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AIBU?

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AIBU to imagine what the royals would ask on here?

26 replies

AIBUPODCAST · 04/05/2019 14:58

AIBU to be fuming that I'm getting passed-over for an upcoming job just because I'm female? When I was first told my younger brother was taking over the family business, I just accepted it, as that was the way of the world then... but since then there's been like 4 waves of feminism and STILL my family are stuck in the dark ages. Seems a bit unfair especially as my mum is actually the big boss, whilst dad is sort of her PA.... so you'd think she of all people would give me a chance!
Anne.

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AKAanothername · 04/05/2019 15:07

YABU, you're the second child not the first, you have one older brother and two younger ones.

Gingerkittykat · 04/05/2019 15:11

I don't think Anne would want the big job since she refused titles for her children.

I'm worried about the inlaws and that they will try to take over when my baby is born. They have already been trying to interfere in my plans, I want a natural birth but they are pushing for something different. I want to bring my DC up as free spirits, but the inlaws seem to be living in a previous century.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 04/05/2019 15:13

‘Everyone thinks my sister-in-law is the perfect wife and mother. She and BIL have three children and every time another one comes along my husband gets pushed down the pecking order. I strongly suspect they look down on me because I used to be an actress and my family is a bit of a nightmare, whilst hers are very well off (her sister married a billionaire Shock) But it’s not as if they’re the gentry - they only flog party supplies!

I’m sick of being the poor relation. WIBU to just up sticks to Africa with DHRH?’

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 04/05/2019 15:15

AIBU not to let my kid go out with GFIL? He's got a bit of a cavalier attitude towards driving, and even though he now just goes out in a carriage, I can't find any seats that will fit and I don't think he would want it scuffing up the leather? WWYD?

TSSDNCOP · 04/05/2019 15:17

Literally my entire family is NC with my mother. Is it wrong to be waiting for my GF to pop his clogs do that her and my DF can get re-married?

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 04/05/2019 15:19

@TSSDNCOP

Brilliant! Grin

NameChangeNugget · 04/05/2019 15:38

I would ask why I don't know why I’m the second child, when I have an older brother Biscuit

SleepingStandingUp · 04/05/2019 15:56

Aibu to think it's no ones business if I'm pregnant or not? My cousin and I both got married recently, his wife immediately got pregnant and everyone is very excited but now everyone is speculating that I must want to follow suit. Every time I look even a little bloated everyone wants to know if I'm pregnant!

SrSteveOskowski · 04/05/2019 16:02

I used to be a rugby player, from a normal background. My now wife is upper class. Sometimes at family gatherings I look around and think "What the fuck did I marry into?"

You just know he does! Grin

SilverySurfer · 04/05/2019 16:02

One has an American gel as one's new daughter in law. How does one communicate?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 04/05/2019 16:24

A senior female member of our family keeps boasting that she could do absolutely anything that she wanted to, even the most serious crime, as she insists that she is completely immune from prosecution.

Every time I tell her that it's still extremely important that she obey the law of the land, she scoffs, cackles and shouts "I AM THE LAW!!!"

Do people think that this might be the first signs of dementia or is she just a narcissist suffering from delusions of Judge-Dredd-eur?

I know she's never applied for a passport, so at least (I presume) she could never be in the position to do something foolish abroad and end up in a dank foreign dungeon.

TSSDNCOP · 04/05/2019 16:25

AIBU if that Trump chappy could orf a few of DIL's chatty relatives?

tinstar · 04/05/2019 16:26

YABVVU - you know perfectly well you have an older brother and you're not being passed over at all.

Warmhandscoldheart · 04/05/2019 16:44

First baby due any day.
Which name do you prefer?
Harvey or Gabriel
Donna or Salina
My DH's family don't like any of them and want a more traditional name.

Boomsk · 04/05/2019 16:52

AIBU? My dd got married and looked beautiful. However, there was more interest in her cousins than in her on the day. One cousin's new wife even announced her pregnancy on the day! AIBU to want to stab them all?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 04/05/2019 17:00

Is anybody else a victim of Single White Female syndrome?

I like to dress myself and my three young children nicely - from a range of different designers and retailers - however, I've noticed in the last 8 years that, every time I or one of the children wears a new outfit in public, my stalker instantly buys not just one but literally thousands of identical outfits from the same suppliers - until they actually sell out. I've no idea how she could possibly wear them all or where she stores them all.

