To ask for your success after miscarriages stories?

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I'll start by stating that I know there are a lot of people who are a lot less fortunate than me and have been on this miserable journey for a lot longer.

I'm 29, have a 2 year old son, started TTC no2 at Christmas and 2019 has brought two miscarriages so far.

My GP has been quite dismissive due to me having already conceived and birthed a child with my husband. He says it's likely "bad luck" and I'm hoping he is right because I'm not sure how many times I can go through this.

I'm just looking for other people's' stories? I would love another child to complete our family, I'm surrounded by other couples announcing their happy news and I'm just quite bitter that I've lost two beans already this year - I can't seem to catch a break!

Oh, you poor love.

Your GP should not have been dismissive. Miscarriage is heartbreaking, whether or not you have another child.

Practically, speaking: three miscarriages in a row usually qualifies you (sad as this sounds) for investigation. It's not a nice thought, but I mention it because if things do go badly another time, you should be in a better position to press your GP for support and help.

I'm so sorry you weren't more kindly treated.

(And, sorry, I don't have positive experience in terms of another child, but I did have repeated miscarriages and a very useless GP, and I was over the moon when I moved areas and found out I was entitled to investigations, which found I have very treatable issues. That was a comfort.)

Sorry for your losses.

I was one of the women who struggled to conceive after my MC. I ended up going for fertility testing & was accepted for IVF. I hated the fact I read online most people conceived immediately afterwards as I hated the fact that I couldn't despite trying so hard & letting it take over my life.

I fell pregnant naturally a month before I was due to start IVF. I had a healthy baby boy & now I'm pregnant with baby number two who was conceived in the first month of trying.

As much as I hated people telling me to relax & not stress about it - I do think that helps as once I knew IVF was on the cards, I relaxed massively & then with this pregnancy, it was a very "let's start trying & if it happens then great but if not, we have a wonderful DS". I think the no pressure helped a lot. Be kind to yourself

Sorry meant to say that it took me a year after my MC to conceive again. A long time for anyone but I wish I'd read more stories like this & not how it happened immediately for most as that affected me badly

2 miscarriages and a still birth then finally had my first dc at 36, second dc at 38 after 1.5 years ttc.

My work colleague had a 4yo and had been ttc for years, had 7 mc in 3 years but now has 2 other children.

It’s totally devastating when your going through it, annoying and frustrating especially when people say, well at lest you know you can get pregnant or well at least you have one

Sorry for what you're going through, it's horrendous when the one most important thing in the world you want isn't happening but it is to everyone else, I know.

We tried for 2 years, mc our first a couple weeks before Mother's Day last year - one of the hardest days I've ever had.

I now have a beautiful little 3 month old.

Don't give up. Don't lose hope. Push for tests if you want them, don't let a doctor wave it away - insist. And speak to someone when it gets tough. Someone once told me TTC is a journey, you're just going through the woods at the moment until you reach your destination.

Best wishes and luck with it x

DD1 just came along. DD2 took 3.5 long years marked by 3 losses but we got there. Keep the faith.

By which I mean to say that we are generally programmed to reproduce do the odds are in your favour even if it doesn't always feel like it!

Three miscarriages, went to the pregnancy loss clinic and found nothing genetically wrong.
On my next pregnancy was given aspirin and progesterone and went on to have two successful pregnancies.
I hope your ok, I remember being in the midst of that time feeling so bleak and sad.

So sorry for your losses. Could I ask what weeks they were in?
Success story here. I had five miscarriages, all in week 11 or 12, and then finally my happy ending. DD is snoozing on me now in fact. With this pregnancy I followed a protocol from Professor Brosens and Professor Quenby at Coventry Implantation clinic: steroids from week 6-12, progesterone pessaries and blood thinning injections from week 4-24. I had no side effects. They will see patients from anywhere in the country on the NHS with a referral from their GP.
Good luck!

Hi. I just wanted to post that i have had a few live births as well as lots of miscarriages. They were all within each other but never had 3 miscarriages in a row so was never investigated. I remember after my 3rd miscarriage, (1 live birth in between) i thought i would never ever be able to have any more children so was really upset.
Would like 1 more but if God wills it will happen, otherwise I'm happy with the ones ive got. Its been a long and scary/anxious journey to get where i am at times. But then its made appreciate them all a little bit more too and not take anything for granted.

Hope you get what you wish for

Pregnant first go with baby number one. Followed by x5 miscarriages in a 2 year period before pregnancy number 7 went all the way to live baby. It’s ghastly. I found talking about it to all and sundry helped and others were open with their experiences. I wish you grit and know that you are not at all alone.

I had my first dd. Then I tried for 9 months to get pregnant again and had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks. 3 months after losing that baby I found out I was pregnant again and was my beautiful second dd. Hope things work out for you.

So sorry for your loss; no one has the right to be dismissive about it and a GP should know better

Just wanted to share my success story; first pregnancy no issues although had to have an emcs 11 days post due date to get dd out, all good

Then had a mmc and a chemical pregnancy a couple of years later but successful pregnancy with ds 4 months after them

Be kind to yourself and hope you have lots of support

3 miscarriages then one very happy healthy baby. Absolutely no reason found for them, but seems to just have been bad luck.

I honestly couldn't believe I could have children and some days still don't believe my DD is here.

It's so frustrating, but sometimes it's just down to bad luck.

