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To get an overwhelming sense of danger from a stranger?

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ThisIsCheese · 07/05/2019 09:57

The weirdest thing just happened. I’m in the supermarket and as I’m stood selected and bagging vegetables I suddenly feel very uncomfortable.
There is a man about 50 something stood with his elderly mother a few feet away to the side of me and I felt very sick and uncomfortable when I looked at him.
Absolutely no reason for it but it was overwhelming, like a sense of fear he was not a good man.

Completely clueless why I felt that way I moved along quickly but I crossed paths with him again in another aisle and knew he was there before I saw him because the sick / anxious feeling returned.

Anyone else ever had this? I don’t have anxiety or anything but this feeling was so odd, like I could sense he wasn’t a good person.

Never met him before, he could be perfectly lovely but my physical reaction to him was so strong Confused

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JustCallMeSliths · 08/05/2019 21:01

@FictionalCharacter. Yes. I was terrified of Jimmy Saville even through the TV. A friend's Dad dressed up as him once and gave everyone cardboard Jim''ll fix it badges. I wouldn't take one and got a good telling off from my dad!

Rolf Harris creeped me out but I don't know if it was a general "he's a bit odd" feeling at the time which I've elaborated on now I know what happened.

There is an actor who gives me the same feeling as JS. I can't say who obviously but I wouldn't be surprised if something nasty comes out about him.

MayLeaveADentInYourSofa · 08/05/2019 21:05

I watched a reality tv program once about a couple who were moving house. I got an awful feeling about the man. Really awful. The wife was pregnant and I really wondered if she realizes he is a bad person.

The program itself was old so I decided to google the couple to see if there was ever an update program. I found out that shortly after they moved she had the baby. When the baby was a few months old she died. I tried to find the cause of death but I couldn't. I found reference to him being a single father now so he didn't go to prison for murder. But I do think of it every now and then and wonder.

Zoejj77 · 08/05/2019 21:05

I’ve experienced this before. I’ve trusted my instinct and kept well away from that person

clairemcnam · 08/05/2019 21:08

I loved Rolf Harris and was really shocked when the truth was revealed.

crispysausagerolls · 08/05/2019 21:12

Can people alluding to a current celebrity giving them the creeps be a bit more specific?

SecretWitch · 08/05/2019 21:14

This was sort of a happening. My mum took me to go visit a friend who lived across town. I was young, maybe six, so have only a hazy memory of this.

Mum arrived at friends house and got me out of the car. We started up the walk, when mum said “ I don’t think E. is home today” Apparently, I made a huge protest as E.’s dog had puppies I wanted to see. Mum scooped me up, put me in the car and drove way.

When we got home, she rang E. Immediately. (Early 1970’s, no mobiles)
Sadly, she found out that E. had been attacked by a stranger.

Mum later found out, the slamming of our car door made the attacker run out the back door.

Mum told me she just sensed something was very wrong at E.’s house. She thinks she might have realised that all the curtains were drawn in her house and her front door was tight shut. Both these things were very unusual for E., especially when she was expecting vistors.

DointItForTheKids · 08/05/2019 21:17

Yes, I keep hearing a celeb who's on the tv all the time - I need to know!

Luckymum82 · 08/05/2019 21:19

My best friends dad when I was in high school. There was just something about him that always made me feel uneasy. Alarm bells started the day we were all out on a walk and he came up behind me to put his arms around me to ‘help’ me use binoculars. As we got older he always seemed to steer chat to personal questions that just wasn’t the stuff a dad should be chatting to his daughters friends about.

Lost contact with the friend over 20 years ago now but found a news article last year saying he was on a tag for stalking a number of women in his area. Was not in the least bit surprised.

MrsMaisel · 08/05/2019 21:20

I have had this instinct about places. The first and only time I visited a shopping centre close to my school, I had a terrible sense of foreboding. It felt creepy. Within a year or so there was a terrible killing spree there. I wasn't surprised.

