Which they don’t have.

There’s no way my niece is getting on DD’s pony

Sounds like your ILs don't realise that a horse is a living, breathing, sometimes unpredictable creature, not a bicycle, @Shamalamalam!!