Do you have a relevant dept at your local hospital? I'm in West Midlands and we have an excellent Recurrent Miscarriage department, which I'd never heard of before my GP referred me.

Good luck OP, it's a shitty situation, made worse that for some reason nobody ever feels comfortable talking about miscarriage.

I am so sorry for your losses. It's horrendous and devastating.

I was told that the fact you have had a live birth is promising, in terms of your ability to have another live birth. I strongly recommend getting your thyroid levels checked.

I am one of the lucky ones who had a wonderful baby after losses, and I wish the same for you too

I had my eldest followed by 5 miscarriages over a year. Eventually I found a doctor who was prepared to prescribe progesterone supplements and the result is now 13 and refusing to go to bed. After her I had 2 miscarriages, took progesterone again and had a healthy baby.

We tried for 2.5 years for number 2 and had 4 miscarriages. The recurrent miscarriage clinic couldn't find a reason but said if I gel pregnant again they would give me progesterone. 12 months later I fell pregnant again and they started me immediately on progesterone. My little wild child is now 19 months old.

I'm 13+3 today and I've just had my 12 week scan. Baby looks well and healthy. I've shied away from even thinking about my recent history for fear of jinxing this pregnancy, but I now think that being in fear is worse for me than acknowledging my miscarriages.

DS is 3 now. Since having him I've had 3 miscarriages and it's been extremely difficult to deal with, as there is no aftercare, or explanation. You're just expected to accept the odds weren't on your side and get on with it. So I have no idea why the last 3 failed to progress. However, I began a course of fertility acupuncture in January, and (forgive me if I sound a bit woo) I wondered if this helped to clear some bad energy around DS's difficult birth or my m/cs.

I've been very sick this time so it seems that's a sign of a strong pregnancy. Have faith and keep going x

I have only had one miscarriage it's heartbreaking am sorry your GP was dismissive. I had DS no issues then miscarriage with my DD at 20 weeks got pregnant again and had DS2. Have been too scared to try for anymore and feel very grateful wishing you all the luck OP.

I feel for you OP. You should be treated with the utmost kindness after such events but some people are sloppy, or unfeeling or simply don't know what to say. I've seen that. But a lot of kindness and care too.

My first baby died in the womb at 19 weeks and I had to give birth to him. But if he'd lived I wouldn't now have the ray of sunshine that is my 18 year old DD who is now singing her lungs out in the bathroom. A talented artist, a great friend and companion, conceived 3 months after I lost my first pregnancy. After she was born I had another miscarriage and then conceived my whipsmart DS16 - who is now playing on his laptop in the front room after winning 2 rounds of Uno with his sister and I after dinner. I dont think I'd have him if the previous short lived pregnancy had worked. Wouldn't be without them both. My cup runneth over! But I was an old Mum and so nature was starting to turn against me. I'm very grateful.

I’m so sorry for your losses .

I had three DC then suffered two missed miscarriages discovered at the 12 week scans. I thought we’d never have another baby but DC4 six months old and very healthy so it can work out .

I lost 3 before having my 2 DC. It was awful, I won't say otherwise, but if you can get referred to an early pregnancy unit do - they're not supposed to refer you until the third but my experience was that when I was pg the third time, I was referred to them for early scans for reassurance. Wasn't reassuring of course as I lost that one to but at least I found out as early as possible and was in the system. Cry at your doctor and never try to look like you're coping, they will take that at face value. I'm not saying lie, but don't ever mask your distress. I was prescribed Clexane for the pgs after that which must have worked, was a nervous wreck through the pgs though.

Thank you for all of your stories it is helpful as it's really quite a lonely time I've found.

Mine were early MCs at 6 & 8 weeks. My GP said they wouldn't refer until a third MC but I've got to have a follow up this week so I might request a different GP who will discuss my options with me.

My gp was quite blunt and dismissive too.
I had DC1 and DC2 in quick succession with no problems (17 months between them), then had an early miscarriage when DC2 was almost 2.
It was quite a strange situation emotions-wise because I’d found out I was lregnant and then the miscarriage began all within a few days. My GP was very “sometimes it just happens and you just have to get on with it”
I fell pregnant again with at Christmas and I’m now 20+6 without DC3

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your gp needs to be more sensitive, there are campaigns going on to try to educate medical staff about appropriate language to use when people suffer the loss of a child.

I had 1 mc before my son, who's nearly 4, and put it down to bad luck. After my son we started ttc no 2. I went on to have 5 mcs over 15 months.

The gp wouldn't refer me until I'd had 3 mcs in a row. I was referred to normal RMC after 3 who carried out tests and said I was fine and to just keep ttc.

Meanwhile I'd researched a lot about recurrent mc and found Dr Shehata at Epsom and read about natural killer cell testing via mumsnet and a Facebook group for recurrent miscarriage support. Through NHS choices I referred via gp to Epsom St helier to his mc clinic. Whilst waiting for the appointment I got pregnant again and again miscarried. My tests came back showing I had aggressive maternal nk cells and I was put on treatment of prednisolone steroids plus high dose supplements, aspirin and progesterone.

I got pregnant again and was overjoyed as I thought this time it would be fine. But again baby died and I had to have a mva.

Shehata's clinic added hydroxychloroquine to my daily treatment. I got pregnant again and I'm due my little girl in 3 weeks.

There is hope. Have a look for the recurrent miscarriage boards in the ttc threads as you'll find loads of support there and lots of people with success stories.

Good luck