I want to go but he says no.. who ibu?

[Thunderwing]

Dh and I bought VIP tickets for a summer festival ages ago. I am pregnant again and will be 6.5months when we're meant to go.

DH now says we 'can't' go as it will be too much/too busy/too hot etc etc

I am determined to go, we have access to a vip area with flushing toilets and seating area if I get knackered and it's only one day (no overnight camping).

We paid a lot for the tickets because the headline act is our favourite band, I don't want to miss out because I'm pregnant! I feel like he's BU for not listening to me, this is our 3rd dc so I know what I can cope with at 6 months.

Should I listen to him and sell the tickets or put my foot down and insist we go anyway?

@Waveysnail I had HG between 4 and 28 weeks and was diagnosed with GD at 25 weeks.

They are testing me for GD earlier but tbh I found the diet really easy (and lost 3 stone in the process ) so I'm not worried about the prospect of GD again.

I'm 15 weeks now and the sickness is much more within 'normal' parameters thank goodness!

Is it possible you are not as easy-going as you think when 6.5 months pregnant and that DH knows it won't be a case of "it's only one day" and "I'll wear a badge" and "I'll steer clear of the mosh pit" but more a case of "I'm so tired," and "people keep barging in to me" and getting really pissed off when he wants to go in the mosh pit?

@BalloonSlayer Following an incident at another gig i think my dh has sworn off mosh pits now

I wouldn't be annoyed at him at all though, I know each pregnancy is different but I've never been irritated unnecessarily by anything while pregnant. He's just a bit of a worry wart so he will take some persuading that I'll be ok!

"What exactly makes you think it was the same event you went to?"

I'm hardly going to say in case I'm right and I out us both (not that it matters here that much, but wouldn't want to link this festival to my other posts unnecessarily) - but it did nonetheless.

I read it out to my OH and he said - ooooh, I bet she's going to X, Y, Z, so he obviously had the same feeling I did.

Anyways, I'm not over-invested here, and have no reason to be. Was just trying to help out the OP in case I'm right in my assumption and some reassurance from someone who went last year would be useful.

Thank you @OnceUponAThread - this festival is north of the border.. are you still in?

Go yourself if he doesn't want to go. Let's face it, it'll be your last chance for a long while.

They all have medical tents and St Johns ambulance. As a day festival I cannot see the issuer at 6.5 months. He seems a bit over protective. The best way to look after you is to go with you and keep you happy!

If you want to go, say your going whether he is or not, he will come even if it just to keep an eye on you

You sound like a sensible, mature adult, obviously if there do end up being some complications with the pregnancy you won't go, but there is no point selling a ticket when you could be completely fine to go!

Definitely go OP, I'd hate for you to regret it if you didnt

Well you know he is being ridiculous! Take somebody else
This! ^^ and enjoy the concert with someone more relaxed whilst he looks after the children. 😎

@Thunderwing dangnabit, after all that, I am not 😂😂. Pretend it's the same festival and show him my post?

More seriously - could you find some reviews of the VIP area from prior years that might reassure him that there's plenty of loos and seats etc?

Or could you agree that you'll go if your pregnancy remains smooth but review month by month? (Obviously you probably wouldn't want to go anyway if your pregnancy complicated, but might it reassure him a bit? As he may be worrying after last time?)

I was meant to see Green Day at 6.5m pregnant (it got cancelled 3 hours before it was due to start.) But like you I got tickets before I was pregnant and I was going no matter what.

I did 2 nights camping at a cider festival at 7m with no vip area or flushing loos. I even put up my own tent.

You'll be fine, he's being a wally.

I did a week camping at 6 months. I was sick as a dog at home anyway so I might as well have done it in the great Outdoors.

I had HG and GD in both my pregnancies bit 6-7 months was the point where I felt best and able to do most things. He’s being daft, although I do get that it comes from a nice place. Definitely go!

I'm laughing too at poster assuming same festival when there are literally hundreds of the things all over the country!

Kennehora Sorry to go off-thread, but I love your username! Shall I change mine to Pehpehpeh? [Grin]

Assuming you don't plan to stand in the middle of the mosh pit or push right to the front I can't really see his point. I worked at lots of metal gigs while pregnant with my second, I just made sure I was sensible about it (i.e no standing at the edge of the pit, not squeezing through gaps where I was likely to get bumped into etc).

Perhaps you ought to wait until near the time to make your decision? If you are only 15 weeks now there is quite a time between now and the time of the festival. It may be really hot and you would feel unwell, you may not be feeling as good in that stage of your pregnancy as you did with your other two, or you may be feeling great with just the right temperature. You don't know at this present time so there's no point in making any decision until quite close to the event as long as you've got child care planned for if you go.

Oh, and don't go off in a strop without your DH. If he is saying don't go because of concern then if you insist on going I'm sure he'd rather be with you. I can see why he is concerned though, it's his child too and he doesn't want any harm to come to either of you.

I went to a gig whilst super heavily pregnant and a member of the security team saw me and moved me into the press pit (in front of the barriers). I got to stand directly in front of my favourite singer. The vibrations from the drums made my belly feel weird though.

He’s being unreasonable. Take a mate instead.

Of course you should go! Enjoy!

Not quite the same thing, but my DH got us tickets to see Les Mis in london, by the time it rolled around i was 37 weeks pregnant, suffering with SPD and hospitalized at 35 weeks with threatened preterm labour. You bet your ass i still went, gave birth 6 days later.

If he doesn't want to go then bugger him, take someone else! I think it being your 3rd DC you know your body and how it'll cope... enjoy!

What are the chances?

I’m am equally as astounded

Go OP & have a fab time.

I was 8 months pregnant when I went to see bon Jovi, had tried to sell the tickets but no one wanted them, Had an awesome time.

OFGS - since everyone is so interested - the reason I thought it might be the same festival was because she later mentioned baby on board badges which are created in London for use on TFL transport. tfl.gov.uk/transport-accessibility/baby-on-board

There are lots of gigs in London, of course, but not many one day outdoor festivals with VIP areas around the time the OP mentioned. I happen to be travelling down to London for one similar so I thought it might be the same one. Particularly as it has an unusually "big" headliner:

Yes I turned out to be wrong, and sorry for that, but honestly I was just trying to be kind.