Another time I visited a place which felt to me just prone to attack, unsafe. Within a year there was a major terrorist attack there.
I also attended a serial killer's trial once and sat in the viewing gallery behind a man who gave off such a chilling vibe, I couldn't move. He was the brother of the accused (staring at witnesses intently while they gave testimony), and in the judge's closing remarks he commented that there was no way the murderer acted alone.

QueenOfTheTofuTree · 08/05/2019 21:20

I'm not at all woo but I do believe that your instincts are there for a reason and you should listen to them.

I always had a very bad feeling about a family friend who was around growing up. I couldn't put my finger on why I didn't like him because he was nice enough but he just gave me the creeps. He later went on to rape me.

I always try and listen to my instincts now.

Wantopinions · 08/05/2019 21:20

Not a person but a place of work.

Didnt even last a year. It felt opressive and just generally dark. I have never left a job that quick but the 'atmosphere' was just dragging me down.
The amount of dark conversation that went on was just a tad too much. It was an 'off' place.

waltersdog · 08/05/2019 21:26

Someone I worked with who ended up being imprisoned for sex offences. Life and soul of the party, good laugh etc etc .... but he gave me the creeps and I avoided him wherever possible.

hippermiddleton · 08/05/2019 21:32

Dogs are amazing at picking up vibrations and things we can't see. A slightly woo friend offered to shift some 'blocked energy' that he'd detected in my old house - he went round every room, followed by my dog, and the only time the dog went nuts was in a corner of the room that my friend had already pointed out as being a bit 'busy'. Dog wouldn't even go down into the cellar, which woo-friend reckoned had once been used to punish naughty children.

SmarmyMrMime · 08/05/2019 21:39

I've taught a lad who a few years later went to prison for murder. I actually got on OK with him, but felt that I didn't want to be on the wrong side of him. Fortunately I just needed to get him through entry level so just needed to gently coax a few paragraphs out of him. Had I needed to get him through a more demanding course, that might have been more problematic.

In a university society, there was a member who none of the girls liked. One morning after a party, I woke up to find his hands very busy at a part of my body that is strictly by invitation only. I kicked him hard in the face once I processed what was happening and by whom. He was never in touch with the group again.

I go running a lot and there's a nearby trail on a disused railway that's hard to avoid if I don't want to run entirely through suburb. On this occasion, I was on my bike. I'm pretty cautious about who's around in places like that and there's only been one man that's given me the heebie jeebies. He was very starey. I made sure I pedalled off hard up the hill, and when I checked over my shoulder he was still staring, not having continued on his way like most people would. I was a good way up and difficult to catch up with on foot before I felt able to rest up. Since then, there has been a muging close to that spot but it was a totally different description and a small group. I avoided it for a few months after that but it wipes out so many local routes. I now have an attack alarm on my wrist for quiet routes.

KaliforniaDreamz · 08/05/2019 21:39

I am sorry ControversialFerret x

Absolutepowercorrupts · 08/05/2019 21:40

@Andromedia59 definitely yes to the narcissist mother, you end up rapidly filtering every small move, facial expression, stance, possible violence coming your way and you do this so automatically that you don't even realise. It does spill over into life without you even realising that you're doing it. It's the normal for a child with an abusive mother. Sometimes I feel like Arnie in the Terminator films, when they show the rapid fire information that's occurring to the machine. That's how it appears to me.
My scary story is, I was selling a car, man turned up with his wife and two teenagers, they pushed for entry into my house. I had a dog with puppies so that wasn't going to happen. He was on his phone and said, yes early 30s, middle of nowhere, blonde and not bad. I asked him about his call and he said he was just checking that the car hadn't been in an accident. I told him to fuck off, the woman was shouting and quite abusive to me telling me that I'd just lost a sale. I sold the car to someone else. So nothing happened to me but it was really unnerving. I trusted my instincts. Btw middle of nowhere was true, blonde yes but with the aid of a bottle, early 30s and not bad I wish🤣

CoffeeRunner · 08/05/2019 21:41

Yes, occasionally this does happen to me. Thankfully not that often, but sometimes.

