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' Cards are so last century'

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stopitandtidyupp · 05/05/2019 21:08

Earlier today I was getting ready to go round to the shop to get my Mum a birthday card for tomorrow and my Dad says don't bother with cards they are so last century. If you must, just make one.

I am tending to agree I only really buy for very close family and children. I also would for weddings, christenings as these are nice to keep.

However its my birthday soon and I would not be bothered by a card. I know some people would be but I think its less consumerism when people can equally just say it to you. Christmas even more so.

AIBU?

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Trills · 05/05/2019 21:13

I think it's nice to get post.

Cranky17 · 05/05/2019 21:15

They are just so expensive to buy and send now

IvanaPee · 05/05/2019 21:16

They’re really a waste of time and money and trees!

I think they’re dying out. And it think that’s good.

cardibach · 05/05/2019 21:17

I like birthday wishes. I care not a tiny bit whether they come by text, Facebook, phone call or a card. Cards are slightly irritating as they have to be dealt with after.

babysharkah · 05/05/2019 22:04

I think they're dying out. Such a waste of paper!

Reasonstobeearful · 05/05/2019 22:07

I like them. It's expensive to send them now, which is a shame. Most post is just nuisance articles. It's nice to get something from someone I care about.

Reasonstobeearful · 05/05/2019 22:08

Sending people good wishes is not a waste of paper. Flyers for estate agents and kebab shops are a waste of paper.

IvanaPee · 05/05/2019 23:30

The two aren’t mutually exclusive. They are a waste of paper.

Original poster
stopitandtidyupp · 05/05/2019 23:38

I think they are a waste of paper.

I also can't believe I used to pay 3.99 for a card in Hallmark.

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outvoid · 05/05/2019 23:41

Waste of paper and money, they usually end up straight in the recycling.

Fairenuff · 05/05/2019 23:43

I think they are a waste of paper and money. I would put them straight into recycling if I could. As it is I leave them up a few days.

TurquoiseAndPurple · 06/05/2019 00:01

So glad to see this thread! I absolutely hate giving and receiving cards! They're a massive waste of money. I hate being given them. I never have anywhere to put them and if I do find somewhere, they just end up falling over and then they just end up in the recycling!

Although, I don't mind some cards as I have a memory box. So I have the first birthday card my nephew wrote himself and my first mother's day card. But I could totally live without them.

Fucket · 06/05/2019 00:06

They are old fashioned and i only send them to close family who would get upset. Most you can’t recycle.

We finally stopped sending Xmas cards last year, it felt such a relief!

PositiveVibez · 06/05/2019 00:10

I hate giving and receiving cards. They make your living room look shit and cluttered and don't even get me started on Xmas cards.

I will get them for people, but I see it as utterly pointless as they will be going in the recycle bin a few days later (mine the day after my birthday)

I hope I don't sound like a misbag, but I hate them.

goldenchicken · 06/05/2019 00:19

@stopitandtidyupp

I also can't believe I used to pay £3.99 for a card in Hallmark.

Why? Confused

You can get cards for 29p in some card shops.

Don't get cards if you don't want to. No-one is forcing you too. Don't expect to receive any though.

I used to know someone in their mid 20s who refused to send cards for birthdays and Christmas. Then one birthday (their 26th,) they did not get one single card .. Not one. Not even off their parents. Moaned all week about it they did. Don't know why, as they had made it clear for 3 or 4 years that they were very much anti-greetings cards!

Never sent them, and never wanted to, but pissed and moaned when they got NO cards for their birthday.

I like to get cards, and I like to send them. They get recycled. Can't see the problem with them tbh. If they bother you so much, don't send them, but don't throw shade all over other people who like the give and receive them.

goldenchicken · 06/05/2019 00:21

Correction on last sentence.....

*but don't throw shade all over other people who like TO give and receive them!

SleepingSloth · 06/05/2019 00:42

I send them to people who I buy birthday or Christmas presents for and for a couple of older relatives who like to receive them. Other than that I send a happy birthday text or call them.

I really don't like cards especially at Christmas. When the kids were both at primary they would get about get 80 cards between them just from school. Sometimes I have recycled them before Xmas. Blush

Original poster
stopitandtidyupp · 06/05/2019 14:35

but don't throw shade all over other people who like TO give and receive them!

Confused
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Walkingdeadfangirl · 06/05/2019 14:43

Complete waste of paper & money, so bad for the environment. They literally go straight from the letterbox to the bin.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 06/05/2019 14:54

The question to ask is, would your mother like a card? If your father thinks cards are last century then you can not buy him a card for his birthday. But this is for your mother's birthday. So your opinion doesn't matter and your father's opinion doesn't matter.

The person whose feelings matters is your mother.

MissMary0fSweden · 06/05/2019 14:57

Me, DH and the kids have an agreement not to buy them for each other now. I still get them for extended family and friends though.

Katiepoes · 06/05/2019 15:00

I like to send and receive them - but posted not handed over. I don't think sending a card and making someone happy is a waste of money and they don't go straight to the bin in this house - a real card means much more to me than a mail or those stupid Facebook messages people only send because Facebook reminds them. per,

If your mother likes them get her one, nothing to do with anyone but you.

TeenTimesTwo · 06/05/2019 15:15

YABU.
Cards are no more a waste of paper than anything else made of paper.
We keep cards up for around 4 weeks in this house so a card gives a month's worth of joy.
Sending a message via facebook (which will have reminded you about the birthday no doubt), takes no effort at all and, as such, is infinitely less valuable than taking time and effort to choose, write and send a card.

limitedperiodonly · 06/05/2019 15:17

Oh God. Threads like this always start a competition to be the biggest po-faced miseryguts.

I like to send cards to people I know will appreciate them. I like to receive them. Especially from my MIL because I know her card will have £50 in it.

I keep some of them. It makes me smile to see the wishes of love written by people I loved, and who loved me, who are now gone.

But if you don't like it, don't do it.

anothernotherone · 06/05/2019 15:23

Christmas cards absolutely should die out asap - utterly wasteful.

I don't want to receive birthday cards either, but my youngest child still likes the novelty of getting a special one if it's appealing in some way, generic or too young/ too grown up cards are pointless even to him. If it's attached to a present it's overkill, no need for bothastbe card is overshadowed by the present.

Generally most cards are pointless and a waste of paper and money, though a well chosen one can have it's place for a child or someone who it would mean something to.

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