Grandparent capitalising dd's last name.

[mommabear007]

My dd and ds see their grandparent every fortnight in contact centre and she got dd and ds both a little bag each with clothing and a book inside. However I noticed she wrote their names inside the bags, not a big deal but she wrote dd's last name in full capitol letters and ds's last name normal with just the first letter capitalised.

For example ds's name was written as

John Smith while ds's was Wendy DARLING

Grandparent and dd share the same last name while ds has mine. AIBU to find this a little odd as I don't see why they needed to write dd's last name in all capitals?

I think it is a little weird, but I’d probably just let it go

What a weird thing to get steamed up about.

Bit odd that they did them differently. However in my occupation we always write all last names in capitals (and this is a habit I've just got used to doing at all times not just at work), so maybe it's just a habit they've picked up somewhere?

YANBU to find it odd. I think it's odd too. Not sure what you can do about it though.

She might have written them out at different times

She prefers her surname and is making a point that they share it.

Don’t rise to it, or lose the bag.

The only time I ever write my last name is if I have to fill a form in, so it would be habit to capitalise it.

Maybe she thought the other any would look better after she had written the first one.

What a really really odd thing to make a thread about.

I'm not bothered about it, I just found it a little odd, and was just curious if it seemed strange to others,

Isn't it obvious?
If they're only allowed to see the kids in a contact centre, presumably there's some sort of issue going on. You didn't say if these are your parents or your in-laws. Are they trying to establish some sort of ownership through their name? They're clearly making a point, that their name is relevant, but without the history it's hard to know exactly what.

Is is possible she is just used to writing her own surname in capitals so it just came naturally to her to do this for your DDs surname? I am sure there is nothing to be read into it.

is possible she is just used to writing her own surname in capitals so it just came naturally to her to do this for your DDs surname?

I was thinking the same.

If she's a petty/strange person then it seems obvious it's been done to make a point. Nothing you can do about it though, but I understand why you're prickled by it. She's asserting her surname. Odd woman.

I agree with TidyDancer. Odd woman. Just ignore it.

You simply cannot tell either way for sure. I’m assuming this is an educated guess due to her behaviour.

It can be cultural too, when I did IT in an international company, all the French surnames were capitalised.

You are right - I would interpret as a passive aggressive way of making a point.

I assume there is serious history with these people, given the need for contact centre involvement. Just keep an eye on what is being said to he children.

Yeah that I guess that does make sense if they're used to writing their own surname in capitals,

I think you’re reading too much into something that likely has a perfectly innocuous explanation (written at different times / written by different people / she wasn’t thinking / did the lowercase one then decided upper case would be clearer / didn’t have space for upper case on one of them / writing names on autopilot / etc) so unless she has a history of passive aggression and spite I really wouldn’t spend any time pondering it.

I can't help accidentally switching words in my address with capitals/no caps, very odd and try really hard not to but still end up doing it alot!

My mum used to write with some words capitalised. We thought it was funny. I would not read anything into this

It may have been a mistake, especially if the surname can be easily confused with a first name or a nickname.

It may be that she wrote the first book with capitals then realised it didn’t look that great and wrote the second one as you would normally do.

Or it could be she is trying to wind you up, there is no way to know but if you think that is the case get some beautiful huge stickers/ patches and allow your children to cover their surnames with them.

Having said that, I’m pretty sure they will get bored of the stuff in days and at that point you can store it out of view.

It may have just been an oversight. I often capitalise words at random. So item will be BOGGLES GOGGLES, on will be Boggles Goggles, one Boggles GOGGLES and so on.