I tried to track down who it is doing it, but it seems that she's got her own empire (bit of a sore point, but that's another thread entirely) going. She apparently has a huge number of people working for her as all of my designer contacts report that it's a different purchaser every time - presumably buying them on her behalf, one at a time, to deliberately hide her own identity and to throw me off the scent.

My AIBU is: should I feel flattered that somebody clearly admires my style so much and put up with it (still creeps me out, though) or should I thwart her by deliberately buying all of our clothes in future from charity shops, car boots and jumble sales? We're not too badly off at the moment, but I suppose it always helps to be able to save a few quid where possible.

Alternatively, I have a friend in Brighton who is very well known for her 'strong' fashion choices (think extremely pink-heavy with lots of pony themes going on). I admire her bravery - she's actually got a job in the public eye - but it isn't a look that anybody else I've ever met seems to want to emulate (with the possible exception of my old acquaintance Kerry, who was a singer in a short-lived girl group). Should I ask her if she would be able to design an extensive range for me, based on her own personal style? She could certainly use the money I could pay her as I hear she's rather skint just now and, as it would be such a huge departure from my normal 'look', I'm 100% confident that my copycat stalker would rapidly lose interest and find something more productive to do with her life - so that would be a big win all round.

Only thing is, my chum is considerably more ample than I am in the chest department, so she would have to make some severe adjustments to what she's personally used to for them to hang properly on me. In fact, when she was just starting to achieve fame, she found it so difficult actually finding and affording clothes to accommodate her bosom that she had to spend a lot of time in just her pants, and the horrible, mean tabloids got wind of this and were constantly sending their photographers around, the poor thing (again, extremely sore point there).

She's unable to drive at the moment (anxiety, I presume), but she's still on good terms with her lovely ex, Peter, and he has a lot of spare time on his hands at the moment, so I'm sure he'd be able to pop the clothes around to my place in Norfolk.

What's the general MN consensus?!

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 04/05/2019 17:24

I was supposed to be going on a trip to Amsterdam for work, but my wife said I couldn't go- something to do with the baby- and told me I had to stay close to her at all times.

I was getting bored, so she eventually let me go to take the bins out, but then I got lost in our new cottage and have wound up in the cellar and I'm stuck. I've called her but she says she wont give me the code to get out and wont come and get me until lunchtime.

AIBU or is she?

KindergartenKop · 04/05/2019 17:30

Bananas ^ that's excellent :)

Lemonsquinky · 04/05/2019 20:27

Bananas that is brilliant!!!👏🏻

Boomsk · 04/05/2019 20:59

Bananas - you ABVVVVU. Your wife could be labouring upstairs alone now while you're roaming around the innards of your new cottage and getting lost - very very careless and inconsiderate! Were you snooping?

Can I ask - how did you get into the room with a code and now can't get out? It's just something that's been on my mind since you posted.......

Boomsk · 04/05/2019 21:00

Oh and just another thing that crossed my mind - is there anything interesting in the cellar?

IsYourGoogleBroken · 04/05/2019 21:04

Ive been happily married for 20 odd years. We have two children. All my siblings are divorced. Why does everyone think Im gay?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 04/05/2019 21:11

Does anyone have any tips on how to get my elderly relative to stop driving? He's really dangerous and has been for years, but now he's causing accidents and I'm scared he's going to kill someone

He just won't listen and keeps saying his wife will "get him off" if anyone's hurt - he insists "she's the law" or some such nonsense, but I reckon that's down to dementia. Should I ring somebody or something?

Greenland55 · 04/05/2019 21:18

I'm a beard for my xhusband. I don't think he'll ever come out even though his daughters and I would still love him all the same. What can I do to help him?

Boomsk · 04/05/2019 21:20

AIBU? My family is making a holy show of me. They're in the papers every day. FFS - Rifts, ball-gowns, new babies - if they're not fighting they're shagging one another - it's getting out of hand - I think the local paper could devote an entire section to my extended family alone! They really are taking the limelight from me and I'm not sure that one likes it.
One tries to live a simple life with one's dogs and horses and such.
Is it the vigour of youth? One feels like I need to lie down after reading the paper..........