Nosey neighbour really taking the mick now?!

[Mumzilla94]

I became friends with my next door neighbour only about a month ago even though we have been living next door to each other for over a year now! We always said hello when we saw each other in the street, but up until a month ago have spoken a bit more. Our kids are around the same age and enjoy playing together so I guess thats nice my kids have made some new friends as well.
But I’m beginning to get a little cheesed off with her if I’m honest...
The 2nd week of us getting to know each other more she asked me if she could borrow £1 for some milk, I just said yes because I wanted to be kind, and £1 isn’t really breaking the bank.
Anyway, since then it’s been “can I borrow £5 to get some milk and bread? I’ll pay you back” I let her borrow £5 but haven’t seen it since! Again, she asks me £5 a few weeks later but I tell her I don’t have any money to lend. But now whenever my weekly food shop comes to be delivered she looks out the window and within half an hour of the delivery man leaving my house she will text me saying “can I borrow a toilet roll?” Or “do you have a bit of milk I can pinch?” I just find this really rude now. She also knocks on my door several times a day while I’m settling my 7 month old down for a nap just to fill me in on “gossip with her ex” I couldn’t give 2 bloody monkeys if I’m honest! I’ll just give her one word answers and then politely say I need to go (while the baby is screaming in my ear!) to put the baby down for a nap and as I shut the door she will say “ohhh and did I tell you...” oh my god it is really starting to annoy me and getting me really frustrated. Her children are also really rude and just walk in my house while I’m talking to her on the door step and go right up into DD’s room! And even if you tell them to get out they pretend they didn’t hear you and continue to trash her room.
Anyone else been in this situation with a really rude neighbour?!

Send DD round to get your money back 'Mum needs the £x back that she lent you because we've got an emergency' - tell DD that if she gets it all back you'll spend it on her and she should feel free to whine and cry at neighbour if necessary!
When CF comes round again don't let her in. And if the kids try and get in block their access and say 'no, you can't come in right now I'm busy'
It's straightforward and once you've done it the first time it gets easier.

Oh no, don't send your child around for the money you're owed, OP. That's terrible advice in my opinion. It's not a child's business to interact with adults on that basis.

Write it off (if you can) and use that annoyance to refuse any more requests for money or things. No more. The idea of drawing a map to the nearest shop is great. Shove that in neighbours hand and shut the door.

interminablehellishwhatever's response is what I'd use. Except for the 'up myself' bit... it's not up yourself to have rules.

Op if you dont like dealing with it get your DH to do it! Mine is lovely to everyone but can do grumpy to order and it comes in quite handy sometimes....He would have no hesitation of appearing at the door in a foul mood to say oh god what now? can;t we have 5 mins peace without you lot here? I am trying to watch the footy sod off!! He wouldnt mean it but he would get me out of a hole!

"You do realise that Tesco isn't an exclusive members-only club, don't you? They'll gladly sell food to you too - and they have a much huger selection to choose from than just the items that I order from them for my family's meals."

As PPs have said, definitely act as though you're really pleased to see her when she comes around.

"Oh, I'm soooo glad you've come over to bring back the money that you borrowed. Things are getting quite tight now and I was worrying that I was never going to get my money back."

Tempting though it is, I wouldn't ask to borrow money from her as it could backfire if she does rustle up a pound or two for you. That just validates to her that her behaviour is 'acceptable' - and gives her a legitimate excuse to keep coming around. You can bet that she won't be shy to ask for her money back and use it 'against' you long afterwards (in a clingy rather than vindictive way, I'd think).

A woman I knew who kept trying this on with me got short shrift. I said Mrs. xxxxx I am not a cornucopia! She visibly shrank from me and I never had any more bother from her.

Can I pinch a toilet roll? No I ordered just enough for us.

I used to know someone similar, would run up a bill for weed and then come knocking for bog rolls, bread, money for electricity meter etc etc. My eldest got sick of her calling one day when I was out and told her she was a leech and to stop asking. Didn't appreciate his rudeness, but to be fair she stopped asking x

belinda789, now I'm thinking of the animated "A Christmas Carol", seeing the Ghost of Christmas present with his cornucopia... with a toilet roll in amongst the fruit and ham and other stuff...

I know I'll laugh next time I watch that now.

Stop being such a wet lettuce.

"No"

YOu've probably only become friends in the last month because the other neighbours she was sponging off have got sick of her and stopped answering the door.

For goodness sake don't say I can see why he left you?

There's setting boundaries and being assertive in saying no and then there's just being plain rude and objectionable