I believe there is something in it. For example, many many years before anything was actually known by the general public, I couldn't watch Jimmy Saville or Gary Glitter on TV. They gave me a very creepy, uncomfortable feeling. I would only have been a child/teen at the time. There is only one other "celebrity" I have ever felt this way about, and he has also had allegations made against him. Although has not been charged with anything. I doubt my gut instincts will ever allow me to believe he is 100% innocent.

ScrimshawTheSecond · 08/05/2019 21:42

This is an interesting thread.

Keeping locations and details vague as this would possibly out me.

Years ago, I had a horrible unsettled, restless, doomy feeling on waking, and felt I had to walk a certain route - not one I'd ever gone on before. I walked fast and felt like I was compelled - hard to explain. I ended up in a fairly distant part of the city, totally confused and not knowing why I felt so distressed and sick. Really, really odd. I'd walked all the way to a big viaduct over the river.

The next day my mum was visiting, and I wanted to go up the river again, but she wasn't up for a huge long walk, so dissuaded me. That morning a woman was raped and killed by the riverside, just on the same stretch where I'd gone the day before, by the viaduct. I feel heartbroken for her still - she had a young daughter.

I can't explain it, never had an experience like it before. I hope I'll never have it again. Very disturbing.

WillGymForPizza · 08/05/2019 21:43

I never liked Jimmy Savile either, but never got creepy vibes from Rolf Harris and was astonished when it all came out about him.

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 08/05/2019 21:46

I remember as a child a few times seeing this strange man wandering about where we lived but I was always with my parents. I can see him now as I type. Years later, when I was a teenager I was bothered a few times by him. Turned out he was deaf and dumb. Mostly on the way to school and when I got a car once or twice when parking it to go into sixth form he used to wave and gesticulate at me in a frantic and entirely intimidating manner. I was always freaked out.

One evening after my Saturday job finished, my car was in the car and I was waiting for a bus home. He turned up at the bus stop. I felt sick. He saw me and tried to grab me. I pushed him away and moved further towards other people at the bus stop who did fuck all. Then he came back and wrote on a bus ticket that he wanted to fuck me and hurt me. I remember the pain and fear in my body now over twenty years later. He then ripped the ticket up and just stood there. I pushed him over and ran to get a cab, I cried the whole way home.
I never told my parents but a few months later he was arrested for something to do with trying to molest another girl a similar age.

I should have told someone. I still sometimes have flashbacks and nightmares about that event.

ControversialFerret · 08/05/2019 21:46

Thanks Kalifornia - all a long time ago now.

RuffleCrow · 08/05/2019 21:51

well at least you didn't start pointing and shouting "Danger! Stranger Danger!!" Like Ben from Outnumbered, until someone carried you out. Grin

stressedoutpa · 08/05/2019 21:52

Yes, I get this occasionally. I've also had it driving through areas (several times in the US, once in South Africa).

Always trust your instinct.

Iwantacookie · 08/05/2019 21:58

Yes I never liked Jimmy saville either. He always gave off creepy vibes. Tbh I don't think anyone I've ever spoken to about him said he didn't make their skin crawl.

Rolf Harris was a shock. I remember putting 2 little boys on the record player and dancing around the lounge. Tainted memories now.

RuffleCrow · 08/05/2019 22:03

And i will just add that although we do sometimes pick up on something untoward - unfortunately we probably walk past other people who have done heinous things most days of the week. There was another thread about the godawful rates of images of child abuse and the statistics of the sheer scale of men who must be viewing this stuff. It's not necessarily the creepy looking guy in the supermarket who's a danger. Ted Bundy was apparently incredibly charismatic - women were just drawn to him - they were 'trusting their instincts'. Sad

And that very high profile murder of a young woman in Bristol where everyone immediately suspected her 'creepy' landlord. Trial by media - and didn't it turn out to be her young, attractive neighbour in the end? Sad